I will be the first to say that it would be heaven-sent to find a man who knows exactly what to say, do, and how to make a woman feel, without her having to tell him. But unfortunately, I know this isn’t always isn’t the case, and actually, the verdict is still out on if this type of man even exists.
So while he may not totally get how to treat you, if a man really wants and genuinely loves you, he will do what it takes to make you happy; and that even includes learning how to treat you.
He may not open doors. While it sounds like a no-brainer, he may have never been taught to do so. He doesn’t know how to console you, but the majority of his interactions have been with his homeboys who usually don’t want to be seen crying on his shoulder. Basically, some men really just don’t know. If some knew better, they would probably do better. Then there are others who could care less. Your job is to figure out which your guy is. If he wants to do better, is it such a bad thing to work with him?
My patience is usually limited to kids and animals. Anything else usually requires a lot of work on my end, but I’m learning to have a bit more tolerance with men.
They really are different creatures. Things that seem simple to us can be complicated to them. And things we find complex are usually things they could care less about; but that’s not to say that they never care. Sometimes a man will take something more serious simply because it’s of importance to you, and honestly, that’s a testament to love. That’s more than half of the battle. This is one of those instances when ‘almost’ does count.
I’d rather have a man who doesn’t know much but is willing to learn, as opposed to one who knows some but isn’t willing to learn more; but everything has a limit. If he doesn’t have the slightest clue how to treat a woman and considers “movie” night at his house a formal date, chances are I simply don’t have the patience to start from scratch with him.
Only you can decide if you’re willing to work with a man in teaching him how to treat you, but I believe both men and women (myself included) can learn a few lessons about how to love their mate. If we had all the answers, there wouldn’t be such a high divorce rate. And contrary to popular belief, infidelity isn’t always the cause of all break-ups. Many times it’s because the two people couldn’t get on the same page and/or failed to speak each other’s languages. And the only remedy for that is to learn, right?
So is it really that bad to grow together and teach him how to love you better before you give up on him all willy nilly? I say if he’s willing, it’s certainly worth a try.
