How To Avoid Getting Into A Dead-End Relationship
You’ll know a dead-end relationship when you’re in one, but the idea is to avoid falling into that situation to begin with. In case you haven’t mastered that avoidance tip yet, here are 14 ways to avoid getting into a dead-end relationship.
Know the signs
There are some obvious signs that you’re in a dead-end relationship. It’s helpful to be aware of these signs so that you can avoid them in the future. Common signs include a lack of communication, boredom, the feeling that you’re settling, and so on. When you feel negatively about a relationship and you can’t see it going very far, clearly it’s a dead-end on the horizon.
Are you desperate? Tired of being single? Looking for some physical activity in the sheets? Before getting into a relationship, take some time to figure out yourself as well as your purpose for dating. If you’re looking for something temporary or if you’re looking to fill a void, you can all but count on the fact that you’re setting yourself up for a dead-end relationship.
Know your goals
Why are you in the dating world to begin with? What must have qualities are you looking for in a guy? What makes a man attractive to you? Without knowing your goals, wants, and needs while dating, you may inadvertently walk into a dead-end relationship, even if those aren’t your true intentions. Know what you want and know what your true dating goals really are.
Remember your time is precious
Dead-end relationships are a waste of time. One of the last things you want to do is waste your time on a man and relationship that is doomed from the beginning. To avoid these types of relationships, remember that your time is precious. You don’t have to, nor should you, want to waste time on something that isn’t going to work. Time is precious, so it’s best to spend it on people who are worth it.
Don’t hesitate to date around
No one says you can only date one guy at once, in fact you probably shouldn’t. One of the keys to avoiding a dead-end relationship is to date a lot of different people. Date guys who fit your ideal list but also date men who are a bit out of the ordinary. This will allow you to further narrow down the type of guy you want and avoid any serious relationships with people you don’t really want to be with. The dating market is always open.
Get to know him 100%
Before committing to a relationship with a guy, it’s important that you get to know him 100%. Be sure that you know him inside and out before agreeing to get into a relationship. Blindly getting into a relationship without really knowing the guy can lead to all sorts of problems and, ultimately, a dead end relationship. Dating someone without really knowing him can be problematic.
Avoid inner and outer pressure
Are your friends pressuring you to date this man? Do you get poked at for having been single for so long? Are you sick of being single? When you date someone out of desperation or because of pressure, it isn’t likely that the relationship will go well. Date a man because you want to and because you connect with him, not because you feel pressured and pushed to do so.
Be okay with saying no
If you’re really not feeling a certain man that you’ve been seeing or if he’s been sending out a lot of red flags, don’t hesitate to cut him off then. Even if he wines and dines you in hopes of becoming something more, there is nothing wrong with telling a man no. Saying no will keep you out of trouble and it’ll keep you from wasting your time and energy on a relationship that is going nowhere.
Ask yourself: are you relationship ready?
Being ready and prepared for a relationship is an important part of making a relationship work. If you’re not at the point in your life where you can juggle work, school, and a relationship all at once, you may want to reconsider. Getting into a relationship knowing that you’re already a busy woman will more than likely only lead to wasted time and a dead end road.
Keep track of red flags
All relationships are bound to have a red flag or two, but in some instances, these red flags start racking up into the double digits. Keep a mental tab of the amount of red flags that this man has set off. If he acts really sketchy and entirely uninterested, you may be destined for a dead-end relationship. Some red flags can be ignored and forgiven, others are a true sign of warning.
Learn from the past
If you had a dead-end relationship in the past, be sure to learn from it. Though history repeats itself, your dating and relationship history should not. If this new relationship feels like something bad you experienced before, don’t hesitate to break things off as quickly as possible. It’s best for the two of you.
Whether you’re unhappy, he’s unhappy, or both, the fact is that no one should settle just because. In fact, when you settle with a guy for one reason or another, it’s obvious that you aren’t in the relationship for the right reasons. Getting into a relationship because you’re lonely or because you want someone to romance you won’t allow you to fulfill your needs for very long. Settling often leads to a bad relationship.
Make sure you connect on deeper levels
Relationships take a solid foundation in order for anything to last. If you two are only dating because you find each other attractive and because action between the sheets is good, don’t expect the relationship to go far. If you want to avoid a dead-end relationship, you need to make sure that you are able to connect with your partner on a deeper level. Physical likes aren’t enough to support and bond a relationship.
Avoid unavailable people
Trying to be in a relationship with someone who is unavailable, in all senses of the word, will all but lead to a dead-end relationship. There’s no use in dating a married man as it’ll be a short fling and nothing more. There’s also nothing good to come out of dating a man who is emotionally walled and closed up. Find someone who is available emotionally, physically, and mentally.