8 Qualities Any Man You’re Even Thinking About Dating Should Have

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June 26, 2013 ‐ By
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From YourTango

When searching for that special someone in the dating world, it’s always good to have an image of what he should be like. I didn’t start out by coaching women in their love lives; I started out coaching men. It’s funny when I think about it, because what women want from a man is what I was trying to teach them all along.

In any case, there are quite a few qualities that make a man great. In reality, looking for a guy who has these qualities is not as hard as people say. But if you want to have a higher chance of finding love, identify the ones that matter to you most and stick with them. In my personal opinion, all men should have these qualities and I don’t associate with nor respect ones that don’t.

1. He’s a gentleman. A great guy needs to be polite, respectful, considerate, and attentive to a woman’s needs. This includes classic gentleman behavior such as pulling out a woman’s chair, walking on the car side of the street and taking her coat. I personally believe that if all men were gentlemen, we would live in a better world. Today, this is far from the truth, so guys who do have this quality stand out. It’s also worth noting that great guys never cross the line of being inappropriate.

2. He’s direct. Many men believe that if they constantly have a “whatever” attitude, women will suddenly fall in love with them. This is completely bogus. Would you like to spend time with a guy who constantly dodges direct questions and shrugs instead of giving you an answer? A great guy should look straight into your eyes when he’s talking to you, and to look and seem genuinely interested in what you have to say. He should have good diction, and engage in conversation with an active attitude. Any guy who isn’t direct is weak. You shouldn’t settle for weak.

3. He’s faithful. Faithfulness may be one of the most important characteristics when it comes to great men. Although you can never know for sure if this is the case, if you know he’s been a cheater, it’s best to stay away from him. On a different note, a study says that around 60 percent of men have cheated at least once in their lives. It’s true: The only thing you can do to make sure he won’t do it in the future is to keep him sexually satisfied. Men don’t cheat because they don’t feel loved anymore; they cheat because they need sex. Some men have a need to sleep with other women, while others cheat because the sex is gone in the relationship. Keeping a healthy sexual relationship is the best thing you can do to keep your man faithful.

4. He has integrity. Having integrity is another very important characteristic that makes a great man. Integrity means he will stay true to his word and to himself. Integrity and ambition are also often enough to convince a woman that a man will eventually be financially sound, even if he isn’t. Men with integrity are highly respected and in return, they give respect to others. They may require you to be worthy of their respect before they offer it to you: Since they have a high moral compass, they want others who share their values. Also, these men often show courage because they are required to stand up for their beliefs at all times.

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  • PleaseDOBetter

    Point blank, people shouldn’t expect things that they cannot themselves offer. Personally, I am not looking for an equal partner-no man will ever be my equal. I want an equitable partner-someone who is strong where I am deficient and vice versa.

  • Drew

    Daaaamn, the homies got straight to it below! No mercy. I dig it.

  • dj r

    lol….good luck finding this magical negro !

    I always find it amazing that it is alway about what that man has to offer, how about what the women bring to the table. Most women don’t have this qualities themselves, how can they demand this from a man !

    Also this is the guy women want to marry in their 30s, not the guy they want to date and have fun with when they are in their sexual prime. So, as guy we have no incentive to be this “magical negro”.

    • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

      AGREED!!! FAR TOO MANY WOMEN TALK ABOUT THEIR DEGREES, OR WHAT THEY EXPECT OR WANT FROM A MAN, AND TRUTH BE TOLD, MOST MEN ONLY CARE ABOUT A WOMAN’S PHYSICAL BEAUTY, AND THE FACT THAT SHE IS YOUNG…. THEY OFTEN BRING VERY LITTLE ELSE TO THE DANCE ASIDE FROM WHAT THEY PHYSICALLY OFFER IN TERMS OF PHYSICAL RELATIONS, AND A HANDSOME, WELL EDUCATED, SINGLE, CHILDLESS, NEVER MARRIED, HOME OWNING MAN SUCH AS MYSELF HAS FAR TOO MANY OPTIONS TO SETTLE FOR ANY AVERAGE WOMAN WHO IS PHYSICALLY UNATTRACTIVE, WEARS A WEAVE, HAS MULTIPLE CHILDREN OUT OF WEDLOCK, IS BELLIGERENT, OR HAS A CASE OF AN OVER INFLATED EGO AS A RESULT OF HER OWN PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS….IN TRUTH, THE MOST BORING AND INSECURE WOMEN ON THE PLANET YOU’LL EVER MEET ARE OFTEN THE MOST ATTRACTIVE ONES YOU’LL EVER FIND……DON’T BELIEVE ME??? OK….(FOR THE MEN) JUST ASK THE MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMAN YOU SEE TO TELL YOU 5 INTERESTING THINGS ABOUT HERSELF THE NEXT TIME YOU ARE OUT, AND SEE WHAT TYPE OS RESPONSE YOU GET FROM HER……(I DARE YOU)…..

    • GM_I

      Exactly. The writer of these characteristics fails to accept what most females in their youthful & desirable years are attracted to, want and choose to end up with (which is generally the complete opposite of her list). Most women bring nothing to the table other than an appetite, I understand some women have good jobs, careers, a home, a car and a lot of their own things. The only problem is, most of them have no desire to utilize it to the opposite gender, such as men with those things do for women. So, generally, all the things women have going for themselves is irrelevant and pointless becuz its not beneficial to us men. Most women with money still aren’t paying HALF OF EVERYTHING, most just pay every now and then to a minimal degree the man does. If they’re not doing that, she is being mom #2 and taking care of a bum financially, thinking it will increase the chances of that man staying with her, if he is dependent on her for money, food & shelter.

      • GirlSixx

        “Now, she needs a sucker who she can attach herself to ”

        This made me LAUGH OUT LOUDDD.. Literally!!!!

      • Herm Cain

        Bro what you said was so real you will not get a response we know these women dont deal in logic just emotion so if it doesn’t suit them its not reality

  • Ann

    Are there any men out there that fits all five catagories?

    • roo08

      yep…or there are men out there trying to develop these characteristics. Anyone looking for a guy with these qualities should at least have some of the same qualities or be working towards them…

    • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

      I HAPPEN TO FIT MORE THAN 5 OF THOSE CATEGORIES…..ACTUALLY CLOSER TO 7, BECAUSE THE ONLY ONE I DON’T NECESSARILY FIT IS BEING MATURE AT ALL TIMES, BECAUSE I LIKE TO HAVE FUN, AND I CAN’T BE WITH A WOMAN THAT TAKES HERSELF TOO SERIOUSLY……

  • Chanda

    That’s a sweet list and makes sense. Won’t do a bit of good to hood rats and deadbeats though.

    • GM_I

      Or the average American female younger than 29 or 30yrs old.