It’s Not Easy Being “The Man!” Questlove Talks About How His Public Life Has Affected His Personal Life & Relationships
It is not easy being one of the most sought after men in the music business.
Questlove has been the drummer and musical director for The Roots for over 20 years, since he and band mate, Black Thought, first created the group. In the years since, his life has become a sort of whirlwind. The Roots are the house band for Late Night With Jimmy Fallon and Quest also djs private and public events almost every night of the week, works with other artists on their albums and recently opened a chicken spot called Hybird in New York City.
But it hasn’t come without a price.
In a recent interview with The Village Voice, the music aficionado discusses how his life as “Quest” has taken a toll on his private life as Ahmir Thompson (his real name):
“You know, after work, everyone hangs and they go to a bar and stuff?” says Thompson, sounding a bit like an anthropologist who has just pinpointed a key habit of a strange tribe. “I don’t socialize that way. I don’t have a posse. I don’t have friends. I got the people I work with. I got a mom and a sister.”
He takes it a step further and says that his most consistent relationship has actually been with Black Thought (although as many fans know, the two often go through their “tough” moments).
The article states that The Roots are contractually obligated to work on Late Night 200 days out of the year but Quest, in the past, has often said between his other gigs, he works 364 days a year. So while the show gives the other members of The Roots time to connect back with their families, clearly Quest doesn’t allow time to nurture romantic or platonic relationships.
Quest says that music is spiritual for him and not something to turn on when he wants to feel “street or cool.” In understanding that, maybe it gives a better sense of why he’s always working: it seems he “frees” himself when dealing with anything related to music.
But you have to wonder if this life will allow him time to relax and slow down, if he even wants that for himself.
Are you a fan of Questlove? Do you have a passion as deep as his that often closes you off from more personal relationships?