‘Expecting Too Much Can Really Be A Downfall:’ Anthony Hamilton And His Wife Talk Making Their Marriage Work
Award-winning singer-songwriter and producer Anthony Hamilton and his wife Tarsha are the kind of couple you love to root for. They’re cut from the same cloth — both soul singers who belt out each note from the heart and cherish family first — and they’ve succeeded at life’s biggest balancing act: a happy, harmonious marriage.
The two met when she auditioned to sing background for him. She eventually got the gig — and his heart. Two years later, he proposed at her home church in Cleveland after getting permission from her siblings and pastor. (Swoon!) They’ll celebrate eight years of marriage this August, and today they are parents to two-year-old twin boys and an 11-month-old baby boy — making Hamilton the proud papa of six sons in total. With such passion for fatherhood and marriage, the Hamiltons were the perfect choice for inclusion in best-selling author Gil Robertson’s new anthology Where Did Our Love Go: Love and Relationships in the African American Community. In the book, they contribute their thoughts on the beauty of commitment and marriage — in her essay she shares her experiences as a new wife and mother, and in his he discusses the confidence and willingness it takes to truly make marriage work.
After reading them, we just had to check in with the happy couple for more inspiring words of wisdom. We caught the Mrs. at home in North Carolina while Hamilton phoned in from Alabama, where he has been recording a Christmas album.
ESSENCE.COM: You both talk alot about spirituality being the foundation in your marriage. How does it work for you?
ANTHONY HAMILTON: It’s a foundation for both of us to go to when we need that extra help or extra influence. There are always challenges and work to be done, even with that foundation but spirituality is a centerpiece for us. It’s a good centerpiece for our identity as husband and wife.
TARSHA MCMILLAN: When you stay connected to the spiritual side of things, it definitely helps to keep the relationship grounded. Our schedules conflict a lot so we don’t get to attend church together. That’s why it’s so important to us to have that relationship and that connection even outside of the church.
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