Taboo Relationships You’ll Probably Engage In Eventually
You don’t have a dirty mind, or a weak constitution, or loose morals: you simply find the forbidden so tempting, just like the rest of us. And if you’re on the single scene long enough, you’re bound to engage in at least a few of these forbidden types of love.
It could be as close as a stepsibling, or a cousin by marriage, or an awkwardly young step-uncle. But, sharing so many similar experiences as pseudo-family does, you can’t help but feel a special bond with a certain attractive non-blood relative at some point.
CEO’s aren’t just antique men, nearly on their deathbed, smoking cigars with their golf buddies these days. Young entrepreneurs and fresh-out-of-college start-up founders are everywhere now. You may find your “authority figure” at your new job likes Smirnoff Ice, American Apparel deep v’s and a good weekend in Vegas just like you do. Oh yeah, and he’s cute.
Similar to family, co-workers endure much of the same stress, share many similar experiences and overall have a similar lifestyle. This inevitably forms a special bond that can feel like sexual or romantic attraction.
Simply being exposed to someone repeatedly can play a trick on your mind, making you feel attracted to that person. And the fact that your neighbor is just down the hall or street, so accessible when you’re feeling, um, playful, can make this type of taboo love become hot and heavy fast. But your feelings can be confusing: is it proximity or compatibility that’s keeping things together?
A taken man
You’ll tell yourself you’re not doing anything wrong because you’re not the one sending him flirty texts, and you haven’t professed any attraction to him, and you certainly haven’t made any physical contact. But, if a taken man is making passes at you and you’re not actively stifling them, you are engaging in some sort of emotional affair.
Much older/much younger man
All your friends see it: you’re clearly just a plaything to the gray-haired, yacht-owning fox who has been taking you away for luxurious weekends. Or, the barely-out-of-college, hard-bodied cutie you’re partying with is just a toy to you! But, it’s so fun, you’ll lie to yourself and say it’s love for a little while.
Either his family would disown him should he marry a woman outside their religion, or keeping up the religious tradition via marriage/the bloodstream is genuinely important to him—more important than being with “the one.” Either way, you’ll engage in a hot fling with a guy who things really can’t go anywhere serious with due to his religious background.
It happens all the time at universities: college professors tend to be a little more liberal by nature than professionals in other lines of work. Add to that the allure of someone you share intellectual conversations with, and who looks to you as a mentor, and teachers can’t help but be turned on by a student at some time. And what student doesn’t want to be the one chosen by the teacher?
A lawyer is almost like a therapist—out of necessity, you tell him every last detail of your life. You’ll instantly feel bonded to him for this reason, and, should he like the details of your life, he may develop feelings for you. Get a new lawyer, and get it on.
A friend’s ex
If your friend dated a guy for a long time, you were inevitably around him often and the two of you got to know each other. Add to that that, you and your particular friend are friends because you have similar values, likes and dislikes. It’s normal you’d be attracted to the same man.
An ex’s friend
Just reverse the last scenario on this list, and you have the same dynamics. You can bet one of your ex’s buddies was eyeing you the entire relationship, thinking of all the ways he’d treat you better. And, face it, men are a little more shameless when it comes to going after women. They’ll go after it if they think they have the slightest chance—even if it could ruin a friendship.
The renowned jerk
Everyone knows he is a player/doesn’t respect women/thinks he is God’s gift to the earth etc. Nobody likes him. But you—well, you yearn for him. And there’s something hot about dating the bad boy.
Your friends tell you it won’t last, that you have nothing in common, that a relationship can’t subsist on sex alone, but you can’t help it: the sex is so good, it makes up for the fact you have nothing to talk about leading up to it, or after it. You’ll ride this one out (literally) as long as you can.
Your friend’s brother
Like the friend’s ex, you’re around the brother a lot. Odds are, you’ve been privy to some of his most important experiences/valuable moments/intimate secrets just by proximity, and he to you. And when you get to know someone that well, it’s hard not to fall in love at least a little.