From YourTango
Most women are very appreciative in our hearts. We feel flattered when a man compliments us or shows interest. If the attention and praise is coming from an attractive man, some of us get so excited and caught off guard that we freeze up with nerves and/or question his sincerity. For this reason, most women often forget to express appreciation. We forget to say “thank you.” We don’t take that extra moment when out with a man on a date to look him in the eye, soften our voice and tell him that he’s touched our heart.
A lot of time we even deflect compliments and acts of kindness and honor. A man will say “You look beautiful tonight” and we rush to compliment him back: “So do you!” Even though men enjoy flattery they want to feel that their compliments have landed with us and positively affect us. Most men don’t know that a woman who can’t say “thank you” is really just uncomfortable basking in male attention. Usually a man will take a deflected compliment personally, feeling he doesn’t have the power to impress his date with words.
Dating is the opposite of a job interview or a chit-chat with friends. A date is your time to be vulnerable, playful and gentle. Think about the men who turn you on—they are the ones that can slow down and connect with you in a sensual and melodic way that makes you feel like the only woman in the room. It’s time to make him feel like the only man in your universe– even if you are juggling three other guys on the side.
What Attracts A Man To A Woman: Softness
It doesn’t matter how “tough girl” you are or how rowdy and loud your laugh– softness is about tenderness and vulnerability and even the loudest gals can be soft in all the right ways!
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