When Women Text… The Ways We Drive Ourselves Crazy Over SMS
Most of us are women here so I don’t have to tell you that when it comes to communication, we’re different than the men folk. We get very particular when it comes to relaying a message. You would think in this digital age, where there are various vehicles to reach out to someone, that communication would be easier. But that’s not the case. And we’ve seen that time and time again when we’re texting. After conducting a small study, we found that we women can be a bit butt when it comes to sending and receiving text messages just the way we like them. In case you don’t know what I mean, find yourself on this list.
We once had a woman write into our relationship columnist Damon Young complaining that a man she was dating, took two hours to respond to a very important text message. She texted him again wondering why he hadn’t responded. And he said that she was annoying him. Damon said that he agreed with her man that she was annoying. Oh. Well that was news to me. Rationally, I know that maybe two hours isn’t that bad and I might not say I was waiting with baited breath; but in my emotional mind, I’m thinking “he doesn’t care!” Two hours is a helluva long time for an important text. Fellas, if you’re trying to woo a woman, know that response time is important to us, even if we don’t say it.
Trying Not To Sound Mean
Women are so awesome, we’re always worrying and wondering if our words and actions are going to offend or hurt someone’s feelings. So it’s not unusual for us to type a message and promptly erase it, realizing that without voice inflection and facial expressions that message might read rude. We doubt men put that much effort into crafting their messages.
If you’ve seen Mean Girls, you’ve heard of word vomit. Well the same exists on SMS. When I’m typing I know I’m probably doing too much, over-explaining and wasting characters but I can’t stop. I want the recipient to know what I mean.
I try to be quick with my texts so an error or two might slip by. I wish I could be one of those people who ignore it, knowing my friends and associates understand my intelligence; but I can’t. Instead I’ll send however many texts it takes to correct the errors, hoping to let my friends and loved ones know that I did indeed go to college.
I’m a huge fan of smileys, but when you’re communicating with a man you’re not interested in, a smiley might provide some type of false hope. One day, I watched one of my co workers labor for 10 minutes about how the man she was texting might have incorrectly interpreted her smiley with the tongue out. Ehh there are several ways one could read into that, best to just leave those out.
When to use “LoL”
Am I the only one who’s noticed that “lol” is the new punctuation? I still take it relatively seriously. Now, I don’t mean that I literally laugh out loud when I type it; but if something barely elicited a smile, then I don’t force the lols. But if I knew the person I was texting was trying really hard to be funny, it doesn’t hurt me to to throw it out there.
Freaking out about the lack of response
Just like we don’t want people taking too long to respond to us, we don’t want to be the one causing someone else anxiety. Usually, if it’s someone I care about, I try to get back immediately or at least let them know I’ll be in touch eventually. It’s only right.
Verbal Convos through text
This is not something I do, having convos you need to have verbally via text. But when others send me long drawn out messages that need to spoken…I’m going to have to call you for clarification.
The almighty ellipsis
When I just might have more to say but don’t necessarily know how to put it, I lean on the ellipsis. Generally, I use it when I want them to know that they should further inquire. But people never do.