Batter Up: Signs Your Man Might Be Swinging For the Other Team

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May 18, 2013 ‐ By Brooke Dean

 

If you’re a fan of many reality shows, lately it seems that at least ONE man from a series or two has been accused of being on the DL. If you watch The Real Housewives of Atlanta, that accusation was hurled at Walter. If you watch Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta, K. Michelle has accused both Kurt and Mimi’s new man of being gay. Regardless of society’s acceptance of homosexuality, it seems accusing a woman’s man of being gay is an outright sign of disrespect. However, it’s an even bigger blow if the accusation turns out to be true. We’ve seen it with Terry McMillan and Dina McGreevey, both of whose ex-husbands later revealed that they were, indeed, gay.

I often wondered how a woman could not know that her man is gay. While we stereotypically view gay men as flamboyant, cross dressing wannabe females, not all gay men display what are typically considered to be “gay tendencies.” Some gay men, like recently out-of-the-closet NBA player Jason Collins, are your average, athletic, masculine men who date women. Even Jason Collins’ ex said she had no idea that he was gay. So what is a woman with broken “gaydar” to do? There is no sure-fire way to tell if your man might secretly be into men, but here are a few clues that you might want to look out for if you have your suspicions.

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  • Ladybug94

    There are men with effeminate tendencies who are not gay.

  • d1ckdame

    This was a “article” to get clicks. We all were trolled by bossip and madamnoknowledge again!

    • james_from_cambridge

      Ur right…they get us mad and we can’t help but respond. They know what they’re doing, evil bastards.

  • d1ckdame

    Sooo, this was sightly ignorant and full of backhanded compliments. Number 4 was hella true tho.

    Hey ladies, how about this one; if you think he may be gay, he probably is! If you think he is cheating he probably is. Gaydar isn’t needed for much of the things listed. If he is not into you anymore then he is just not into you. Does it matter why?

    • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

      Exactly! So how does a man know if his woman is on the dl? Bc she’s a tomboy who never wears a dress, don’t show emotion, has a short hair cut, and don’t watch love n hip hop? This is crazy and disrespectful. Next they’ll be a how to know if you’re ghetto vs hillbilly stereotype list. Stop with the stereotypes.

  • ChiTown Princess

    #5, that is the late Sahara Davenport from RuPaul’s Drag Race, JSYK.

  • TRUTH IS

    That dude on page 6 is too cute….gay am sure!!

  • Muddy_Roots

    Blossip you do have gay readers, or in my case had. I could only get through a few points of this ignorant post. This is a INSULT to all gay men and borderline homophobic! Any gays on your staff should be ashamed. FYI, how can you tell if your man has ANYTHING to hide? KNOW YOUR DUDE!! Duces d*cks

    • d1ckdame

      Same thought! This is why progression is so slow and takes forever. People spew out old wives tales about things they should have better knowledge and understanding about.

    • james_from_cambridge

      To be fair, Bossip is so much worse than MadamNoire. Still, because they’re not as dumb as Bossip, you expect more from them here…

  • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

    This list is shameful and places a ridiculous stereotype on black men not to mention it’s outdated. And since when did being emotional make a man on the dl? So many women would kill for a man that showed more of an emotional side instead of their shut down side. I need a more demanding job so that boredom would stop causing me to click in this ish! Either that or they need to unblock all the other sites smh when you have to explain with disclaimers your whole list that means even you knew this list was ridiculous.

  • james_from_cambridge

    Considering the discrimination we’ve had to face in this country for hundreds of years, it’s sad when we turn around and do the same to other minority groups with ignorance like this story, not to mention the comments I know are gonna come from some readers. This story would have been dated twenty years ago…I’d say y’all should be ashamed but anyone who would stoop to writing and publishing dated garbage like this has no shame! If y’all are that desperate for stories, how about your 100th story on “celebs who dare to hate Obama!”

    • moni

      You should be on the list. Men have no business on women gossip site.

      • james_from_cambridge

        I’m openly gay you sad, dumb little twit. I got nothing to hide. Sorry to disappoint your uneducated behind.

        • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

          Please don’t let the ignorance on this site get u worked up. Don’t entertain ignorance.

          • james_from_cambridge

            You’re right. No need to stoop to their level.

      • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

        Their actually are a lot of men that get on blogs. Just like their are a lot of “straight” men that watch soaps and reality tv and all kinds of things you may deem “gay”. You sound uneducated and ignorant and probably fking a man on the DL. MN should be ashamed at what they started. This is 2013 who don’t know someone that’s gay please don’t tell me this subject is taboo still. Smh

    • SMHgurl24

      Preach boo preach!! If you look hard there are some VERY well written articles on here bt you gotta look

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  • GeekMommaRants

    1991 called they want their stereotypes back. How many women have dated RuPaul? These would be the women who have boyfriends like this.

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  • YoManwantsit

    Umm of course a N!gguh who watches Gay P0rn Likes D!CK NO SH!T WHO WOULD HAVE THUNK IT -______-

    • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

      Thunk it! I love it

  • Candacey Doris

    None of these things make sense. Not all gay men are stereotypical feminine types. What of those? And I’m very sure that gay men do not secretly want to be women! Why did you write such a terrible list (i refuse to call it an article)? Way to perpetuate stereotypes.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Latrece-Hoskins/100002627012546 Latrece Hoskins

      some gay (and straight) men do want to be/become women because that is the gender that they identify with. they’re labeled as transwomen.

      • Candacey Doris

        But they aren’t gay men if they are wanting to be women they are transsexual.

        • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

          Wait aren’t transsexuals gay? I’m getting confused…….

          • Candacey Doris

            No. Transexuals are not gay.

            • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

              Be back going to Google!

            • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

              Yeah just left Google my bestie. I feel so ignorant. All this time I really didn’t know they technical definition. I still don’t totally get it but i can admit my ignorance on the subject. Sorry if i offended anyone with my previous comment.

              • Candacey Doris

                It’s alright. The difference between ignorance and stupidity is a willingness to learn. You learned.

  • Hopscotch776

    Silly article written like it in the 90’s, mad at myself for clicking through it thinking it was going to get better.

  • m

    wow. I’m not a writer, but I could have surfed the net for “down low” for 2 seconds and written this article. how do I get hired onto this website? talent obviously isn’t a prerequisite. I open these off the wall topics for laughs, but this was just pitiful. kind of like you put out lists of top this or biggest that, then you just put up pics and don’t even bother to write comments. sloppy lazy journalism.

    • mac

      lol I figured as much. I wasn’t gonna click, but curiosity got the best of me. Luckily I scrolled down here first to see if it was worth reading. No time lost.

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