Terms And Phrases You Should Know If You’re Single
As if it isn’t hard enough to familiarize yourself with workplace, everyday terminology, and text speak, singles are constantly coming up with new ways to describe their sex life, their singledom status, and their relationship with another single. If you’re newly single again, you’ll need to know these terms to keep up!
This is the new way of saying you are casually dating someone, but are still curious about meeting other people and do not consider yourself attached. Hanging out also refers to the type of time you spend together, which usually consists of no more than 50% proper dates, and the rest just meeting up at bars, in groups, at one another’s places etc.
Ex with benefits
You know what a friend with benefits is: same thing except you’re probably not doing too much of the hanging out/friendly stuff before because, well, you don’t enjoy one another’s company all that much. But, your familiarity with one another makes the sex great.
This term isn’t widely used, but should be as it was coined by the beloved show Seinfeld. It means a man with incredible animal magnetism with women but who doesn’t subscribe to courting traditions. In other words, he’ll drive you crazy, he’ll make you feel like a woman, but he won’t treat you like a lady.
The official term for a summer fling—it kicks off in May, and even seems fun when fall activities kick in like pumpkin picking and ice skating, but doesn’t stand the realities of holiday and family stress in December, or the doom of “real life” in January.
A relationship in which one person is doing all the work to keep a spark, connection or even foundation alive—i.e. giving all the affection, making all the plans, initiating all communication.
Someone who is attracted to individuals rather than genders and/or sexualities.
A relationship in which the two people involved have not let their involvement be known to outsiders and/or have not discussed what exactly they are. There is regular sex happening but there are no labels or boundaries established.
The fear of jealousy, and a smart fear to have—controlling men are impossible!
Law of relativity
This law essentially states that how attractive you perceive one person to be is directly in proportion to how unattractive your date or mate is.
This is the popular abbreviation for “No Strings Attached,” which simply means you get sex when you want it so long as I get sex when I want it, and that’s the extent of this relationship.
This can either refer to cuffing season which usually begins right around the time May-December romances end, or the act of a man trying to make it known to everyone you’re around that you’re his. During cuffing season, a man will snatch you up to make sure he has company throughout the cold, lonely winter months. But at any given time a man can cuff you, i.e. become practically glued at the hip to you, for instance at the club — to mark his territory and let it be known to other potential suitors you’re off limits (in his eyes).
When men use this phrase, it typically means they are trying to have sex with the person they are “talking to.” Either that or they’re “talking to” someone who they’re keeping on the backburner, should their main interest fall through.
This term refers to someone who will wrap you up in what feels like a serious relationship, while they are still actively dating other people in secret.
Edgeplay refers to any dangerous and/or harmful sexual activities. People often misuse the term though, simply to mean engaging in kinky or rough sex.