Ways You’re Turning Him Off Without Realizing It

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May 10, 2013 ‐ By Julia Austin
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Have you been getting the, “Not tonight” line a lot lately? We won’t sugarcoat it: it is weird for a physically healthy male to be turning down easy, available sex. And you might be causing his lack of libido, without knowing it. Here’s How:

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  • Chicken&WafflesERGABAHEIG

    Drew, stop trying to act like you know everything in a relationship. Seriously, a man that likes to stray is calling themselves an expert, please. If your that type of man that does not want to be in a strong and committed relationship with a woman, then go to your strip clubs and wank all you want in addition to hiring some prostitutes as well. If your that type, then every woman should be afraid of you. Go for the easy chicks but your missing out man

  • Lix Velvet

    This list doesn’t really give much insight into men and women improving their communication. Basically it’s similar to Cosmo where it’s all about the woman pandering to the “fragile” man to make him happy – this is old fashioned and unhelpful. Also I disagree strongly with the one about “giving them more affection” – most straight men hate affection and get annoyed if you try to give or get it……

  • MsQTpie24

    This has to the the STUPIDEST most CONTRADICTORY article I’ve ever read on this site.

  • Meg

    Drew it sounds like you had a bitter situation with your gal. There are a number of reasons a guy may not want to have sex. Maybe switching things up or a little role playing would help titilate things in a relationship where boredom may be the strife. But that is not always the answer. Being supportive of each other and caring about each others true desires is the key to the locked box/trunk.

  • Sam

    “Maybe he was happy in that position”? I’m pretty sure it’s an even bigger turn off when the person isn’t enjoying themselves during sex because they are too afraid to communicate. This whole article was a little sexist if you ask me. It’s a HUGE turn off when a woman is too passive and a man whose emasculated from a woman taking control in the bedroom doesn’t sound like much of a man to me. Also “Let him be a provider” is buying in to ridiculous gender roles. I feel like that quote came from the 1960s. “Ladies, make sure you stay fit and trim for your man, let him take control in the bedroom, and have dinner waiting when he returns from work.” So this article is a little out of date…

  • June

    It’s strange that this article declares that we should not focus on our flaws/have confidence in our bodies yet “not let ourselves go.” If you like the way your body looks but your man doesn’t, break the hell up with him. There are plenty of real men out there who would never tell you that you let yourself go. I also don’t like that it clearly implies that it’s fine for the man to have a “beer belly” as long as we don’t acknowledge it too much.

    • MsS

      You must be fat. Her point was to keep yourself as you were when u met. Stands to reason if you were a size 10 when you met and now are a 18 maybe he likes smaller chicks. Same goes for dropping weight. Also some women loose confidence when they gain weight. That is a turn off. Loosing the weight aka getting yourself together builds YOUR confidence and turns him on

    • Sam

      Exactly.

  • Brianna

    All of these honestly are stupid. I’m not sure what type of females you hangout with, or how many of these you learned from experience. If a guy isn’t having sex with you it’s coming from somewhere else, he honestly is tired, or you’re no fun in bed. Take on a new role, let him nap, or find someone with a better sex drive.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/andre.monteiro.75685 André Monteiro

    Since when is having small breasts a flaw? Or why would you need to have a tinny little Barbie nose to be beautiful?? Advice #3 is terrible. You want people to be confident, but then call small boobs, a big nose flaws! Thanks a lot… NOT!

    • Julie

      I think the point was girls who are constantly beating themselves up for no reason… the whole point was that you should have confidence… even hanging around that type as friends can get annoying… the ‘o I’m going to keep saying I’m fat just to hear someone tell me Im not’ type… the article was just giving examples of what people see as flaws themselves and how their partner would begin to agree with them… I bet if I started complaining about how big my nose is all the time my bf would probably go from thinking its cute to thinking its a flaw

  • Drew

    I’ll give you “You’ve Let Yourself Go,” but not a single additional reason on that list would really make a man not want to have s3x. The real reason is pretty simple: After a while, having s3x with the same woman is just not very exciting.

    I once had a conversation with an older woman, and she asked what it was about men that made them stray. She brought up how fly Beyoncé is, and how it made no sense for anyone to cheat on her. I told her that Beyoncé was/is, indeed, a bad chick, but there’s only 1 thing she can’t do, or be: ANOTHER WOMAN. Sorry…

    • http://twitter.com/iSEAN87 BOBBY BLAKE

      drew thats why you are std infected

      • Drew

        Bobby, stop trying to win up-votes from chicks; it’s annoying and juvenile. Women can see your corny a$$ coming a mile away — even on the internet. “Surprise.”

    • IMJSANYUmad

      now you are on to something

    • Harmone

      Drew, it sounds like you’ve YET to find someone that you truly feel a connection to, respect and love. The real reasons could be a combination of things (not listed in this RIDICULOUS and biased article), but not being another woman would not be one of them in a SERIOUS and HEALTHY relationship. At the end of the day, a guy who strays has no respect for his relationship nor HIMSELF. When one is truly with the right person, no amount of DIFFERENT pu$$y is worth straying for! There are diseases, unplanned pregnancy, and emotional obstacles that are IRREVERSIBLE. But only a mature MAN would understand that . . . . And MATURE MEN DO EXIST. . .

      • Drew

        Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

        Jesse Jackson.

        Bill Cosby.

        John F. Kennedy.

        Bill Clinton.

        David Letterman.

        Brett Farve.

        Now, this is merely off the top of my head, but these are all men who’ve strayed. I can see the relationship part, but are you REALLY telling me that they had no respect for themselves???

        Point: Drew