Ask A Very Smart Brotha: He’s Done WIth HIs Fiancee Should I Give Him A Chance?

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May 8, 2013 ‐ By

champ213
Teshia:
What do you do if you really like someone and they claim to like you but they stood you up twice..?

DY: Get the hint, and be on to the next one.

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  • SheBe

    I cant read his segment anymore. He even comes across as bored and tired of answering stupid questions. Where do these women come from? How old are they? I refuse to believe that a grown woman needs to ask someone these things. SMH @ how naive they are.

  • take responsibility for YOU

    great advice to the question in number 12…dude is dating you while he has a fiance, that aint good and that is black or white…he still has her p()ssy on his breath so i agree to just chill. you are probably still in the mindset you like him when in actuality you may not even like him romantically, just as a friend.

    I honestly would not advise you to date him. Guys who dated you but never slept with you always have that goal to “hit” because they always planned to. please dont let him succeed.

    i can see a guy from college that was interested in me…and its like it never goes away. guess you can think…BEST MAN WITH NIA LONG’S SITUATION

  • take responsibility for YOU

    This guy has some good advice its just easier said than done. A relationship is like a crutch, you have a best friend someone that has to do stuff with you and someone to sleep with. You lose them, you lose all that. But yea, it is time for me to move on from my current situation..HE WILL NOT CHANGE. And I just couldn’t seem to accept that until something tragic happened that put things in perspective.

    Just had this conversation yesterday. Women are generally more giving than men so will try to stick it out…but my advice to anyone younger than me is it is not worth it and times heals all.

    For the women wondering if he is in to you, don’t feel bad, I have wondered this also. But if you have to wonder then move on to focusing on yourself or the next guy. Because some guys like to create a sense of confusion of they like you but they are giving you the mixed signals. That is on purpose so you stay confused and stick around. Better to be confused and not around them if you ask me.

    Last thing, let the man lead or your relationship or dating will follow the same pattern of you leading everything and basically being the man, and ladies, that ain’t fun. You don’t want to be in a one sided relationship.

    • Nope

      “Women are generally more giving than men”

      “Because some guys like to create a sense of confusion of they like you but they are giving you the mixed signals.”

      These are both nice spisn but the reality is that a man doesn’t owe the average woman anything besides his mother, wife, and daughter. In a lot of cases we don’t deal because WE DON’T HAVE TO.

      • Nope

        spins

        • take responsibility for YOU

          what i said are not spins, they are truths

          women are more giving generally and some guys do like to create a sense of confusion

          no one owes anyone anything. but if you recognize an issue with your own people and are so vocal about it as a black man then i would think that you would want to help to improve black peoples situation as a whole.

          perhaps this is not the case?

          “These are both nice spisn but the reality is that a man doesn’t owe the
          average woman anything besides his mother, wife, and daughter. In a lot
          of cases we don’t deal because WE DON’T HAVE TO.”

          we dont help because we dont have to…really? no one has to help anyone yet people help others everyday because THEY CAN. and you dont lose anything by helping another along their path

          if you have something to offer, it would also serve you to offer it to those that are ready to receive it. it doesnt mean you have to stick around for the outcome and be emotionally involved in the whole situation

          hope you change your outlook eventually

  • Nope

    The questions in this series, even more than the other articles and responses on MN, always make it more clear to me how delusional a lot (most) of women really are.

    • take responsiblity for YOU

      What are you doing to help?

      Sounds like you might know some people that need some…