I Ain’t Saying He’s a Gold Digger, But (8 Signs He Wants You for Your Money)

November 22, 2010 ‐ By Anthony Jerrod


Would you consider your man to be dedicated, committed and trustworthy?  Is it possible that your man could only be with you for financial reasons- simply, is he a gold digger?  A few years ago, Kanye and Jamie Foxx had avid music listeners bobbing their heads to their hit song, “Gold Digger.”  Obviously, Mr. West narrated his lyrics from a male perspective- that is, men having to deal with gold digging women.  In our current time and space, the narrative of women in relationships with gold digging men is oftentimes forgotten.  Some individauls would likely state that women with any measure of intellect should know that a man is only with them for their money.  And, I would wholeheartedly agree with this statement- exclusive of gender.  But, let’s be real.  Gold digging activities occur everyday.  In an effort to feel wanted or loved, certain women allow these types of men to take advantage of them.

The following list is not all-inclusive but does represent some of the tangible indications that your man may be a gold digger who is more interested in your money than you:

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  • anonymous millionaire

    *Oh, and yes…two of the three are already with other women whose families have even more money than mine. One just landed one with a rockstar lifestyle.

  • anonymous millionaire

    Sorry for the typos in my last post. Meant *commensurate and also *they will do little to nothing wrong until they have you under contract. BEST WAY TO AVOID A GOLD DIGGER: Don’t date someone with considerably less money than you. There is little way to tell even with two years of dating, that someone is capable of quitting their college degree level job until after you are married.

  • anonymous millionaire

    This article is just clickbait. As someone who has been taken by three gold digging men, they actually lavish you with attention, affection, and even gifts and favors until after you are married. They are not stupid. They are sneaky and clever. They will rip your heart out of your body and stomp all over it. All three of my gold digging exes quit their jobs relatively soon after the wedding, never found long term, commesurate to their experience employment after the wedding, and lived off me until the day I filed for divorce. One even left me on the wedding night to do drugs w/ his friends. One of his friends felt so bad for me he sat with me in the honeymoon sweet eating strawberries and drinking champagne while I sobbed and asked why my brand new husband didn’t love me. This article didn’t even touch on what a real gold digging man is like. They are not this obvious. They are con artists. And don’t kid yourself, it is an artform. They will do little to nothing before they have you under contract. Best way to avoid it is to actually marry someone with as much or more than you have.

  • Liz Bet

    Reason 10: He insists on a joint bank account…that he controls. Mm hmm.

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  • Fox

    This article is a little blatant…I mean seriously, I was looking for the subtle things men do-but then again, I don't think women need an article to tell them their man is a gold-digger.

    @Ruby-Swizz Beats has very long money…many of the hip-hop songs we have "jammed" to over 10+ years are from his producing-he takes more of the money than the artist. (although you may have a point since he's going to be paying LOTS of child support from 2 baby mommas) o_O

  • Ruby

    Are you listening Pant-tas-sia and Alezza Keys!

  • Ruby

    You should have put Alicia Keys and Fantasia's picture up there! Both will be taken for their money by the men they currently love. Trust!

  • Lisa

    This is becoming a major problem. There are too many men out here wanting a woman to take of them nowadays. It's a MAJOR turnoff. I have no respect for men like this who are content with letting a woman buy him things and take care of him like he's entitled or a kid.

  • Kayleezy

    Quicken? Really?

  • Nene

    I don't get into these sort of problems because I don't buy guys gifts unless we are deeply involved and even then, I don't shower them and I keep it simple. Women mess themselves up when they try to "buy love".

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  • April

    Loved it! Men need to stop expecting women to take care of them. WTH???