Picture Perfect: Why Is It A Problem If Beyonce Wants To Control Her Image?

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April 26, 2013 ‐ By
Beyonce Can I Live

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Over the past few years, we have been allowed to enter the Queen Bey’s Hive. Through Beyoncé’s social media accounts, we are able to scroll through her most priceless moments with family, stunning performances, and selfies. Like all of us, Beyoncé controls how she wants to appear to her audience. Therefore, when Beyoncé banned independent photographers from her Mrs. Carter tour, I didn’t understand why people began to ask: “Is Beyoncé not secure in the skin she’s in?”  When what we should be asking ourselves is: As consumers (and human beings), do we allow others the same non-judgmental agency when controlling their Internet personas?

From Clutch Magazine:

“Beyoncé may run the world, but the diva is going to extremes to have some serious control over her internet personification. The decision was indubitably prompted by this year’s Super Bowl fiasco, after Buzzfeed published unflattering photos that propelled Beyoncé’s publicist to issue an emailed request for removal. Instead of taking the pictures down or replacing them, the site reposted the images and the email with the headline: “The ‘Unflattering’ Photos Beyoncé’s Publicist Doesn’t Want You to See.” Visitors of Buzzfeed are familiar with the comedic and playful tone to the popular site, but Bey wasn’t laughing.”

Yes, people are interested in a Beyoncé who does not “wall” herself in, at her convenience. We want to see those stank-faces while she is dancing so we can feel the passion, blood, sweat, and tears of every practice session that make her concerts so noteworthy. But if she is not comfortable with sharing a less than flattering picture of herself, can we find it in ourselves to let her live? If a friend uploads an undesirable photo of you on a social network, you would want it to be removed. “Take away the power to un-tag and how many women would be orchestrating an online petition to permanently ban Facebook from ever seeing the light of day?” When people become celebrities, do we set and require new societal expectations? Our implications show we demand total transparency from celebrities even if it is embarrassing because we are far removed from the actual life they live.

Beyoncé’s appearance of flawlessness has helped her brand come off as all-s*xy and all-sassy all the time, consistent, and never messy. With Beyoncé we know what we are paying for – her talents and not antics. Though her brand is constantly evolving, we must also remember her rise to fame did not occur during the social media age.  “The Beyoncé we’ve come to know has constructed an entire empire based off of seeming perfection and trying to keep the focus on her music, her acting endeavors, her business ventures. She receives million dollar endorsements solely from her pristine beauty and body. I’m not sure how it feels to be labeled one of the most beautiful women in the world, but in addition to her already gargantuan self-standards, one can only imagine the pressure she’s put under. And her rule number one is to never let them catch you slipping. And we can all agree that the one thing Beyoncé demonstrates in her career is to “be a brand first, human second.”

Fans are always thirsty (even the anti-folks who go to every story about her to down her) for her to send out bow-down tweets to other artists or to hear the juicy, most intimate details of her marriage to Jay-Z. The want for Beyoncé to find the perfect medium between her private and public self for the entertainment of others is alarming. We tend to forget we all have inner-Beys. Privacy settings, makeup, and filters have allowed us to leverage between who we are and who we want to expose ourselves to. Are we really out here posting our bad photos and embarrassing ourselves through social media? Of course not–we want people to see us at our best. In reality we are controlling how our “audience” (aka, our friends, family and foes) views our authenticity just like Queen Bey. So what’s the problem?

 

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  • nononsense57

    Beyonce wants to ban words we all use,,as in “bossy”….WHAT? Who is Beyonce or ANYONE ELSE to tell me how to speak? Maybe some of her worshippers will listen and do her bidding. Seems to me everyone should be outraged. Pssst..here’s a hint to Queen B with the fragile ego: People will define YOU based on YOUR actions….and YOU can’t FORCE a different outcome. I know, I know,,it’s offensive to the Bey worshippers…..but it’s the truth. Prove differently!

  • just stating the obvious

    I can solve this for you all. (it’s amazing that this story received so many passionate comments!) Beyonce is beautiful. I don’t think anyone can disagree with that. She’s also talented. The problem is she’s stupid. The girl is dumb as a box of rocks. That’s why she doesn’t do interviews, and it seems like she has no persona other than her professional one. Because she doesn’t. When was the last time she did something that wasn’t scripted (or severely edited)? I imagine she cannot string two intelligent sentences together without difficulty/help from her publicist. See? That was easy. Now her super-protective fans can calm down (by the way, I don’t think I’ve ever been such a fan of a person to get into internet debates that include name-calling with anyone! j/s).

  • bossy

    she want unflattering pics down? then she should stay out of the media! until then, she have to accept the good, the bad, and the ugly.

  • amirah

    Lol, I think everyone is taking this thing way to seriously…there are more important things in life then arguing about something and someone you don’t even know anything about…c’mon people, wake t’f up!!!

  • Truth365

    Beyonce is beautiful and extremely talented. Unfortunately haters will always hate so I understand her need to control her own image which is her right. I have never seen the girl do anything undignified or be disrespectful to anyone. We should celebrate her but instead we jump on media bandwagon in attacking her image. The real truth is a lot of this has to do with jealousy. I guess people would prefer watching T. Swift whoring around to get material for her cheesy songs.

  • minerva

    tell me something : did ANYONE hear the words coming from bey’s mouth?
    I rest my case…….

  • Ann

    I think Beyonce should stop dressing provacative and doing some out of ordinary stuff she would not have to control any of this. I do think these people should be entitled to some privacy.

  • Just saying!!

    Correction: we DO pay for her antics. lol At least that’s what I assume her sassy persona is. I think the main issue is consistency. She seems really lost and doesn’t know who she is. She wants everyone to believe she’s clean and perfect and who can blame her!? But then she wants to be gangsta, and a little….sexually promiscuous lol. Her messages are contradictory. But there’s nothing wrong with wanting to control your image. Your image is your money, ESPECIALLY in her case. People think these celebrities get where they are off of talent. A big majority of it is marketing…and she has one hell of a marketing team! I ain’t mad if she want to control her image…but make up yo mind chile! lol I mean no one is all good and all bad, but don’t play bad if you’re trying to convince people you are goody goody.

    • minerva

      soooooo; people complain that she does nothing new- which isn’t true-
      and then when she does, people got a problem.
      schizo much?
      she doesn’t owe ANYONE ANYTHING but a good performance- which she gives!
      if you don’t support her music, her clothing line, perfumes,etc,. how,pray tell are you
      paying?!? writing on these blogs PAYS THE BLOGGER and cost YOU NOTHING!!

  • moni

    A stinky face? She is 31 why would a stinky face bother a 31 year old wife and mother? Really its just a picture that’s all. Newsflash You better enjoy those stinky faces because nothing lasts forever.

  • FromUR2UB

    Entertainers have always controlled their images. Their image is as much a part of their livelihood as their talent. Women made themselves glamorous, men looked debonair. They looked like they took care of themselves. It has been only in the last 20 years or so, that it became acceptable for celebrities to show up for performances looking like they came straight from doing yardwork. You can thank rappers for that. When I pay to see someone, I expect them to clean up for the occasion. I would feel insulted and disrespected if a celebrity showed up looking like he/she just rolled out of bed. We know celebrities are human. We know that when the makeup, hair and designer clothing comes off, they look like very different people…ordinary, even. We know they make mistakes. Why should it be necessary to see them looking shabby or awkward for confirmation that they’re human…as opposed to what? Alien? Angelic? Demonic? People don’t want to see pictures of her looking bad so that they can identify with her humanness, but so that they can feel better about whatever is lacking in their own lives. If they saw pictures of her going to the mailbox in a robe, fuzzy slippers and curlers, or a morning photograph with sleep crust in her eyes, then that would be something for her detractors to laugh about, but it still wouidn’t endear her to them. I don’t blame her for keeping something for herself and loved ones. Just like regular people aren’t going to open up every aspect of their lives to coworkers or neighbors because it’s none of their business, celebrities don’t need to put their lives on display for their public. Some choose to, and that’s their right. But, I miss the days when celebrities were an enigma. That made them more interesting. Society is better off when it aspires to higher standards, literally reaches for the stars…not when it settles for mediocrity. If you want “real” people, go look at them at Walmart.

    • hollyw

      I agree w/ most of what you said, that many people want to see celebrities looking bad just to feel better about themselves, but not ALL. Such as young, impressionable audiences, for instance. Young people (and many adults) are more likely to look up to someone and, hence, be a more loyal fan (read: GIVE MORE $$), if they feel they can relate to them, see themselves in them. This has been true throughout generations. That’s why they want to know not just about a star’s music, but what’s behind the music, what motivates that star to create such ‘masterpieces’…

      Back in the day, as you mentioned, people did the same exact thing, to donning Michael Jackson’s hairstyles to donning Elvis’ clothes. Wanting to know what perfumes Elizabeth Taylor wore. Having Taylor THEN market a brand. Stars know this and put themselves out their b/c of it. This is also to be noted. I repeat: STARS EXPOSE THEIR PERSONAL LIVES FOR PROFIT. Albeit, they do deserve privacy like every other human being, but they make the waters dirty when they put pieces of their lives out, i.e. Beyonce announcing her pregnancy on an AWARD SHOW, doing mad interviews about said baby, only to then make poor attempts to cover her like she’s Blanket to shelter her life. TOO LATE! When Michael Jackson, arguably the largest star on Earth, wanted his kids’ life private, he did it the right way by truly closing them off frm the world. No names, no locations, no faces, nothing. If he can do it?! Similarly, Beyonce wanted to show everyone she was “real”, Flaws and All, but then goes so far as to ban ALL PUBLIC MEDIA from her concert series b/c of the possibility of unflattering photos? Don’t you think that’s a tad extreme, and also hypocritical..?

    • Just saying!!

      I agree that some people look for imperfections to feel better about themselves. However, there are some people who actually look up to celebrities and are inspired by them. It’s difficult to see yourself in someone who is afraid to show you who they are. She just isn’t relatable. These days as an entertainer, your story is a part of your package. It’s one thing when you are make-believe on stage, but off-stage it just kind of feels like being lied to. Just don’t do the interviews lol

      • hollyw

        Lol RIGHT, just stop. interviewing!

  • Guest

    There is nothing wrong with controlling your image/brand. If I were famous, I would probably do the same thing lol I am more surprised that as a mother and wife in her 30′s, she wants her brand to represent a “bad b***h”. It comes off, to me, like she is going through a mid life crisis or something.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

    I don’t think it’s about wanting to see her fail or mess up. It’s about authenticity and flaws. People want to know you are flawed and have trials and tribulations and struggles just like them. And as far as their personal lives being none of our business, these celebs careers would be nothing if their “stans” (and haters) didn’t invest so much into their personal lives that’s why they care about developing an image even if it’s not true to who they are. Believe me they love how much people dig into their lives. That’s why when they go through “personal” issues a new album always coincidentally follows. She just wants to appear as perfect.

  • Shaybaby

    The problem is her claiming to be human- flaws and all- just like us, but then allowing her brand to represent perfection. It doesn’t make sense. Her consistent quest to appear perfect 100% of the time makes her come off fake & that’s why she gets shaded on the daily. There’s nothing real about this chick at all. Nobody knows who this chick really is. I don’t even think she knows who she is outside of what she wants to appear to be to the world. We’re all insecure about something but as hard as she tries to appear perfect, it does nothing but make me feel sorry for her cuz she “appears” to not be able to accept herself the way she is.

    • TRUTH IS

      You are making too much sense

    • mac

      “Nobody knows who this chick really is. I don’t even think she knows who she is outside of what she wants to appear to be to the world”

      “No one really knows who this chick is” and in the same breath you went on to make a huge assumption about how she feels about herself lol. The irony.

      And if she was to share more of herself with us, you think the shade would stop? Please. Even when she does something as simple as share a candid photo, you people say it’s contrived and she’s trying too hard.

      The fact of the matter is, you and others will hate this woman no matter how much she tries to humanize herself, or be relatable, and you’ll find any reason to rationalize that hate.

      Beyonce owes it to no one to appear “less perfect” just to quell other people’s feelings of inadequacy.

      Stop worrying about if a celebrity knows who she is, and start worrying about who you are.

      • Shaybaby

        I know exactly who I am but you what you can do is get out your feeling tho. It’s not even that serious boo.

        • mac

          You’re on the Internet listing reasons why you dislike someone you don’t know.

          Yea..I’m totally the one “in my feelings” here.

          • Shaybaby

            Quote where I said word for word that I disliked Bey. I never said that at all. You’re going toe to toe w/ me over my opinion but you ain’t in your feelings tho. Ok then. Here’s a seat for you boo _/…

            • mac

              *gasp* NO not the Internet chair!!

              points for originality. *sarcastic clap*

              • Shaybaby

                Here is some originality for you… #boobye

                • mac

                  *waves* please come back when you expand your vocabulary beyond the word “boo”.

                  • Shaybaby

                    And I’ll come back with my Bachelor’s & Master’s Degrees in hand. #Done

      • Just saying!!

        Why was that comment so offensive to you? These people need to get out of Beyonce’s buttcrack. …and nothing is contradictory about saying she doesn’t know who she is and that she is probably insecure. People did NOT always feel this way about Beyonce, myself included, so stop pretending people just WANT to hate her. This comment just seems like it was taken way too personally and I can’t imagine anyone but a STAN being offended by it…a stan who probably claims to know Beyonce better than they know they damn selves lmao smdh

        • mac

          Lol you people need to learn the difference between someone being offended by a statement or simply disagreeing.

          You all probably know the ins and outs of Beyonce’s life more than her fans do, but quick to label someone a stan lol.

          If a “stan” is someone who has no problem with a woman she doesn’t even know, and wishes her success, then I’ll gladly be that.

          • yeppers

            Thank you!!! These people have such hate for someone they dont know…who cares at the end of the day. Shes here to put out music. thats it…her personality flaws are picked apart on here like these people have to live with her…it baffles me. WHO THE HELL CARES…most artists wouldnt SPIT on they fans if they behinds was on FIRE, and they act like because this woman gives awkward interviews she deserves to die. SMH.

    • mac

      “Nobody knows who this chick really is. I don’t even think she knows who she is outside of what she wants to appear to be to the world”

      “No one really knows who this chick is” and in the same breath you went on to make a huge assumption about how she feels about herself lol. The irony.

      And if she was to share more of herself with us, you think the shade would stop? Please. Even when she does something as simple as share a candid photo, you people say it’s contrived and she’s trying too hard.

      The fact of the matter is, you and others will hate this woman no matter how much she tries to humanize herself, or be relatable, and you’ll find any reason to rationalize that hate.

      Beyonce owes it to no one to appear “less perfect” just to quell other people’s feelings of inadequacy.

      Stop worrying about if a celebrity knows who she is, and start worrying about who you are.

    • yeppers

      How do you not appear perfect to strangers??? Do you step out the house with your pannies outside your clothes mismatched socks on etc…explain that to me hunny. and how are you supposed to KNOW someone that you only see on TELEVISION….do you expect to know the ins and outs of this womans life or something to see where she is imperfect…where does the intrusion on these people lives STOP. If you dont like her music FINE, but to not like her because you dont KNOW something about her personal life is stupid.

      • Mia

        Kanye shut up! You sound like a fish! Of course no one is going to walk outside with their undies over their clothes, otherwise you’d get carted off to Payne Whitney! Ur taking to op’s comments way too literally.

        • TRUTH IS

          Lmfao…..ah weak…lmaofarto

        • TRUTH IS

          Lmfao…..ah weak…lmaofarto

        • Just saying!!

          lmaooo Kanye!!! weakkkk

      • Nia

        ROFL @ pannies! Calm down! She is not that hyped about you, boo so why get so hyped about her!

      • Shaybaby

        It’s just an opinion boo. I’m entitled to it just like you are. Get out your feelings.

      • Shaybaby

        And nothing in my statement says that I know who she is. I said the words “think” and “appear” which means that’s what the situation “looks” like to me- as in my opinion. Y’all stay in ya feelings over somebody’s opinion. Doing the absolute most.

        • Just saying!!

          You can’t judge King B. God will strike you down and her army will come out to attack lmaooo

          • yeppers

            Is it fair for someone to judge you???

          • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

            #dead lol

        • yeppers

          Well I dont know who you are and my opinion of you is that you are IGNORANT….Is that valid??? because thats my opinion. You people want EVERYONE to believe something about this woman because its your “opinion”, however Im sure you wouldnt accept someones FALSE opinion of you. WHY IS IT FAIR TO HER???

      • Just saying!!

        First of all….WHY YOU MAD? She paying you? Second of all, It’s not about trying to appear imperfect. It’s about not trying so hard to prove you are, which B def does. Getting these pics removed is a perfect example. Thirdly, no one said ANYTHING about HAVING to know everything about her personal life. In fact, we DON’T need to know about her personal life. But even from a career standpoint, the perspective she gives is unrealistic. Her interviews are rehearsed and robotic. …and even when she pretends to be personal she seems very rehearsed and just gives off information that will enhance her image of perfection. I don’t understand the point of letting people in when you aren’t really going to let people in? If thats the case just leave it alone.

      • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

        You are way too invested in this……be careful who u worship

    • Just saying!!

      You just gave me life! LOL you just summed up the main reason more people are becoming so-called “haters” against B–people are sick of seeing her act. That’s just the problem though–I don’t think she knows who she is. I do sympathize for her though because I think she’s a big people-pleaser so she just gives people what she thinks they want instead of expressing herself–which I think is why she struggles so much artistically.

      • Shaybaby

        Thx boo. You clearly understand the difference between fact & opinion. They must clearly be on her payroll trolling for folks who won’t bow down.

    • Trollolol

      only ugly or overweight women hate Beyonce.

      Anyone please feel free to disprove with photographic evidence.

      I’ll wait.

  • http://www.facebook.com/melody.carroll.50 Melody Carroll

    they always want pictures of her lookin bad they stay hatin on beyonce i dont know why she has talent and beauty

  • hollyw

    I do find it a bit disturbing, actually. One, there’s a difference here between wanting to keep your personal life private, which she has every right to do, and thinking you can actually control your image, which you can’t; even the act of attempting to keep independent media out of her concert series affected her image further.

    Two, the photos of her at the superbowl weren’t even that bad! And could have easily laughed it up, said she was just “super-hyped up” during her performance, showed a bit of the ‘laid back’ persona she often tries to portray, but instead tried to get em removed(which any celwbrity w/ common sense world know wouldn’t even happen w/o a lawsuit)..?

    What really baffles me is that she feels absolutely non-protective of upholding the laid-back, wholesome, or ‘positive female role model’ image she’s made when she put out the Bow Down mix, or started referring to HERSELF as a (bad) b*tch…but got a problem w/ a grimace on-stage at a bangin-@$$ superbowl performance?? Something just feels off…but that’s just me.

  • TRUTH IS

    You right, image…its never her authentic self….God didnt create us with an “image” to carry around. And she can do whatever she please just dont think the public is retarded with her fakery. Decipher authentic from fake ppl

    And ohhhh MN, what happened to the post of her and Blu and Jay in Paris??! It disappeared into thin air?!

    • yeppers

      But who are you tho??? This confidant to Beyonce?? how do you know as someone sittin in your house watching her on television that who she is showing you is fake….I would love to know the explanation if that since you apparently know THE REAL BEYONCE. This that mess im talking about….Now im sure youre going to say that its “your opinion” but no sweetheart you sitting up here saying shes fake HOW DO YOU KNOW??? How did you come to this conclusion??? Since you know her….

      • TRUTH IS

        Pregnancy fib……lip syncing the anthem, acting like its all live……stealing ppl song and or taking credit for songs she didn’t write….need I go on…..?! I call it like I see it…that’s all

        • yeppers

          You can have all the opinion in the WORLD about what she does professionally I.E lip syncing, and song writing. But the PREGNANCY is 0 of your business, you dont know that lady, you havent SEEN her hello kitty to know WHAT CAME OUT OF THERE. YOU SHOULDNT CARE IF HER BABY CAME OUT OF A BABOON, ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. WHY DO YOU CARE?? The other mess you mentioned is her career and since we are her fans yes we have a say/opinion since we make their careers singing famous…but when she step off the stage, you need to step out her life.

          • TRUTH IS

            You are going to burst a blood vessel over this heifer who don’t give two creamy shite about you. If it’s none of our business why publicly announce ur pregnancy on MTV awards…there are celebs who got pregnant and never say two words…e.g jhud. You sound folkish. She went on Australian TV where her stomach cave in like paper bag…..you are a delusional beystan. My opinion and am sticking to it….you can all caps all you want!! My opinion is she is a certified faker! *put fingers in ears*

            • TRUTH IS

              * foolish

            • Chey

              Lmao @ *put fingers in ears*

            • mac

              “You are going to burst a blood vessel over this heifer who don’t give two creamy shite about you”

              LOL this is coming from a female who goes out of her way to comment on every single article about a woman she hates….and who also doesn’t give half a “creamy shite” about her.

              Please, get to the root of your unhappiness. No one who’s happy has time to slander a person they don’t even know, EVERY single day.

              • TRUTH IS

                Am happy to have a fan who monitors my comments. You must be a medium to know am not happy via my postings on the Internet. I guess so are everyone who post negative on tmz etc. your brain has to be infected.

                • mac

                  It’s certainly not rocket science. I don’t even discuss people I don’t like, let alone seek them out.

                  If you willingly click on articles about someone you hate, just to slander them, you’re either masochistic or miserable. I’m willing to bet on both.

                  • TRUTH IS

                    So why you click then?! to attack someone whose opinion is different than yours?! and that is what you classify as “hating” retire that cliche already. And on here doing the same dang thing….get right. Wy can’t we have a civil discussion or agree to disagree. Why is it always ” hating”?!

                  • TRUTH IS

                    So why you click then?! to attack someone whose opinion is different than yours?! and that is what you classify as “hating” retire that cliche already. And on here doing the same dang thing….get right. Wy can’t we have a civil discussion or agree to disagree. Why is it always ” hating”?!

              • hollyw

                What was slander out of what TRUTH IS said…I missed it, if she/he did. But apparently, by the amt of likes she/he got, more than just TRUTH IS thinks that way…

                • mac

                  LMAO so the amount of likes measures the validity of a statement? Oh.

                  • hollyw

                    Yes, it is one of the indicators. That your argument makes sense.

                    • JRey

                      I see plenty of trash get retweeted or liked on Twitter and Facebook everyday, it indicates nothing.

                    • hollyw

                      Depends on the forum.
                      …and this isn’t exactly Twitter or Facebook.

                    • JRey

                      so the popularity of your opinion determines if it’s correct. Gotcha

                    • hollyw

                      …ok, you clearly are not following the discussion or addressing the fallacy in your own statements, keep trying to redirect, just like mac. In fact, you prob are him. Just argue w/ yaself, man lol. Good day.

            • mac

              “You are going to burst a blood vessel over this heifer who don’t give two creamy shite about you”

              LOL this is coming from a female who goes out of her way to comment on every single article about a woman she hates….and who also doesn’t give half a “creamy shite” about her.

              Please, get to the root of your unhappiness. No one who’s happy has time to slander a person they don’t even know, EVERY single day.

            • yeppers

              Childish ho….you waste your life worrying about what Beyonce is doing while Im living mine.

              • hollyw

                …but yeppers, clearly, you are doing more than simply ‘living mine’, as you are doing “the most”, (i.e. being a Stan) for Beyonce right now, evident by you commenting on almost every seemingly negative post up in here…very aggressively, might I add…I mean, is it really this serious? Goodness gracious…

              • Just saying!!

                That’s just the point though, you’re NOT living your life. You’re taking the time out to address every comment that says something you don’t like about your God who doesn’t care a thing for you and doesn’t even know you exist. Please get over yourself, for your own sake.

                • yeppers

                  Did I say she was a GOD??? where in my post where im defending someone you seem so HELL bent to be negative about did I say she was a god to me. In the same breath that you are going HAM bashing someone I CAN ALSO DEFEND THEM…so what makes you more RIGHT??? because you are saying something negative?? Get your everlasting life sweetheart, I serve JESUS CHRIST, you know the ONE WHO TOLD US TO LOVE ALL PEOPLE AND NOT JUDGE A PERSON….WHY DONT YOU TRY THAT SINCE YOU TRYING TO TELL ME WHO GOD IS.

              • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

                You are not living your life you are living beyonce’s right now with the amount of energy you have put into this “debate”. Wayyyyyy to invested into a chic who probably wouldn’t even acknowledge your presence in an empty room with just you and her. If I go this hard for someone they name better be in most recent call log. I’m just saying. I have my favorite celebs but after two comments they would’ve been on their own. Wtf Bey do at her concerts that make her fans go ham like this!?!

            • FromUR2UB

              I’m thinking she announced her pregnancy because people had criticized her during the time she held off getting pregnant. First, she was too vain to put her body through pregnancy, then she was faking pregnancy. No one ever explained the purpose for pretending to be pregnant. The baby looks like her and Jay-Z. Who had it then?

              • Nia

                A surrogate, dummy. They take her egg and his s perm and someone else carries it.

                • FromUR2UB

                  Oh. Were you the surrogate?

              • Just saying!!

                I do think she carried the baby, but the fact that the baby looks like them doesn’t squash the rumor that she didn’t carry it because the rumor was that she had a surrogate—which would still give the baby Bey and Jay’s genes.

                • of what concern is it to you?

          • hollyw

            …errm, does it matter that she revealed her pregnancy on stage…at the MTV Awards..?

          • Nia

            You are really getting sensitive about the next bish v agina.

        • MLS2698

          She had me at saying she gained over 60lbs during her pregnancy. I didn’t really pay too much attention until then.

      • Chey

        Chill. Must be one of the stans…

        • yeppers

          I must be someone with common FReakin sense to not care about another womans dam baby and where it came from unlike you….now STAN on that ho.

          • TRUTH IS

            Resorting to calling ppl “ho” just because they speak their mind and say their opinions speaks volumes of your intellect and maturity level. No wonder you defend BeFraud even tho none of us know her because she is never her authentic self. You must me a paid shill on her crisis management team.

            • yeppers

              WHY SHOULD YOU KNOW HER BECAUSE SHE MAKES MUSIC THO???

          • SMHgurl24

            Even my mother who knows nothing about todays music knew about the pregnancy. She made it everyones business when she announced it to the world. Of course a majority of us shouldn’t care but when its pushed on us in every part where media is present (tv, radio, ect) people are going to have opinions. Personally I think she has great stage presence but at the same time she really rubs me the wrong way. Something aint right in my book about her. And not being mean but you should really calm down. someone elses opinion shouldn’t cause you to lose sleep over it

    • minerva

      how do you know she’s fake?!?
      are you fake- cause as the saying goes, it takes one to know one!!
      i’m just saying…….
      and before you TRY to go in, my opinion is worth just as much as yours-
      probably more cause I don’t hate !

      • TRUTH IS

        I keep repeating myself……retire the cliche “hate” no one is hating….they are stating their opinions. ESP the ones who won’t bow down. I am calling her out on her phonies, some of which I listed listed above….am retiring this discussion right now! Buh bye!!

  • kb

    If you try to control too much it can come off as phony and contrived. Anyway I think it is a bit of insecurity on her part, but who isn’t insecure?

  • yeppers

    At the end of the day all Beyonce and any other artist owes you is their professionalism/CAREER. Perfection is relative (NO ONE IS PERFECT), so who are we or anyone else to say what we DO see of her personal life is perfection??? Someone one the other side of the world might think its not….or someone richer might think they are not the end all be all money wise. People all want to say she is perfect when thats YOUR OPINION OF HER. She owes us her music, talent PERIOD. People need to stop being fans of these celebrities personal lives because WE DONT LIVE WITH OR KNOW THEM. They have every right to position their business to be successful as anyone would, but they dont have to position their personal life to where it is acceptable or flaw filled enough for the public, thats none of your business. IF IT LOOKS PERFECT TO YOU THEN THATS HOW YOU ARE PERCEIVING IT, WHY IS THAT HER PROBLEM? Like the shirt says CAN I LIVE???

  • Tiff

    A lot of the things people want to know about her isn’t anyone’s business. The problem here is people are so used to over sharing things themselves so they assume that over sharing should be the norm for her too.

    • yeppers

      Thank you..people are so used to everyone being so dysfunctional like thats NORMAL…MY LIFE ISNT DYSFUNCTIONAL, AND NO ONE KNOWS ALL MY BUSINESS, THAT DOESNT MAKE ME PERFECT…Who made this trend that everyone who has a messy issue filled life is being real??? Thats so crazy to me. We can say that they are famous and in the public eye, blah blah, but not for their PERSONAL LIFE. WE are ALL in the PUBLIC EYE FOR WHAT WE DO PROFESSIONALLY IF YOU REALLY WANT TO GET TECHNICAL. WE’RE JUST NOT FAMOUS FOR IT…. IM SURE NO ONE ON THIS POST FEELS LIKE THEY NEED TO TELL EVERYONE AT THEY DAM JOB WHAT THEY HUSBAND DID LAST NIGHT OR SHOW THEM THEY BABY PICS. What you choose to share with the public and the image you choose to put out to the public is YOUR CHOICE at the end of the day. YOURS.

      • FromUR2UB

        “Who made this trend that everyone who has a messy issue filled life is being real??? ”
        Say that again!

    • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

      People being in there personal lives is the real way they make money. It’s free promotion. That’s why celebs leak gossip about themselves and have reality shows because they know it. They love people caring about there personal lives bc it keeps them paid and popular believe that. There life our entertainment. If you didn’t feel that way you wouldn’t be scrolling through a celebrity gossip blog site. Believe the second people stop checking for her she will leak some personal business that’s “none of our business”. That’s how the industry goes.

      • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

        Their not there oops

      • MLS2698

        Yes, ma’am! That’s how it goes. Give a little to get a little. If people stop checking for ANY celeb, its a very emotionally damaging event. And financially, too! You have some celebs who can be away for years, but people would love to hear them because they have real talent. For example, Lauryn Hill. I just don’t think Bey has that kind of talent, beyond using visuals, and sexuality to keep people interested. If she disappears, we will just look to somewhere else, or ask when Lauryn will ” get right ” so she can come back with the realness.

      • Just saying!!

        PREACH!!!

    • mac

      Exactly. Plus people are so accustomed to the Rihannas and such, who post about every little relationship problem, every photo of every escapade, and have zero boundaries.

      Instead of applauding her for being discreet, people use it as a reason to dislike her.

      Lol it boggles the mind. Just goes to prove you can’t please anyone. Someone who’s looking for a reason to hate you will ALWAYS find one.

      • hollyw

        What is one thing that Beyonce has attempted to be discreet about?

        • mac

          hmm…I don’t know. Her whole d*mn relationship?

          • hollyw

            …sooo are just going to sensationalize everything or have an actual discussion..? If not, that’s cool. It’s a whole lot goin on in this thread anyway…

            • mac

              LOL that’s the difference between me and the rest of you people. I have no desire to have an “actual discussion” about a celebrity. For what purpose?

              • hollyw

                Uh…your multiple posts says otherwise about your desire to be a part of A discussion, mac; but I could see that you wouldn’t want to take effort in an “actual”, or productive one, where 1. ones ideas show thought and 2. could be challenged, upheld, and/or have any sort of validity…as the rest of “us people” lol…b/c that is the purpose. And why everyone, including yourself, added their two cents. The validity of your statements and the ability to see the obvious flaws, however, are debatable! Have a good one.

                • mac

                  ” 1. ones ideas show thought and 2. could be challenged, upheld, and/or have any sort of validity.”

                  LMAO I didn’t know the purpose of this comments section was to have philosophical debates about Beyonce. Forgive me, Socrates.

                  • hollyw

                    Lol smh, yet more exaggerated statements and redirections. You yourself brought up validity of arguments earlier, fyi. Take care, mac!

            • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

              Seriously? Destiny child days she refused to say her age, denied relationship with jay for 5 years, wouldn’t reveal wedding location until after the wedding , never addresses rumors rarely does interviews and at one point wouldn’t do any, wouldn’t show her daughters face for nearly a year, All which is fine I just thought your question was ridiculous.

              • hollyw

                While I regret my ques. not meeting your standards for ‘non-ridiculousness’ hun, the same can be said for your exaggeration over her desire for privacy. The fact is, she’s not the most fame-hungry star, but she’s far from the most private. Her age was public knowledge, her relationship was publicized far sooner than 5yrs, as they only dated that long before getting engaged, and had dated publicly long before officially announcing being a couple. Also, what rumors has she not addressed? The stuff you mentioned is basic for all celebrities, but she def ain’t no recluse. The only thing she’s tried to hide is her daughter’s face, which was ridiculous and futile. So try again.

                • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

                  Made public and coming from the horse mouth is two different things. Several times with dc they said they wouldn’t say their age bc they didn’t want fans focusing on that, everyone new they an item but jay n b didn’t announce it for 5years and to say what rumors she wouldn’t address i don’t have time. You obviously are defending something you know little about.

                  • hollyw

                    “Made public and coming from the horse mouth is two different things”

                    Not when you’re a celebrity. Not saying something is not the same as trying to keep something private, as that implies taking steps to ensure it doesn’t come to light, which she did not do w/ her relationship OR pregnancy; in fact, she did the opposite. If you didn’t have the time, honey, you shouldn’t have entered the discussion; you obviously can’t hold up your arguments.

                    • http://www.facebook.com/kisha.jones.35 Kisha Jones

                      You are ridiculous. I see you can’t discuss with a Stan because three subject matter of someone who could careless about you is too sensitive and I will gracefully bow out!

                  • hollyw

                    “Made public and coming from the horse mouth is two different things”

                    Not when you’re a celebrity. Not saying something is not the same as trying to keep something private, as that implies taking steps to ensure it doesn’t come to light, which she did not do w/ her relationship OR pregnancy; in fact, she did the opposite. If you didn’t have the time, honey, you shouldn’t have entered the discussion; you obviously can’t hold up your arguments.

    • mac

      Exactly. Plus people are so accustomed to the Rihannas and such, who post about every little relationship problem, every photo of every escapade, and have zero boundaries.

      Instead of applauding her for being discreet, people use it as a reason to dislike her.

      Lol it boggles the mind. Just goes to prove you can’t please anyone. Someone who’s looking for a reason to hate you will ALWAYS find one.

  • Akiko

    It’s not a problem.

    • KamJos

      I agree it’s totally not a problem. I think more Black women should take a cue instead of waving their dirty laundry on a flagpole. Never be ashamed of protecting your brand.