Is He The One? Traits That Make A Man Husband Material
What makes a good husband? While the answer isn’t going to be identical for everyone, there are definitely some traits that you’ll want to find in the man that you ultimately married. Though your husband may not be the cookie-cutter man, some traits are a must-have when it comes time to dedicate yourself to one single man, here are 14 of those non-negotiables.
A good listener
By nature, men aren’t the best listeners. Instead, they tend to be more focused on fixing problems as opposed to trying to understand them. While it’s nice to have a man who wants to fix your issues, it’s even nicer to have one who is willing to listen and lend an ear when something is going wrong. A man who can listen and understand is definitely worth keeping around.
A good communicator
In combination with a good listener, you also want a man who is a good communicator. Men aren’t always in touch with their emotions, so it can be hard to find one who is willing to talk and communicate about any problems or concerns that he has. Communication is important in any relationship so make sure that the man you marry is in touch with his emotions so that down the road communication problems aren’t a relationship breaker.
A man with a good job, a set career path, and a steady income is definitely worthwhile. You want to be with a man who will be able to provide for you, and while you shouldn’t expect him to buy you everything under the sun and pay all of your bills, he should be able to provide for himself and help you along the way if necessary.
What woman doesn’t want a guy she can count on to protect her? The man you marry should be one who you can depend on to protect you from any outside forces that may harm you. While he doesn’t have to carry a gun or some other weapon, you’ll want to know that deep down if anything were to ever happen to you, he’d be right there to help.
A semi-handy man
So you don’t need a man who can build a house from scratch, but it’s nice to have a guy who is somewhat handy. If something breaks around the house or if something goes wrong with your car, it’s nice to know that your man will hopefully be able to lend a helping hand. A handy-man will really go a long way.
Before you marry a man and start a family with him, it’s nice to know that he has a good familial foundation and values that. Does he spend time with his family? Is he always offering to help your family if they need it? A man who is already family-oriented is bound to make a good dad and family member.
When you get married, you vow to stay faithful to your partner, but faithfulness should start long before your walk down the aisle. Find a man who is faithful, loyal, and committed to no one but you long before you say “I Do”. Finding a man who is truly in it for the long run is bound to ease any worries or fears of unfaithfulness that you may have.
A sensitive man doesn’t mean that your husband has to cry at lovey dovey chick flick movies but instead a man who is sensitive enough to understand your emotions, acknowledge him, and communicate as much as necessary. A man with a chip on his shoulder isn’t likely to be very sensitive. Marry a man who has let down his guard and is willing to be sensitive to you and himself.
Life is full of unexpected twists, turns, and bumps in the road. Change is bound to happen and since change cannot be avoided, it’s important to find a man who is able to adapt. When life throws you lemons, you want to be with a man who is willing to make lemonade with you. A man who easily adapts to new scenarios will help you make it through the most unexpected curveballs that are thrown to you.
Find a man who refuses to lie to you, even the smallest white lie. It’s hard to trust a man after he has lied to you and unless you’re willing to fully forgive him, it’ll be hard to forget his betrayal. Marry a man who you can trust inside and out 100%. You don’t want to go through a marriage doubting each and every word he says.
A man who practices humility
Most men don’t want to admit when they’re wrong, so it’s nice to find one who isn’t so arrogant and instead practices a bit of humility. It’s much more admirable to find a man who can admit his wrongdoings, which in the end prevents plenty of arguments. This will make any marriage easier.
There’s a fine line between cocky and confident, and when it comes to finding a husband, you want one who is more in the confident category. A man who is confident in public is able to handle random life situations. A confident man is bound to be secure in himself as well as in his relationship. A man who is truly confident will show this trait no matter where he is: at home, in the office, or out in public.
Able to make you laugh
Laughing is the best medicine, not only when you’re sick or down, but when your relationship/marriage hits a snag. Having a man that can make you laugh is one of the best ways to repair a relationship as well as to keep the relationship fun and youthful. Having inside jokes and laughing at each other for hours on end is bound to make for a great marriage.
Down to earth
No one wants a man that lives with his head up in the clouds. Having a husband who is down to earth can help eliminate a lot of problems in the future. A down to earth man is more likely to be level-headed and a clear thinker. A down to earth guy is bound to be more understanding, more realistic, and more reliable when it comes to a marriage and long-term commitment.
A man should not only be responsible, but he should take responsibility if necessary. While a husband typically defines a man who is married, the dictionary also defines a husband as being a manager. A manager, someone who takes the lead, is someone who needs to be responsible and willing to be a leader. A responsible man is not only going to make a good husband, but a good father.