Breaking “The Code”: Is It Ever Okay To Date Your Friend’s Ex?

3. Does He Feel the Same Way?

If you’re going to possibly ruin a friendship, not only do you want to make sure he’s worth it, but you want to make sure the feelings are mutual between you two as well. Has he been flirting with you the entire time he was dating your friend behind her back? If so, you may feel that it’s really YOU that he wanted all this time, which can be flattering if you find him attractive as well. But, be careful because he could just be a jerk who looks to bag his girlfriend’s friends because he sees it as a challenge. If that is the case, not only is he grimy, but he’ll do the same thing to you. But if he’s an ex of hers from a million years ago, they ended on good terms and you are relatively new to him outside of their past relationship, then chances are he could truly be into you. Just make sure you know for sure before you let the world – including your friend -know that you and her ex are planning on kickin’ it.