Breaking “The Code”: Is It Ever Okay To Date Your Friend’s Ex?

2. Is He Worth the Drama?

It’s one thing to find someone sexually attractive and to lust after him – hey, it happens – but totally different to feel a deep connection and think that he’s your soul mate. After all, you may have had time to get to know him if he’s in your circle, and now you feel the Universe is telling you that he should be your man. But take some time to really think this through. Is he a really good guy and things just didn’t work out for them, or did he treat your friend badly and you just hope he doesn’t do the same to you? Is there really something about him that you haven’t been able to find in any other guy that you’ve dated? What makes him so special? Answer yourself honestly and really determine if pursuing a relationship with this guy will be worth all the drama that could possibly ensue. If he’s “one of a kind” and you can’t see yourself with any one else but him, you have to proceed with caution knowing that your heart simply wants what it wants.