Things People Love To Tell You To Do To Keep A Man — But Do They Work?
There will always be debates on how to show a man you’re worthy of him keeping you around by doing certain things. I’m not too sure what works and what doesn’t work in terms of making a man stick around and showing him you’re not just wifey material but should be his wife. What I do know is, you should’t knock it until you try it and do what you feel is appropriate because every man– and woman — is different. Check out some of the most notable “make him keep you” advice around. What’s worked for you and what hasn’t?
No Kissing on the First Date
Some believe that giving a man a kiss on a first date may imply you’re down for more. I’m not sure if kissing someone on the first date, second or third will even matter. It depends on how you feel about him. Some women have their own standards and by no means will I try to change your mind about when to kiss so do what works for you.
Make Him Wait for it
This is one of the most debatable topics. Even Steve Harvey suggested a 90-day rule in his book, “Act like a lady, Think like a man”. I’ve heard stories of couples getting married after sleeping together the first night. Every situation is unique. Some men, may not want to wait that long and others will respect your decision to wait.
They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. I kind of agree. What man doesn’t like to eat? At the same time, this generation of women isn’t exactly known for throwing down in the kitchen. Attempting to cook for him may be a good way to show him that you care. However, it’s 2013, he probably knows how to burn better than you do!
Be a Good Girl
The idea of a church girl will always put a good image in a man’s mind. Well, as opposed to the girl who goes clubbing every other weekend. I’m not certain that going to church will show a man that you are a keeper though. I think he will appreciate the fact that you have morals. Then again, that depends on the type of man you are trying to attract.
Get Your Education
Being educated is always a good thing — not just for society but for yourself. Keeping yourself knowledgeable and sharp on various topics could be a turn on, but being educated won’t show a man you’re a keeper. That’s a trait women look for more than men and let’s not even get on those guys who are intimidated by an educated woman. You’re probably not checking for his type anyway though.
Learning how not to anger your man may be a plus. Guys like to be drama free and if you don’t bring drama his way, you may just have earned yourself a token to his heart. On the flip side, men don’t like doormats. He need to be called out on his stuff from time to time.
Give Him Space
All men like their space. Hell, even women do as well. However, not jocking him 24/7 and giving him some time to think about you and wonder what you’re doing may keep him interested. Not sure if it makes you a keeper though. Giving him his privacy, may put you a step closer to his heart but with another guy too much space may mean, you aren’t interested.
Introduce Him to the Family
Many believe that introducing your guy to your family is somehow showing him that he should keep you around. I am one of those people who won’t let any guy met my family until I know we are serious. With this one, you may want to be careful. You don’t want to scare him off. Something about meeting mom and dad puts the fear of God in men. Also, he may think you are moving too fast. Only bring him around if your relationship is moving in a positive direction.
This is quite simple. Great sex is the best sex. They say sex plays a big role in every relationship. I agree, but sex won’t keep your man. Your attitude, your confidence and then good sex will keep him satisfied. Then again, sex is so easy to get these days. I’m not sure if it even matters.
Being patient with a man is another debatable topic. I am not one to sit around and wait on a man to decide if he wants to be with me or not. Having patience in general is a good thing. However, you should be able to determine if you are being dragged along for a ride that ends nowhere. There’s no problem with waiting but it depends on why you’re waiting.
Be His Mama
Cleaning after him like you’re his mother is not a way to show him you are a keeper. You are showing him, you’re easy and he will do whatever you will allow him to do. If you think being Florence the maid will help show him you’re wifey material, good for you. Before that happens, he will need to put a ring on it!
Being independent and not needing a man for anything is a turn on to some men. Then, there’s other men who want to provide for their lady. For all those women who are super independent — you know the ones screaming it out loud all the time — tone it down just a notch. It’s a turn on only to a certain extent. In the same token, no man wants to take care of his lady 100% of the time. Her being able to provide for herself is great but if he feels you don’t need him, he won’t be around.
Keep It Right, Keep It Tight
Staying the same size you were when you first met will keep him attracted to you. I’m sure he will be impressed that you haven’t let yourself go and you have managed to keep it grown and swexy. But attraction doesn’t mean you will have his heart. It never hurts to stay fit for many reasons such as your health but you’ll likely need to do more for a lifetime committment.
Get into Sports
This topic annoys me because I believe many women are not genuinely interested in sports at all. Honestly, I don’t think that watching sports with your man will make him keep you around. Especially, if you are totally clueless about the sport. Be real with yourself and him. If you aren’t interested, you aren’t. I’m sure you both have other things in common. Let him keep his sports as his alone time away from you and you do something you love to do!