It Really Is You & Not Him: 10 Reasons You Can’t Find a Good Man

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5.  You’re doing the most, too early.

If you are planning shopping trips with his mom and buying scented candles for his crib and you met him two weeks ago you are officially doing the most. It sends the message that you’re desperate, crazy or easy. No man wants to feel like you’re doing for him what you do for every guy you meet or that he’s being forced into boyfriend responsibilities that he’s not ready for.  There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want, but sometimes you have to allow yourself to be pursued.  Just because you’ve got butterflies and you want to pop up at his job and surprise him for lunch, doesn’t mean you should. You can’t rush the comfort that comes with being in a relationship for some time.  Certain perks in a relationship have to be earned, otherwise don’t try to play martyr talking about how “used and abused” you always are when you constantly give too much too soon.

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