It Really Is You & Not Him: 10 Reasons You Can’t Find a Good Man
I hate to break it to you ladies, but it’s official: Cuffing season has come to an end. The temperature hit 82 degrees in Philly today and the weather will only grow warmer as spring turns to summer. This means that unless your love is legit, your “man” will start to pick fights, become increasingly shady or disappear altogether in pursuit of the bare thighs, sun-kissed shoulders and anything-goes attitude that comes with summer love.
The truth is some of you never had an actual “man” or a boyfriend to begin with. You had someone that was looking to lay up and cuddle and have a warm place to lay his head and other parts of his anatomy in between blizzards. But some of you actually have some stand-up guys which you’d know if you weren’t busy picking apart his every flaw, or worrying about all the things Jay-Z does for Beyonce’ and not appreciating what’s special about your own relationship. So often I hear women complain endlessly about the inability to find a good man, but have no clue of what a good man actually is. Trust me they exist, but it requires you being honest and realistic about what you want and they are not just going to fall in your lap while you have your head buried in your phone.
It’s hard to admit that maybe you’re sabotaging your relationships or the fault lies within you. But if you find that keep having the same problems in different relationships, you might only have yourself to blame. Here are 10 signs it’s not him, but really is you: