Ain’t Nobody’s Business: Why Do Celebs Keep Inviting Us Into Their Bedrooms? (And Why Are We Thirsty To Go In Them?)
When rapper Cam’ron posted pictures of his fiancee having an…let’s just say reaching her sexual peak in a tub, it was then that I realized how exhausted I am with being into invited the bedrooms of complete strangers. If it’s not Rihanna and Chris subtweeting, talking about he “lays the pipe” and Instagramming pics of them sharing the same sheets, it’s DJ Envy publicly apologizing to his wife for his infidelity while he’s on the air. I don’t know about you guys, but I am so sick of being invited into celebrities’ bedrooms and personal lives. If I’m more familiar with your favorite position than your latest song lyrics, that’s a problem.
Okay, you’re boning, we get it, but what else do you have going on? Kim Kardashian didn’t exactly invent the sex tape, but as far as I know, she takes credit for single-handedly building a career on making her private parts public knowledge. Now it seems certain celebrities have followed suit and tried to build, revive, or extend careers solely on their sex lives. I don’t know whether I’m insulted more by the idea that they believe the public can be entertained by so little or by the fact that some us actually are. I mean just look at the facts. When is the last time Cam’ron had a hit single? But I bet you his Instagram was flooded with comments after posting pictures of him and his fiancee getting freaky in the tub. Somewhere between trolling Twitter and Instagram accounts, we stopped holding celebrities accountable for not being talented because we were so entertained by who they’re pregnant by, getting it popping with or punching in the mouth.
The worst part about it is when the legitimately positive moves that celebrities make get overshadowed by the foolishness. I gave up on Love and Hip Hop a long time ago, and yet when I scroll through my Twitter timeline all I see are blogs posting about Yandy Smith’s pregnancy, engagement, and her man Mendecees’ legal troubles. Little did I know Yandy Smith has a net worth of $15 million dollars (according to Celebrity NetWorth) and her career credits include Executive Assistant at Violator Management, Talent Agent at Monami Entertainment and President and Manager of Everything Girls Love.com, a lifestyle brand. But since I don’t watch the show (and I’m sure these are facts even fans may not be aware of), all I ever knew about the girl was that she worked with Jim Jones and her baby daddy was accused of being a sexual predator.
In the lives of celebrities, any publicity is good publicity, and drama equals dollar signs so I can understand why everyone and their grandma (literally) is coming out with a reality show or selling some story to the blogs, but the more important question is why do we care? I think it’s easier to focus on the faults of the rich and famous than to actually get up and do something about the drama in our own lives. When we see our favorite celebrities having baby daddy troubles, balling completely out of their budget or in unhealthy relationships, it reassures us that money doesn’t buy happiness and it makes us feel like on some level they are just like the rest of us. In addition to our obsession with everything celebrity, Facebook and Twitter allows your friends to post pics and details of their most intimate moments as well. Either way, I feel like I know way too much about people’s personal lives these days. And as much as I’d like to say just “unfriend or unfollow,” even I at times find myself reloading my Facebook page or visiting Bossip a few times throughout a boring day just to be entertained by who is making a fool of themselves.
A little foolishness is fine for entertainment, but I think something us regular folks and celebrities alike need to understand is part of the fine art of discretion. If you notice, some of the couples’ whose relationships have lasted the longest are the ones who aren’t giving us the play-by-play on every major relationship milestone they have. When you open up your bedroom to the world, your relationship becomes fodder for the insecure and envious. You can’t post pictures for the world to witness your love then catch an attitude when you don’t get the response you were hoping for. People will find and pick apart every major flaw and inconsistency like they are getting paid for it, and if your relationship is already fragile it probably won’t withstand the backlash. Lastly, in a relationship some moments are just meant to be intimate and inviting everyone to witness them instantly turns it from private to p*rno.
Trust and believe, celebs with actual talent will have success that stands the test of time. It’s why someone like Justin Timberlake can virtually fall off the face of the Earth for years with only a little inkling revealed about his wedding over the years and still only have people caring about The 20/20 Experience. In the meantime, I urge myself and everyone else to question what we’re entertained by. As for me, I’m going to start being more about my business and less into everyone else’s.
Do you think celebs share too much information about their personal lives?
Toya Sharee is a community health educator and parenting education coordinator who has a passion for helping young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health. She also advocates for women’s reproductive rights and blogs about everything from beauty to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee or visit her blog, Bullets and Blessings.