Smile, Grin, And Bear It: 14 Times You Have To Bite Your Tongue In A Relationship

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March 29, 2013 ‐ By Julia Austin

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There is only one difference between the crazy girlfriend and the cool girlfriend: the crazy one says what’s on her mind all the time. But be real: we all have mean, rude, selfish, paranoid and even insane thoughts occasionally. The trick to a successful relationship is gaining control over those thoughts, and learning when to speak up and when to bite your tongue, count to ten, and let it pass.

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  • ThirteenPercenter

    87%: don’t get It. 13%: do. I actually liked this article! It confirms what I already have learned as a Boss[ie] Beautiful. I’m in too good a mood to refute the jr-high naysay of the other respondents on their ‘2 Snaps & A Circle!’ mode. IF the article was written by a man…..I’d like to thank him. IF the article was written by a woman….I like to thank her – and congratulate her on [undoubtedly] being one of the happiest Sisters in the USA with such ideals. Ladies….Oh, Ladies; if your ‘companion’ ain’t your Legally Wed……you look nothin short of a fool for NOT biting your tongue on these points. BUTTTTTT: I gotta say that the fella who regularly ‘forgets his wallet’ is probably grooming [You] for a reality show: COURT TV where you loan (a NON HUSBAND) MORE than $12/here and $23/there. As a Boss[ie] Beautiful One….THAT’s a red flag right there!

    • Your worst nightmare

      Yeah no. I have a man that wants to marry by year end and backups on speed dial (and he knows it) and its not from letting them walk all over me. Bite my tongue in public..maybe. Bite my tongue when we get back to the house..hell no. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed. I believe you to be closer to junior high than I am because I thought like this and like you when I was that age and couldn’t get a man to save my life. However i was not looking for the neglectful, chauvanist player that this article indicates. I’m the baddie from the first post and I speak what I want out of my relationship into existence and lacking for a man I am not! And you, madam? Also how do you know if the writer is happy and where are you getting these percentages from? Lets speak from a place grounded in reality and fact.

  • angel

    Im sorry this is BS no I will not let my man hang out with all females or go to dinner with another female without me he is in a relationship why the hell would he be having dinner with another chick anyway friends or not.

  • kemten

    dumbest list ever!!! must be written by a man or a stupid woman

  • NVAdamzz

    That texting thing is such a blaring contradiction. I’m supposed to be okay with him not texting back but be okay when he’s texting someone else in my face for hours? What kept you from texting me the way you’re texting them? That would just make me feel as if he’s messing around because he’s being more attentive to another person and leaving me hanging. My current significant other is not very conscious of his phone at all. He’s left it at my house, in my car, in stores, he’s dropped and lost so many phones and it’s because he doesn’t care. There are times where his phone will ring or a text will come through and he may or may not look at it and I’m just like..Aren’t you gonna get that? But that’s because I’m very conscious of my own phone. So I know if he doesn’t text back right away or answer every call, it could be any myriad of reasons and him stepping out doesn’t really cross my mind. Everything on this list is a matter of knowing your partner, I feel. Granted, I’ve only been in two relationships, but the men I’ve dated have NEVER complained when I asked them to take out the trash, especially if I’m the one cooking or doing the majority of the cleaning. That’s just asinine and lazy. The guy I’m with now even asks if there’s anything he can do to help me when I’m cleaning or cooking. Also, your family isn’t gonna like EVERYONE you date, but being anti-social is unacceptable and for me, a red flag. I don’t know about some of the items on this list but with others, I can see the merit.

    • KeepOnKeepinOn

      Remember when there was no such thing as a text message? Just a pager? And payphones? Did you expect a speedy reply to your page within 5 minutes? No. So if your (non husband) takes the time to perhaps…..wipe his hineey and wash his hands – why u buggin? Grow up. I would further school ya…but can tell High School wasn’t too long ago for you. #CantBePossessiveAboutWhatAintYours# If you DON’T change these repellent ways – thank YOU…..for `but widening the pool of selection for Bossie Beauties like myself who get called so many ‘refreshing glasses of water’ and ‘breaths of fresh air’…..

      • NVAdamzz

        What are you talking about? I said that if my boyfriend is texting someone else all day while he’s with me, why wouldn’t he be able to text me back as quickly? I don’t worry about it when my boyfriend doesn’t text me back right away. You must’ve only read the first 3 lines of my comment or else you’d know that. Also, no high school wasn’t that long ago for me. Five years actually.

  • E McArthur

    this is wack…I got up to the ‘he mentions his ex’ part and if a man tells me about how his ex and him ate at a spot once, I’m gonna assume he’s not over her….now if he tells me that’s where she goes all the time like she could be there (as warning) then that’s different but why would someone tell me something like that that has nothing to do with the situation…I been a lot of places with people and I may say “i been here a year ago” and keep it like that…

  • FAMURattler85

    I don’t usually say anything negative but when I do, it’s because I sense some serious bs. I’m sorry, but this article sounds like it was written by a man who partakes in the list of trifling things listed above, tried to make them seem like not such a a big deal and convince us to accept such behavior, or a woman with low self esteem who dates said trifling man and is trying to justify his unacceptable actions to make herself feel better for staying. FOH. I wish a man WOULD!

  • Your worst nightmare

    So let me get this straight, I’m supposed to understand when he doesn’t text me back because he’s busy, but when he’s busy with me be understanding when he’s occupied with texting back someone else? I’ve never texted my friends about nothing at all, or to update them about a magazine I was buying or shoes I just saw, but thanks for the stereotype. That is not what girls talk about. I should understand when he’s lazy, flirts as long as he didn’t initiate it, never wants to spend time with me and constantly leaves his wallet at home? This article should be called “When you’re unhappy with your relationship and your man doesn’t seem to care about any of your needs don’t communicate! Just shut up, smile and go buy some shoes or something.” ~ by Moms Basement. Did you really say “If you criticize it, he will become impotent?” And whatever you do don’t embarrass it in front of his friends! hahahaha You better hope you never run into a baddie like me!

  • Your worst nightmare

    So let me get this straight, I’m supposed to understand when he doesn’t text me back because he’s busy, but when he’s busy with me be understanding when he’s occupied with texting back someone else? I’ve never texted my friends about nothing at all, or to update them about a magazine I was buying or shoes I just saw, but thanks for the stereotype. That is not what girls talk about. I should understand when he’s lazy, flirts as long as he didn’t initiate it, never wants to spend time with me and constantly leaves his wallet at home? This article should be called “When you’re unhappy with your relationship and your man doesn’t seem to care about any of your needs don’t communicate! Just shut up, smile and go buy some shoes or something.” ~ by Moms Basement. Did you really say “If you criticize it, he will become impotent?” And whatever you do don’t embarrass it in front of his friends! hahahaha You better hope you never run into a baddie like me!