Searching For Myself: 9 Ways We Lose Ourselves in Relationships And How To Fix It!

March 24, 2013  |  


Over the past year, I’ve lost over 50 pounds. I’m not saying that to brag; I’m saying it because I’m pretty amazed at myself. It’s not because I didn’t think I could do it or because the thought of not eating carbs makes me sad. I’m surprised because I’m in a relationship. I know that may sound strange, but usually when I’m happy with a man, I put on the “love pounds.” You know, the weight some of us gain when we’re happily in love and feeling secure and accepted in our relationship.

When I’m single however, I have more time to go to the gym and eat healthier because I have no one else to focus on but myself. So why should we allow ourselves to let ourselves go when we’re in a relationship? Gaining weight is not the only way people can lose touch with themselves when coupled up. It seems for some of us, the more comfortable we are in our relationship, the more we can neglect our own well-being and those around us – losing ourselves in the process. A good relationship should bring out the best in us; but if we’re not mindful and careful of these warning signs, there’s a chance being punch drunk in love can keep us from being our best selves.

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