No Judgment, But I’ll [Probably] Never Tattoo a Man’s Name On My Body

March 20, 2013  |  


For the longest time, I was sure that I would be one of the few people of my generation to die without a tattoo. Nothing really seemed important enough to put on my body until death. Well eventually I, with a lot of help and convincing from my younger sister, who was working on her third tattoo, came up with a design that I could live with. Now, almost a year since I’ve had it, I understand why people can’t stop getting tatted up. It is something like an addiction. I know I’m trying to get another one. Whatever I get though, I can say with almost 98 percent certainty that I won’t be tattooing a man’s name, initials or likeness on my body.

I was having this discussion with a male friend one evening and he was like I’m sure you would if that man were your husband. Umm…first, I would never even consider doing that for a man who wasn’t my husband. But still my answer is no. Though I’m not anywhere near being married right now, I still can’t see it going down like that, for several reasons. Though I believe that my first marriage will be my last, you never know what could happen. I knew a woman who got her husband’s face tattooed somewhere on her side buttocks area, sure that their marriage would be one that lasted forever. Unfortunately, it wasn’t. And now I wonder what she’s going to do with that monstrosity of a tattoo she was so ready and willing to show everybody. Perhaps she can get somebody to turn it into an angry lion or something else that holds significance to her.

Even if my husband and I stay together, who’s to say, God forbid, that he won’t be in some type of fatal accident and then my next husband is going to be subjected to staring at my former’s initials, or even worse, face. It’s one thing to bring baggage into a relationship, it’s another to bring homeboy’s face into the bedroom. Unless your new man is trying to ménage with your old one, then it’s probably not a good look.

Still, all of that being considered, I say I wouldn’t tattoo a man’s face or initials on my body now; but love will have people doing some crazy things. There have been too many times when I’ve watched my girls or my family members do or say things for the sake of a relationship that I thought were outlandish. I would vow, sometimes silently and sometimes, rudely, out loud that I would never do or say such things. And then, I’d find myself in just the right situation and I’d become a hypocrite, doing exactly what I said I wouldn’t.

So who knows there might be some man’s initials in my future but I sincerely hope I don’t become this woman.

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  • Meyaka

    Much judgement over here,I live in La and the “ladies” over here tatto every inch of their bodies with silly things(hello kitty,dereon,only god can judge me,thug life,pookie) and done of those tattoos are on their face,seriously????? t’s tacky .

    • chanela

      YES~!!! LA mess! smh i see people with face tattoos all the time and it’s so sad cause it’s always ALWAYS black and hispanic people. it’s like they just gave up on trying and they want to broadcast it.

  • GirlSixx

    You live and you learn…. I got my now ex-husband name tattooed on my pelvic bone for our 3rd anniversary manY years ago. now today we are divorced it’s fading so no biggie and trust me I only had one dude complain and i told him you want it gone…. then pay for it because that ish was PAINFUL!!!!

    I would never do it again though!!!

  • NoPlagarizism

    No Judgments, don’t plagarize, Veronica! Shifted from stealing in 2010 direct stuff from blogs to stealing phrases.

  • Tudbee

    I wont get a tattoo in the first place.

  • Sagittarius81

    I’ll never get a man’s name tatted on my body and I don’t care if I’m married to him or not. I have a tattoo my daughter and my late parents’ name on myself.

    • GirlSixx

      Tats are no longer permanent just expensive to make it dissappear. mine I can always color the design in over the name but it hurts like hell so I will be leaving it alone

  • chanela

    i’m sorry but scratch out the first part of the title. i don’t care if it’s considered “judgement” you have to be an absolute IDIOT to get a significant other’s name tattooed on you. i thought everybody knew not to do that? wth! you have to be a dumb @$$ to do that. unless the significant other died then you’re a do do!

  • Lulu

    I was watching one of those tv court shows a couple of years ago and the guy was suing his girlfriend because they were supposed to get each other’s names tattoed and she punked out! He was bi-tter! Eff a tattoo! If he wants the world to know I’m his, a big fat diamond will do the job!

  • Guest360

    I REALLY don’t get this fad of tattooing your Significant Other’s name, face, initials, or what have you on your body. Children? Sure. Parents? Why not? A boyfriend? A spouse? There’s not enough money in the world to get me to do it. To me you’re just asking fate to end your relationship.

    • chanela

      people use any excuse to run out and get a tattoo. there are people who literally have their entire family tree. they get a tattoo every time someone dies. why not just get a picture frame or something?

      • Kenedy

        I dated a guy who had his own damn name, his OWN name, tatted on his neck….I asked him If he ever thought there would be a point in time in the future where he would suffer from Amnesia

  • BYG

    HELL NO. I don’t care if I was married or not…..