So He Stopped Calling…Here’s What You Probably Shouldn’t Do
So you met this amazing guy and the two of you seem to have really hit it off. He takes you on dates frequently. You guys spend hours on the phone laughing and learning more about each other. You send cute and flirty text messages back and forth all day. Then, one day, out of the blue, all of that comes to a screeching halt. Days, weeks and maybe even months have gone by without you receiving so much as a “Good Morning” text from him and for the life of you, you can’t seem to figure out what went wrong. This is just one of the many casualties that comes along with playing the dating game. It happens to the best of us. No one wants to feel “played” or rejected, but it’s how you carry yourself in situations such as this one that determines whether or not you’ll come out on top. Check out this list of things you probably shouldn’t do if the man you’re seeing suddenly starts acting funny.
Call (or text) him repeatedly
Look, we’re women and we were all born with some level of common sense, discernment and intuition. You have enough sense to know when someone doesn’t want to speak to you. Once you know that he’s okay, in good health and not in danger, there’s no need to continue calling him off the hook, especially if he isn’t answering. Step away from your handheld device, please.
Wait by the phone
There’s a world outside with much to explore and plenty to engage in (including better men!). There are plenty of fish in the sea. I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t waste your days waiting by the phone. This guy clearly is not checking for you, so why are you waiting around for him?
Wrack your brain about why he hasn’t called
There are a million and one possible reasons why a man stops calling a woman that he’s seeing. Please don’t make it your business to mull over every single one. As tempting as it is, it’s an absolute waste of time and has the potential to leave you mentally drained. If and when he comes straight out and tells you what happened, that’s when you deal with it. Otherwise, it’s probably a good idea to use your brain for more productive purposes.
Make a habit of stalking his social networking pages
I know that the temptation is there to log onto Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram to see if he has updated his social networking pages. It makes perfect sense that you would snoop around his profile, looking for possible leads that can assist you in solving the mystery of why he hasn’t called. Maybe you’ll find that he met someone else or was in a secret relationship all along, but honestly, what will that prove? Spare yourself the anger, bitterness, resentment and hurt feelings. Keep it moving and stay off of his online profiles.
Question his friends or family regarding his whereabouts
So maybe he’s introduced you to his friends or family members during the time that you guys were seeing each other. While picking their brains for information on his whereabouts or possibly even probing for reasons why he hasn’t called may seem harmless, chances are they’re going to go back and tell him. Simply put, this is not a good look. And again, what will this prove? Where’s your dignity, girl? I’m going to need you to fall all the way back.
Leave angry voicemails (and text messages)
I know it’s frustrating. How dare he just up and stop calling with no explanation!? Who does he think he is ignoring your calls? You should give him a piece of your mind, right? WRONG! While nobody likes to be snubbed, angry voicemails and text messages are not the route to take. While it may feel good for the moment, I can almost guarantee that you’ll regret it later. And if he’s on the immature side, there’s no telling who he’ll be playing those messages for, clowning you, after you’ve already clowned yourself. Keep your cool, boo. Never let ’em see you sweat.
Continue asking him whats wrong or why he hasn’t called
I have this thing about having to ask a grown man what his issue is more than twice. If you’ve asked him on more than two occasions what his deal is and why he’s acting funny style and he hasn’t given you a straight answer, keep it moving. He’s playing games that you don’t have time for. Step aside and allow him to take his mess elsewhere.
So you really liked him and your feelings are kind of hurt. It happens. You’ve survived worse, so pick yourself up out of that slump. You’ve got way too much to do and accomplish to be wasting time sulking over a man who has proven himself to be fickle. Turn that frown upside down and walk with your head held high. There are plenty of men out there who will recognize just how special you are.
Make excuses for why he hasn’t called
People make time for what they want to make time for. Don’t start making all of these excuses for why this man abruptly began giving you the complete cold shoulder. “Oh, he’s been busy,” or “He’s just going through something right now.” Girl, bye. He’s too busy to send a text or make a brief phone call to let you know what’s going on? Please, a man who truly wants you will go above and beyond to make sure that you’re aware of it.
Be so quick to let him back in when he finally does come back around
They always come back. When he finally comes back around, don’t be so eager to dive back into the relationship head first. Don’t be so quick to go right back to sitting on the phone with him for hours on end. Ask yourself, “Does the man who’s been snubbing for weeks or months deserve my time?” You are not a doll that he can pick up and play with when he feels like it and leave on the shelf when he doesn’t. Keep that in mind when you see his phone number flash across your illuminated LCD screen.
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