Third- Party Action: The Benefits of Couples Counseling Before Saying “I Do”

March 9, 2013  |  


8. Appreciating Your Partner

If you’ve been in a long term relationship, it’s easy to fall into a routine that could leave you and/or your partner feeling you’re being taken for granted or under appreciated. It may not be intentional, but the daily demands of life can make it so you don’t have time to show your love and appreciation like you used to. Couples counseling can make your bond stronger by showing your partner that you care enough about the relationship to give it a boost and to show him that you truly do value him and all that he does for you, and vice versa. Most people just want to feel needed and validated, so if your relationship is getting a bit stale or you feel that your partner doesn’t value you the same way that he or she used to, bringing it up in counseling may be all the fire you need to rekindle the flame.

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  • Annie

    I’m 41 years old and my husband has recently told me that he wanted out of the marriage and he actually left a few days later, after 21 years of marriage…
    …After the initial shock wore off and I was able to think straight…

    …I was able to persuade him to give me and the marriage another chance…
    …I had to wing it with only the strategies in the “save the marriage” book

  • Jazmine

    Most couples only think counseling is for AFTER the marriage, not before…because they think if they need counseling before the marriage, then they shouldn’t be getting married. Which MAY BE TRUE!! We would probably have a lower divorce rate if people did this. Good advice

  • Nikki

    Where I live, the marriage license fee is $30 more if you don’t go to pre-marital counseling. I think it’s a great way to discuss topics that make you uncomfortable, such as finances or grounds for divorce-if any. The marriage counselor might bring up something that you may have forgotten to talk about, like TV or no TV in the bedroom.