Third- Party Action: The Benefits of Couples Counseling Before Saying “I Do”

March 9, 2013  |  
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6. Resolve Lingering Issues/Disagreements

Some couples fight about the same things over and over again, which means they’re not truly addressing the issue at hand, or simply can’t agree to disagree. A counselor who serves as an objective third party may be able to help you resolve problems or conflict because they have no vested interest in either one of you. He or she may also be able to get to the root of what’s really going on, because most times what we’re arguing about and what we’re upset or angry about are two totally different things. A therapist can help you stay on the subject and get to the bottom of your issues once and for all so that you’re recurring argument can finally be put to bed.

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  • Annie

    I’m 41 years old and my husband has recently told me that he wanted out of the marriage and he actually left a few days later, after 21 years of marriage…
    …After the initial shock wore off and I was able to think straight…

    …I was able to persuade him to give me and the marriage another chance…
    …I had to wing it with only the strategies in the “save the marriage” book

  • Jazmine

    Most couples only think counseling is for AFTER the marriage, not before…because they think if they need counseling before the marriage, then they shouldn’t be getting married. Which MAY BE TRUE!! We would probably have a lower divorce rate if people did this. Good advice

  • Nikki

    Where I live, the marriage license fee is $30 more if you don’t go to pre-marital counseling. I think it’s a great way to discuss topics that make you uncomfortable, such as finances or grounds for divorce-if any. The marriage counselor might bring up something that you may have forgotten to talk about, like TV or no TV in the bedroom.