Third- Party Action: The Benefits of Couples Counseling Before Saying “I Do”

2. Determine Your Plans For the Future

Once you’ve determined that you like the same things (and each other), now you need to determine if you want the same things for the future. Just because you get along doesn’t mean you have the same five year plan as your partner; a therapist can help you both see if your plans are in alignment. Sure, you both like children, but do you both want to have them and raise them? If so, will religion play a factor? Do you both want to get married one day? Live in a different city? These are all things that you both should be on the same page with if you plan on having a long term relationship. If one of you has a different idea for your joint futures, then discovering this in counseling early on can help you figure out a plan that works for both of you or help you decide if this is the right relationship for you.