Can I Get A Hook-Up? How To Flirt At Church

March 6, 2013  |  
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While you shouldn’t be going to church with the intent to find a man, you’d be hard pressed to find someone who’d argue that you can’t meet somebody in a house of worship. It can be done. In fact, it happens all of the time. The thing is, you can’t use the same flirting techniques you use at the club at church. You must modify it if you want to have some level of success. So, if a fellow church member has caught your eye, here are a few tips about how you should go about getting his attention

Subtly is key

You don’t want to be perceived as one of those women who would never set foot in a church unless it was to attract a man. So, once you’ve spotted your new boo thang, you have to play it cool. No catching the spirit and “accidentally” passing out in his lap. No throwing your breasts on him when he offers to let you look over his shoulder as they’re reading scripture. You have to keep it cute and find less obvious ways to express your interest.

Don’t Do it During Service

If you’re serious about church, then you won’t be doing the absolute most during the sermon. After all, this is a time for you to be analyzing yourself and making improvements. It’s not a time to mack. There’s something a little sleazy about a thirsty woman on man in the pew. Don’t be that woman. If you want to flirt. Make sure you get there early to chit chat. Or stay late. Talking during the actual sermon is not only tacky, it’s distracting and disrespectful to the people around you. And you’ll quickly become known as the loose booty woman in the congregation.

Let the old folks hook you up

If you want the skinny on the eligible men in the congregation, have a quick convo with the elder women in the church. They know who’s single, who’s married, who’s a player and who’s is just no good. If you’re looking to get the lowdown on the man you’ve had your eye on, these ladies will be able to tell you whether he’s worth your time.

Bible Study

Bible study is a little more flexible. It’s a time for you to communicate and ask questions about the word you’re studying. So you can lean over and ask him a question or two before you get back to focusing. Afterward you can ask him whether he learned anything etc.

Choose the right seat

While you don’t want to do the absolute most, you want to be sure to sit in a place where your crush can see you in case he wants to say hey before service starts or if he wants to tell you to have a blessed week at the end. So no sitting in the back or in a random corner. You shouldn’t be back there anyway, unless you’re one who’s consistently tip-toeing’ in late.

Don’t wear tight clothing

I’m mentioning subtly more than once because I’ve seen far too many women succumb to the thirst. So you need to keep it classy when it comes to your clothes. There’s nothing more obvious and more thirsty than a woman whose skirt is so tight you can see the imprint of her thong or a blouse that exposes a mile of cleavage. It’ll attract attention; but it’ll ultimately result in the church player approaching you with the same game he’s been running for the past 15 years.

Come alone

Not that church is like a club…in that many ways. But human nature rarely changes along with the venue. Just as men are hesitant to approach when you’re with a group of your girlfriends, the same applies when you’re in church. It’s kind of hard for a man to push up on you if your mother, sister, father and grandmother are circled around you.

Ask him what he thought about the sermon

Once the sermon’s over, a nice, thoughtful way to strike up conversation is to ask what he thought about the sermon after service is over. It’s a nice way to get a peek at who he is and where his head is at.

Don’t Do Too Much Too Soon

Once you’re in there, you’ve gone a couple of dates and what not and you’ve decided that you like homeboy, don’t start doing the absolute most. No nudey cell phone pics. No busting it open with a quickness. Just because he doesn’t refuse, doesn’t mean he is not judging you based on this behavior. And just because you met him at church doesn’t mean he’s an upstanding type of dude. Those pics that you thought were for his eyes only might be passed around the whole choir stand. Be careful.

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