What I Look Like?! Favors You Should Never Let Anyone Guilt You Into

April 10, 2013 ‐ By
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Part of being friends with someone is being able to rely on one another when the going gets tough. Because of that, most of us say that there’s nothing we wouldn’t do for our best friends — or even close associates — but when it comes down to it, there’s some stuff that’s just outside of our comfort zone and, if done, will leave us feeling quite resentful and more on the side of frenemies rather than friends. Plus, even by asking these favors, our buddies are just doing too damn much. Here are favors you simply do not have to do if someone asks you to.

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  • Borrowing car now thats a good one, thats also goes for your boyfriend… don’t let him guilt you into borrowing your car if your unsure either!

  • iHM

    Favors you should never let people GUILT you into: ALL OF THEM.
    Favors you should do because you care and want to help: ALL OF THEM.

  • Dbikinigirl

    So what’s wrong with once in a while going out of your way to help someone you call a friend? And if we should not do any of these, (except the expensive trip… I mean, how can anyone convince me to spend money I don’t have on something I didn’t budget for?) then what exactly is it okay for us to do? Remember, also that we could be the ones asking these favors. Imagine the feeling being turned down by someone we consider a true friend. Granted, there are those who take advantage of the relationship, but then, there are also those who genuinely need assistance.

    • tysandsnyc

      I always say give it as a gift, not as a loan, and try to claim it on your taxes.

      No one can predict hard times, but everyone must be accountable for their budget and try to pull themselves out of the hole they are in.

      I have fell on hard times due to the economy, irresponsibility, change in income, you name it! But I refuse to ask for friends for loans since I cherish the friends I have and never want money to come between us and them. Ever!

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    hen she was working that entry level job. Then got mad when I decided to
    go on without her. Now I’m making my own money and have a few employees
    while she trying to stretch her unemployment checks.

  • Akiko

    I don’t do favors.

    • iHM

      What a lovely friend you must be.

  • Keisha Samoht

    My uncle and his BAD a$$ son… he asked if i could watch him and my niece (sister’s child) at the same time for a whole weekend… i lied n said i had a paper 2 do, n got busted the Sunday my niece was to go home; cause they both came over to visit. i was like: 0_0

  • HoneyDipp

    Chile… I wish a mutha WOULD ask me to co-sign anything! Do people actually have the audacity to do such a thing???

    • Keisha Samoht

      Imma pay you back when i get my tax returns…

      • tysandsnyc

        Bïtch! I heard that many of times!


    • tysandsnyc

      Do you know someone asked me this about a month ago? I làughed in their fàce because I thought they were jöking, but they weren’t. Oh, well… Learn how to control your büdget, böo! Bloop!

  • Guest

    Just say no.

  • Thankful

    Omg starting business thing is serious. I started one with my friend because I’m very entrepreneurial and since she lost her job I figured I can put money in both of our pockets. But I realized not everybody is meant to start their own, and some people feel more comfortable working for others. Even if we’re cool, when we’re working you’re suppose to be in business mode and she just wasn’t taking it seriously enough for me. I feel like if you’re making way more than minimum wage be on your job, but she had more tact when she was working that entry level job. Then got mad when I decided to go on without her. Now I’m making my own money and have a few employees while she trying to stretch her unemployment checks.

  • Ms. Kameria

    So basically….don’t do what you don’t want to do or feel uncomfortable doing (for others).

    Got it.


  • ThaVoiceoftheVoiceless

    I just learned the money situation the hard way. Loaned a friend $75 dollars a month ago to help them pay their water bill. Yep, haven’t heard anything from them since and have even resorted to ignoring me on Facebook and faking like they got their number changed.

    • Thankful

      I paid my friend’s phone bill $90 only because she was far along in her pregnancy at the time and I would’ve felt bad if something happened and she couldn’t contact anyone. I gave her a ear full first because I’m like how you laying up with this dude and he can’t even help with out and ya’ll about to have a baby! I was suppose to get my money when he got his check needless to say I never got my money. She tried to make it seem like because she was a new mother I wasn’t suppose to get my money back. I’m like that’s the decision you made. I fell out with her after that because I feel like be real. If you want money than say that. Don’t bs me with this “borrow” crap and then try and play dumb afterwards.

      • ThaVoiceoftheVoiceless

        I’m really tempted to head up to her job to get it, but I don’t want to start anything and get her in trouble or fired you know?

        • Thankful

          Since it was $75 you might want to go ahead and call it a loss. Trust me she will have a time that she really needs it and karma will not allow her to get it. Going up to her job would be a viable option if was a zero at the end. Triple digits deserve rash actions.

          • ThaVoiceoftheVoiceless

            Thankfully I didn’t loan her anymore than I did already, but your right.

        • Akiko

          The better option would be for to you take her to small claims court.

      • Herm Cain

        Like he said on Bronx tale look at that as a fee to get rid of a bad friend forever people like that never change she will burn you to you can’t accept anymore

    • Keisha Samoht

      paid my friends phone bill numerous times, helped her with rent, used to buy her baby diapers, h3ifer moved to Idaho….

      • ThaVoiceoftheVoiceless

        Did she repay any of it back?

        • Keisha Samoht

          Barely. Before i found out she left for Idaho she gave me i think 350 and took me to eat at the Grand Lux… I guess, but she know i aint doin a d*mn thang her no more. she need to stay her behind there.

    • Honesty

      Gave my friend $40 &he disappeared on me. Was always bragging about his DTE checks but when it came to my $40 vanished. $40 though.

  • Nikki

    By my late teens, I realized that there were people taking advantage of me and I was spreading myself too thin. Before I do someone a favor, I ask myself, “Would [insert name] do this for me?” and if I don’t see it happening, I kindly say no.