Does A Prospective Mate Have To Have the Same Level Of Education As You?

February 21, 2013  |  


As a woman, if you’ve been to a club lately, you can do a quick scan of the room and see the odds of finding a man that night are not in your favor. It’s not only the thirsty women that make it hard to meet someone. It’s the fact that generally there are fewer men in the room. And the list gets even shorter when you consider whether or not he checks off your visual appearance box.

Since it’s a fact that there are more women in the United States than men, we are born with the odds against us for finding a life mate. However add in a bit of criteria, like a college degree, and the numbers are staggeringly worse. According to, 22.9 percent of black women between the age of 25 and 29 have college degrees, while only 17 percent of black men have a college degree.

Women are beginning to adjust to this reality. Back in the late ’60s and early ’70s when the feminist movement was prevalent and women were burning bras, it was more likely that a woman with a college degree sought out a mate with equal or more education. However, since the ’70s this number has decreased more and more while the likelihood of men marrying a woman with a college degree has experienced a consistent increase.

In most metropolitan cities, including places like New York and Chicago, college-educated women outnumber college-educated men by an average of 29 percent. However the worst odds are in Sarasota, FL or Augusta, GA where women with college degrees outnumber men with college degrees by 82 percent and 56 percent respectively.

These numbers should not be totally discouraging. Black women, you can find a man! However it may make you put things in perspective when you meet that sweet bus driver instead of trying to hold out for the lawyer. Are you willing to work with the numbers and settle down with someone without a degree?

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  • more

    education Does not guarantee anything! LOOK at BILL CLINTONs CHEATING

    • Kahekili

      Who equates education with whether or not a man will cheat?

      • more

        The women on this page equate education with cheating! When in realty education means nothing

  • lovelyberry

    I have a bachelor’s degree. But, my fiancee only graduated from high school. I don’t care. That man is a genius, smarter than I am, actually. And he makes more money. So, no education does not matter, intelligence does. They are not necessarily one and the same.

  • Janae

    Sometimes low education and or a low paying job means he lacks ambition and goals. It depends on the person. If he can still hold a decent conversation and he works hard, then he is fine with me.

  • Patricia

    There are great men out there who does not have a degree and are hard working everyday. We as black women we need to stop turning our nose up at a genuine man who is a blue collar worker.You have blue collar worker men who makes great money and some black women don’t even give the man the time of day. Even if he is a wonderful guy. Black women also need to stop thinking that every guy has to either be a baller, entertainer, or executive who make six figures, seven figures. This is unrealistic thinking. Every black man does not have a college degree, or has a 6,7 figure income but there are men out there who respectful, hard working and can carry on intelligent conservation, and has a hustle.

    • Kahekili

      Here we go with Black women being told to settle for less or what they don’t want.

  • Candacey Doris

    I’d rather someone who is intelligent, nice and thoughtful but has not been as far as i have in school than someone well educated but a jerk. Education is not the dealbreaker on my list.

  • Tyquinn

    A woman I am dating doesn’t have to have a degree but she has to be doing well for herself.

  • Kahekili

    It does matter. Someone who has the same level of education or more than me is fine. Someone who has less than me is not.

  • Stanley 001

    Social status doesn’t work the same for men and women when it comes to dating. Higher education opens the dating pool for men while women close shrink their dating pool the higher their education.

    • Nope

      I feel the same way about physical fitness and the dating pool between Black men and Black women.