Sitting Around Waiting For The Man Of Your Dreams? Girl, There Are Tons Of Things To Do In The Meantime!

February 6, 2013  |  

 

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It always baffles me when beautiful women consume all of their energy worrying about a man. Why he hasn’t called me? Why doesn’t e like me? I wonder what he’s doing. As Tionna Tee Smalls says, “Girl, Get Your Mind Right!” There are other things you can work on other than being preocuppied with a man who may or may not even be thinking about you. Here’s a list of things you can do to keep busy

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GET YOUR BODY RIGHT

This is one of the things you need to do to make yourself healthier. Not only will you look summer time fine but you will feel more confident and won’t be thinking about him all the time. Besides, there will be even more men checking you out and you will just love the attention. Most importantly, it will boost your energy, confidence and give you something to do.

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GET YOUR EDUCATION

If you are in school, you won’t have time to think about a man with all them books and papers you should be writing. School keeps you busy all week long. The positive side to this is that you will be getting a degree– something that will give you more confidence.

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PERFECT YOUR CRAFT

If you are serious about what you do then you should be spending a majority of your time being the best at it. If you paint, invest in new supplies. If you’re interested in film, attend  a film festival and follow the career of Shonda Rhimes. When focusing on honing your craft, you can never say you don’t have anything to do– you can always learn more.

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FIND A CAREER

Ladies, you should be so focused on entering a new career or getting a promotion at your current job, that you don’t have time for he loves me, he loves me not ramblings. Finding work you love makes life all the more worth wile because it will never feel like an obligation. Men can sometimes be intimidated by real hardworking women but no worries as long as you are happy. If I must speak on behalf of real men, I’m sure they would appreciate your work ethic.

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MIX AND MINGLE

This goes hand in hand with perfecting your craft, you should want to be rubbing elbows with people in your chosen profession. Networking is a good way to meet new people who can benefit you in so many different ways, and possibly even dating, although that shouldn’t be your reason for going.

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GET THE THINGS YOU WANT

Often we spend more time worrying about a man than actually achieving some of the things we want, like getting our own apartment or buying a new car. We don’t need a man to do these things for us and it feels good when we can do them for ourselves and know we’re not setting ourselves up to be dependent on a man.

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TRAVEL

Everyone always told me that before I get married or have kids, I should travel. I never really understood why because you can do that with a husband and kids too. However, it’s nothing like not having any responsibilities or worrying whether you should go because you are risking your relationship. Well since you don’t have to worry about a man anyway, you have no reason not to travel. Girls, get your passport!

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FIND A HOBBY…PRETTY PLEASE

I don’t care if you want to learn how to crochet, sew, ceramics just do something. You ever noticed that men always rely on basketball or some kind of sports? That’s their outlet. Ladies, can we please find ours so when they call us we can say, “oh I was busy making a hat, that’s why I couldn’t respond.”

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TAKE CARE OF HOME

Our home should be first and foremost, whether we live alone or with family. Make sure your home is nice and clean and the people inside are happy- that means you too!

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PUT GOD FIRST

Our spirituality is probably one of the biggest challenges for some of us to depend on when we are lonely. I guess this is the perfect time to tell Him exactly all the things you want in life and exactly what you want in a man and leave it up to Him. No need to dwell on not having a man, he will come when it’s most fitting for your life.

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PUT FAMILY SECOND (OR THIRD, AFTER SELF)

This goes hand in hand with taking care of home. If you have children and close family members, be sure to foster those relationships so they grow stronger. These are the people who really need us and are there for us through ups and downs. No man should come before that.

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BE HAPPY AND HEALTHY

Nothing makes me happier than knowing I am healthy. As women, we struggle with health issues besides weight. So get everything checked out and stay on top of your physical, mental, and emotional health at all times. Instead of worrying about what’s going on with some random man, know what’s going on with you!

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DATE OCCASIONALLY

This may sound contrary to this entire list, but know the definition of dating — meaning you can go out with multiple people you are interested in once and while to get to know each other. You do not have to see people exclusively all the time. You should be so busy with all the other tips here that these guys are just a nice addition to your life, not a necessity.

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GET YOUR MIND RIGHT

Know what you want out of life and learn about yourself. If you are single, there’s no better time to find out who you are, what you like, and what you don’t like, so when you do meet men you can figure out sooner if he needs to be around at all. Plus, we all need our own identity and men love women who know what they want and don’t need them, but want them.

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  • Kahekili

    “It always baffles me when beautiful women consume all of their energy worrying about a man.”

    It always baffles me when people think beautiful women don’t have issues in life.

  • sosweet

    Amen!

  • Miss independent

    This was exactly what I needed to hear! The timing couldn’t have been better, especially with valentines day right around the corner! Thank you MN!

  • Stanley Dada

    “Girl, Get Your Mind Right!”

  • Just saying!!

    Nice list!! Thankfully I do most of these thins but I still took something away from it! Thanks!