Don’t Get Caught In The Net: 9 Signs You’re Being Catfished

January 25, 2013  |  
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Six months ago, most of us had no idea what it meant to be “Catfished;” but in light of the hit MTV show and the recent scandal with Notre Dame’s Manti Te’o, it’s become a household term. Though it would seem that by now, people would be aware of when they’re being duped, all of these recent occurrences prove otherwise. So in the instance that you find yourself in an online relationship or long distance relationship and you’ve never seen this individual in person, here are some signs that you might be the latest victim in a Catfish scandal.

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You’ve never seen them in person…or through a computer screen

Well duh! This is the most obvious sign, so let’s get it out of the way right now. In the days when a face-to-face meeting is nothing more than an internet connection away, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t have had a Skype, Facetime or Google + session. It just doesn’t make sense. Now, if your preferred method of communication has been strictly verbal, and they claim they don’t have an internet connection, you need to suggest they head to their nearest Starbucks, library or internet cafe. If they can’t make that happen, well then you know the deal.

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They never want to talk on the phone

On the flip side, if you only communicate with this person via Facebook chat, G chat, iChat or any other type of chatting service, it should be nothing to exchange phone numbers. Just last night I watched an episode of “Catfish” where a heterosexual man thought he was in a relationship with a heterosexual woman, Amanda. But he’d never talked to her because, in 2012, Amanda didn’t have a cell phone. (Please!) Lo and behold, when they met at the house where homegirl was supposed to be, a gay man strolled out, cool as a cucumber. Throughout their relationship, these two had never spoken on the phone. So naturally, he never got a chance to hear that Amanda had a little too much bass in “her” voice. My point is, before you jump into that much-needed Skype session, the least you can do is hear their voice over the phone. But as we learned with Manti, even that is not enough proof. People are truly crazy these days.

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They’re way too good looking

Have you noticed that with a lot of the Catfish stories, the person looks something like a model? Now, that doesn’t mean that attractive people don’t date online. That’s not what I’m saying. What I am saying is that if the person you’ve been chatting with looks 10 times better than the average person, chances are they’re sending you a photo of someone they are not. The good con artists make sure to change their name to match the photos; but in case they’re a little sloppy, go ahead and drag and drop the image into a Google Image search. If that pic is associated with people, groups and organizations that your amor has never mentioned, that’s a major red flag. Leave it alone.

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There are no cell phone shots

In the days of iPhone cameras and Instagram, you should have seen at least one selfsie. Meaning a picture taken by that person with his or her own cell phone. I mean something in the mirror, something they had to stick their arm out to capture. If all of their photos look like they’ve been taken in some type of studio or by someone else, with an elaborate/scenic background, then you can assume they can’t prove they are who they say they are.

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Your relationship is progressing too quickly

If you find your nostrils wide open over someone you’ve never seen, you might want to pump your brakes. If words like “love,” “need” and “miss” are being used frequently in your conversations, you need to pause for the cause. Think about what is actually going on here. I truly believe you can fall in love with just about anyone; but before you  take that leap,  remind yourself that you have not met this person. You don’t know how they’ll interact with you. You don’t know if you can tolerate their annoying habits. Hell, you don’t know their annoying habits! There is a chance that they could have been lying to you as long as you’ve known them. Hold your emotions at bay until then.

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They don’t live where they told you they did

I’m always amazed at how long these Catfished individuals hold out hope. The minute Nev and Matt tell me that the love of my online life doesn’t live where they told me they’ve lived for the past few years, I know immediately that somebody wasn’t just lying about their location, they’ve probably been lying about their name and undoubtedly, their physical being. The effed up part is that these people usually live within 50 miles of the folks, they’ve been talking to for years. So why haven’t they made an effort to come see you? Why? Because they don’t want you to try to take a road trip to come and see them!

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Your friends are telling you it’s too good to be true.

Now I know we’d love to believe that our friends are just jealous of our newfound happiness; but in actuality, it might be that because they’re not in love and removed from the situation, they’re able to see the potential shadiness behind it all. At least consider their words.

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They have a gang of Facebook friends

There are some social butterflies among us but when your boo has 2,000-3,000 friends that just might be a sign that they’re playing this same game with a few other people.

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You have an idea that “something, something just ain’t right.”

Every person on “Catfish” reaches out to Nev because they suspect that there’s something amiss in their relationship. And guess what, they’re always right. Something is wrong with their boos. If you have that feeling, don’t deny it, trust it. Your intuition is almost always right.

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  • Ray C

    I’m not sure I agree with the cell phone pics, facebook friends, or where they live. I don’t like people asking me to take more pics, and I don’t like getting on webcam at first with people cuz too many people don’t know how to get on by themselves. As for where ya live some people are real nitpicky about someone living exactly within their city limits. Now I can understand if they really live like 300 miles away from where they said.

  • Ray C

    I think it’s more women causing problems on facebook than men. Why are you even adding people to your FB friend list if you don’t want them speaking to you? And on top of that too many females have a facebook persona

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  • Ann

    I want to personally thank Manteo T’ao and Nev for putting this foolishness on the map. After I saw Manteo interview, it is still a lot of things with his interview just don’t add up. This has been going on for a while but we do have Manteo and Nev thank for that bringing it on the forefront. Can somebody please educate me on why is this show called catfish and how does being tricked by people on line dating be called catfish? I am missing something here.

  • Babydoll 70

    Most people have a gang of FB friends but the no self cell phone pics, really?! I don’t have any pics of me taken on my cell phone on my page so that one is iffy.

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  • WhoMe

    Love catfish but i’m starting to think its staged. But im waiting for an honest success story. And the last episode with kj/rod was so confusing! Admit you’re gay or bisexual. Ugh these people are crazy and why are they all meeting off facebook??

    • SunshineBlossom

      Yeah that episode was crazy too. I was like “Just say it: My name is Rod/Kj, and I love the d.”

      • Blakchic

        Bwaaaaahahahaha!
        The people on the show are idiots! So u in love with a guy/ girl who u never even spoke to? C’mon son..how u take somebody seriously when y’all only ” talk” on FB and the only pics u have of them are ones posted in their page? Even if y’all communicate thru email, your pics can be taken and sent in real time…dummies

        • SunshineBlossom

          Right? I’m like how the hell do you carry a “relationship” for 2-10 years and never spoke to them? They can miss me with that. And it was so obvious too I gave a severe side-eye to Rod because of his mannerisms…

      • rzakia

        Yeah that Rod knows darn well that he’s gay. They way he was sitting on that couch when he wanted to confess to Ebony that he only carried on the relationship with her because she was sending him money and paying his cell phone bill was a tell. And if that wasn’t then the way he twirled away after she told him to get out of her house was a dead give away.

        • SunshineBlossom

          And twirl twirl twirl twirl *Kenya Moore’s voice*

  • Miss D

    This show is foolery and I keep watching it! lol. When Tyler was going to meet Amanda, I SWEAR I was thinking ‘It would be messed up if it was a gay black man’. And out comes the white girl….in the black man’s body. LAWWWD

  • M$. LI$@

    that is a good show but it was amazing to me how stupid ppl could be to “fall in love” with someone they have never met or even heard their voice.

  • Trisha_B

    I love Catfish!! The episode that got me was w/ the gay black boy lmao. I felt bad for Tyler. & the episode of the guy who was in the gay chat room but said he wasn’t gay, he got the major side-eye. & how he seemed disappointed to find out the girl he was talking to wasn’t actually transgendered lmao. People play too much. Start the skypin people lol

    • Kenedy

      What about the episode with the hoodrat with red hair & red eyebrows, posing as a dude to.get the other girl to stop talking to the dude she’s sleeping with?? Thats was one ratchet episode

      • Keisha Samoht

        Yo!!! that was the best one yet, besides the one with Tyler. I need to catch up on catfish though… i been missing way too many episodes…

      • Trisha_B

        Yessss! That girl needed to get her life, playing as a dude for 2 years just so this girl won’t take her man. If you had to do all that just to keep the man, you don’t need him

      • Observing

        Red hair and red eyebrows and that HORRID red dress = most ratchet chick ever

      • Observing

        Red hair and red eyebrows and that HORRID red dress = most ratchet chick ever

        • SunshineBlossom

          Lol you right, well you know it is Satan’s favorite color…

      • fool of a tooke!

        OMG, I was NOT expecting that!! That girl will end up killing somebody one day, mark my words! Pure insanity… how does somebody spend almost everyday of TWO YEARS geting revenge?!? Also the epi with the gay black boy and white guy… that was sick too!

    • Whats Normal

      Is there an online site for me to watch this show? I’ve never seen it…

      • Trisha_B

        You could probably watch full episodes on mtv(DOT)com. & it comes on Mondays @11

      • Trisha_B

        You could probably watch full episodes on mtv(DOT)com. & it comes on Mondays @11

      • Babydoll 70

        Hulu

  • SunshineBlossom

    Well some of them were surprising, and other ones (such as Tyler and Amanda) had me saying “But even your friend said it was A-MAN-DUH!!”

    • vwells1

      Absolutely hilarious!

  • sabrina

    …and if you need Nev to help you finally meet your love offline, you’re being Catfished. Point blank period.

  • Danielle

    Catfish is my show!!! Even though I know it probably won’t end well, it’s still entertaining.

    • Ms.Kameria

      I know. I’ m absolutely hooked. It’ s funny how the guys think they’ ‘re about to get some Brittany Spears looking white girl and they end up getting Rick Ross…..

      • MLS2698

        I had no idea what this was until yesterday, when some of my classmates were talking about it. Do they call it Catfish because the people get ” hooked” into a non-existing relationship? I set my TV to it today just to watch it. Just sad how these people are emotionally bankrupt. Some ” Catfish ” were on Dr. Phil the other day too. SMH

        • sabrina

          Yeah probably. When MTV premiered the actual documentary, at the end, the husband of the lady who catfish’ed Nev explained what catfish were and their significance…but I wasn’t paying too much attention so I don’t remember all that he said lol

          but yeah, i love the show.

          • MLS2698

            The most I do is blog on this site, and that can be cray with some of the E-thugs, but I just wish them luck in life and keep it moving. SMH

        • Ms. Kameria

          Yea they get in “Facebook” relationships because for some reason they can’ t find and function in real relationships, and it’ s usually an insecurity issue. The ones that I’ ve seen so far were when people lied about how they look…..whatever…..it’ s funny to me (maybe not to them) but come on now….how are you in an official “relationship” with somebody for years and don’ t really know who they are, and they don’ t want to see you outside of a computer.

          • MLS2698

            Jesus take the wheel…….

          • bigdawgman

            It’s some desperate people out there for real!

      • SunshineBlossom

        DEAD @Rick Ross!!! I can’t lol

      • Observing

        ***DEAD***

      • Observing

        ***DEAD***

    • Ms.Kameria

      I know. I’ m absolutely hooked. It’ s funny how the guys think they’ ‘re about to get some Brittany Spears looking white girl and they end up getting Rick Ross…..