On the season premiere of “Flavor of Love Girls Charm School,” when the participants were talking about their bad behaviors that brought them on the show, Brooke, who was known as “Pumkin” on Flavor of Love said: “Okay, yeah, that’s not classy. I spit on a girl, but I wouldn’t take it back for anything. Because, like, if you don’t do something to be remembered, you’re a nobody, you know?”
No, not only do I not know, but I am a little baffled by the extent that people take to get their 15 minutes. Maybe I’m naive, but it used to be that fame was something that you earned from capitalizing off of hard work, toiling, practicing and perfecting a skill or talent. But now, people are being recognized for proudly proclaiming their nefarious acts and expecting the reward of acknowledgment. It goes beyond reality television. People get into fights and bring their own friends to tape it on their phones so they can post it to websites to be able to brag about “look at what I did!” What about the men who video taped themselves throwing iPads as they worked at Walmart, and purposely dropping them. They purposely uploaded this footage for…I guess for bragging rights? The lack of logic still baffles me.
I feel as time is progressing, people are becoming more infantile, needing, craving and wanting attention and doing anything they can to achieve it. It’s not anything to bash people on, but it makes me concerned for many individuals. I can’t express the sorrow I felt for Winter Ramos as she explained who she was in the clip that we ran a few days ago of her LHHNY introduction. “I’ve dated these guys, I’ve slept with them…” I immediately wanted to send her a basket of mini muffins, because why do you seem to be proud of this?
We all know she isn’t the first one to want to brag and be cavalier about these types of behaviors, but it seems like it creates a domino effect of other people wanting to follow in the same footsteps.
I have my own personal crack-pot theory that adults are more impressionable than children. There’s something about children that is just so freeing, and they are able to be themselves. It’s not until they begin to grow older that the pressures of fitting in and being popular begin to consume them. It seems like the bright lights of fame can be so enticing to some that they’ll resort to whatever they can to do to get it, and I have to say, I’m baffled by it. Like a bug heading toward the bright light, not realizing that it’s a bug zapper, you see people following destructive paths, just to be in the light.
On top of it all, you see people who will create a Disqus profile with the pictures and names of people like George Zimmerman and Adam Lanza. We all know that they’re doing it for attention, they want a rise out of people, but to do it that way? To completely ignore the horrendous acts and the lives that were ruined by the behaviors of these two people and people like them, just so they can finally have someone to acknowledge them, see them, notice them.
Well you know what? We acknowledge you. We see you. We notice you. But honestly, we don’t respect you, and it’ll stay that way until you respect yourself. You have to know that you are somebody. YOU have to be able to validate yourself, and going the route of infamy to get your 15 minutes is not a price that you should be willing to pay. It’s beneath you, and you are worth so much more than you’re crediting yourself for.