I Always Wanted To Ask…Why Are White People So Hell Bent On Using The N-Word?

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January 15, 2013 ‐ By madamenoire

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Black people debate over the n-word all the time and though there’s mixed opinion as to whether we have the right to use the word and should use it, one thing that’s unanimous is that white people should not use the word under any circumstances. Unfortunately, a lot of non-black people seem to have missed that memo. Consequently, they try to sneak in the word any chance they get, whether in a greeting, a rap song, or on the news. We can’t for the life of us understand white people’s fascination with using the n-word; so, we brought it up to the ladies of The Frisky to get their take on this phenomenon and fess up to whether they’ve used the word themselves and think they should be able to.

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  • Plzstop

    Here’s another one: Why are white people so hell-bent on asking people what their ethnicity is? It’s freaking annoying, get over it.

  • Gloria Hayes

    My skin is white, but my heart is whatever color God’s heart is. There are good and bad people of every color, and a name is only a word. It only has the power you let it have in your own soul. My problem is in the fact that a group of people who understand what it is to have to fight for their rights , would deny anyone the right of free speech, no matter how unpleasant. They should get over it, rather than trying to control the actions of another person. The need to control another comes from a weakness in ourselves. When blacks are TRULY free and equal, that freedom will come from within and the N word will only be a word, nothing more. Until then, it is just as wrong to try to forbid whites using it, as it is for the white person to use it.

  • Mggie

    I”ve heard more black people say the “N” word than whites. How can they be offended by it if they persist in using it themselves? Makes absolutely no Sense .

  • Deafer

    No because neither is truly offensive to them.
    They don’t know what it truly feels like to be discriminated against.

    • creepy ass-cracker

      “creepy ass-cracker”

      this is the tail wagg’n the dog. Black’s “say” they want everything to be equal, except only they get to decide what white’s can say or not say. I don’t give a flip about what blacks say or don’t say. They can say whatever they want, and so can I. So can everyone. Obsessing over the so called “N” word is the most racist thing I can recall. Grow up

  • http://astore.amazon.com/memandrec-20 LifeSkills

    Without self-confidence we are as babes in the cradles. And how can we generate this imponderable quality, which is yet so invaluable, most quickly? By thinking that other people are inferior to oneself.

    Virginia Woolf

  • http://www.facebook.com/romeojg30 Julian Romero

    Instead of trying to figure out why anyone, other than black, is wanting to say it we should be trying to figure out how to get rid of it.

  • ShadowsGathered

    This is complete BS… I’d like to know why black people are so hell bent on using the word… there are some words no one should be using – this is one of them… but don’t go telling me white people should never ever use the word if black folks are gonna be slinging it around like it’s the new “WWJD”!

  • chadjack

    Damn, 4 months later and no replies to Jim’s post. Hard to argue against logic….

    • Deafer

      Logic my azz

      It’s because he’s white and doesn’t know what he’s talking about.
      You can tell most of the time because they say ignorant stuff like “it was 150 years ago – it’s over”

      I mean Jim Crow laws weren’t but a few decades ago.

      • chadjack

        I love it when a racist dares to say someone else is ignorant.

  • sls0588

    Nobody should be using this word. It was a word created to oppress a race of people. If our society is so progressive as we claim it is, then this word should’ve been phased out from our vocabulary a long time ago. I hate when rappers/artists use it because it encourages it’s use and makes it “ok”. Or i’ve heard people who have the “hood pass” saying it as well. It doesn’t matter who is saying it, it’s just plain wrong.

  • Appalled Citizen

    Question: Why are black people hell bent on saying the word….all the freaking time? It’s not about white people using it. It’s about its usage in popular black lingo. I can’t listen to most any rap song without the word being thrown out 50 million times, nor can I pass buy a group of black people without hearing the word come out like it was an adjective to describe something or a proper noun as if it was somebody’s name.

    2nd point: It’s a word. Nobody has dibs on it. Either we all have the right to free speech, or none of us do. And last I checked, we can all say whatever the hell we want to. It’s not your place to tell people who can and who can’t say something. You’re not the judge. You’re not God. I’ve got free speech. Period.

  • SurfaceOne_1

    White people are hell bent on saying the ‘n’ word because for 1. They think it’s cool. I don’t care what anyone says – black culture is synonymous with hip, cool and trendy. The ‘n’ word and it’s use is so ingrained in the black culture that when trying to associate oneself with that community people seem to think it’s almost a right to say it or necessary to be accepted or to prove how ‘hood’ you are. 2. People don’t like to be told “no”. Not being able to have something is usually just going to make you want it even more. Whether it’s because of racism or just out of wanting to penetrate that mystique surrounding the word – when a boundary is put up it just fuels a hunger for the thing off limits. Now I gotta say that I don’t agree with a lot of the posts that I’m seeing. It isn’t just a word. It’s a slur. At one point it was used to degrade and to harm and whether or not that your intended use of the word it can still be offensive. I’m one of those black people who says it but doesn’t like when white people say it. I don’t get all up in arms about it and I don’t even argue with people about it’s use anymore but I don’t associate with anyone outside the Black race that thinks it’s okay to use it when you know it can be offensive and you already know my personal feelings on the subject. It’s a simple as this – if I tell you it’s offensive there’s no argument to be had. Just accept it. I don’t care what your reasoning is – “Oh, you guys say it!” – well you aren’t one of us…so…don’t even go there. I sometimes think White people are living with a kindling of Social Darwinism left in them – “The strong survive” “It’s our right to rule” – and that’s why they can’t deal with a boundary like that. A simple word is off limits. “No. That’s can’t be allowed. We must have everything and conquer everything because we are entitled to everything.”

  • DIVADCR

    Your question is why is Caucasions so hell-bent on using the N word my question is why are African Americans so hell-bent on using it? Its not as if its the rites to spring, some secret club word, and i don’t give a crap who uses it, the word =degradation always has, when i was younger, around 8 i, was playing outside my South Philadelphia home with my brothers and sisters and freinds., 6th and Mckean., we looked up and a crowd was coming from one end we did’nt know what was going on, we understood when we realized there were people coming from the other end and both sides were of opposite races one caucasion the other African American, it was a race riot my mother a single mom pulled us to safety lights out and lay down on the floor, it was frightening, but i did get the chance to see the police with billy clubs hitting at anyone they could, i heard the shouts of the N word, it was nothing new to me as i had heard it many times as i fought my way into a catholic school education my father insisted i had until the day he died and my mother was told he would not be allowed to be buried by that church! I don’t care who uses this word, to me this word never is and never will be an acceptable word, if the electronics today were available then, no one would be saying this word, although they only need look to history to understand why they should not be proud of it, getit together!

  • http://twitter.com/ExXxoticTirzah Tirzah Burt

    Born and raised in Mississippi, I grew up hearing this word often. It was always uttered with a whisper… I’ve never heard a white person call a black person the N-word to their face. Anyhoo… personally, I don’t like the word or any variation of it either. It disgusts me. I don’t care who uses it, I think it’s stupid. Also, I don’t like hearing people say “It’s our word, you can’t use it!” That’s fking stupid as well. NO ONE should use it. It’s one of those things, instead of arguing over who should or shouldn’t use it, in what way, or which spelling….. just drop it altogether!

  • anonymouse

    Your most recent comment to me didn’t pass moderation and I’m 90% sure that the comment by grph is sarcasm. The fact that you co-signed the comment explains a lot.

    • David Williamson

      My post wasn’t allowed because I used one single word that is a lot less offensive than a lot of words used here. But they have their standards to keep. I didn’t get ticked off about it. I used a word to describe anger that would sound like sis. What can I say, I didn’t think that wouldn’t pass when you see the ones that do.

    • David Williamson

      No kidding there anony. My first two sentences were of the same. Even in sarcasm, the comment makes more sense than yours do. That’s why I came back the way I did. No matter what you say, your elders fought, and fought hard to stop the usage of this word. But you refuse to see that. People died over this word, and you use it in fondness. I just can’t see the logic behind that, sorry I guess that’s just the way I see it.

      • anonymouse

        still on this?? no, they wanted the people who were using the word to kill,oppress and dehumanize to not use it. You can’t get the logic behind what I’m saying because we don’t share the background or history. And speaking of that history,I’m not really feeling u as a white person trying to tell me as a black person what’s appropriate or not to my own history and circumstances.

  • get real

    I bet these white girls die laughing at these “poor little black girls” when these sit downs are over. And reading these comments just let me say you women are dumb. “I can’t get mad at white people for saying the N word because we say it” .wth? I say it and will always say it and a white person better not say it around me.

  • Levi

    Why are some black people so obsessed with race whilst claiming that everybody else is racist? I’m Jewish, born in the UK and gay. I’m proud of who I am as a person, but I can laugh at myself and allow others to laugh at me without being offended. I may get offended if somebody tries to physically hurt me or damage my career or relationships, but making a joke about me or calling me a name relating to my race, nationality or sexual orientation is not at all offensive. All human beings have many different aspects to their lives that make them what they are and race is just one aspect. Political correctness is dying the slow miserable death that it deserves.

  • To la

    I think what’s frustrating is that to some extent I understand why we as black people have tried to take ownership of the word but for god’s sake it’s backfired. For me as someone who is biracial I never use the word and find it disrespectful to our ancestors. But aside from that I think people in my generation white, black, Hispanic never take that into consideration. At the end of the day we’ve made a lot of progress but are definitely not living in a post racial society where the negative connotation of that word will go away. The difference between that word and many other racial slurs that are out there right now are not as commercialized as this word. With it being so commercialized how can you not expect it to be thrown around by all races thinking that its cool. I just feel at the end of the day the average person isn’t especially our youngest generation never are seriously sat down and told the truth, the history, and the hatefulness of this word in depth and in seriousness. Instead young kids come into this world being native and repeating the same words they hear from there role models. What’s ironic too is that if you did the research you’d fine that 71% rap music is bought by white upperclass males.

  • David Williamson

    It’s this type of attitude that whites find offensive. Some blacks feel
    they have a right for certain things but no other race should have it.
    When a race thinks they have an exclusive right to something, that in
    itself explains the anger whites have for this issue.

    Whites had clubs that were for whites only, think golf here or a man’s society
    club. Blacks and other races said this was illegal, rightly so in my
    opinion. They fought in the courts for the right to have access to
    these “White Only” clubs. Blacks finally won the right to join these
    clubs and access has been opened by the courts. Blacks also went to
    courts to make it illegal for non-blacks to use the “N” word in a
    derogatory way. It is now illegal to do so. When a white uses the “N”
    word in this fashion, they can be found guilty of a “hate crime”.

    So whites look at this term and say, well if I use it I can be found
    guilty of a crime. But if blacks use it they are doing so fondly???
    When any race feels they have exclusive rights of any kind, others look
    at it and say that isn’t fair. Think white’s only here. How did
    black’s feel when they were /are looked over for a promotion? I bet it
    wasn’t acceptable to you. Yet blacks have been promoted now over other
    races just because they are black. I understood the intention of the
    law, but it created the same anger that the black’s had in the same
    situation.

    How can a race feel that they have the right to have
    something other races can’t have or use? I think many blacks just got
    mad at me for that statement, but wait. I was talking about white’s
    thinking they have the right to do this. So no matter what the
    situation is, you CAN NOT have exclusive rights to something and not get
    any backlash from it. Two wrongs do not make a right, does it?

    So
    when blacks hear the “N” word and get angry, think about what I have
    said here. Also think about “Respect” and what it means. If black’s
    call themselves the WORD, why can’t white’s? If some blacks can’t
    respect themselves by calling each other by this term, how can they get
    angry when someone else uses it? As Bill Cosby said in his trip to
    Detroit, why should others show respect, if you can’t respect
    yourselves? I hate that word, and the biggest reason is there are
    blacks who feel they have this exclusive right to use it but whites
    don’.

    You are asking whites to accept that blacks have exclusive
    rights that they can’t have. This is exactly what blacks are mad
    about. So why is it a correct policy to accept this in any way? Don’t
    ask any race to accept less right’s than any other race. Isn’t that
    what black’s want? To be equal in all ways, except certain ones? No
    way, that isn’t legal to have rights guaranteeing exclusive rights of
    any kind. Blacks do want equality in all areas, but some feel they have
    this exclusive right to do and have certain things. You can’t have it
    both ways, decide if the “N” word is a derogatory term or isn’t it?
    If a white person uses that term it is offensive, and it is also so
    when blacks use it. The term is foul and shouldn’t be used by any race
    in any situation. Don’t ask any one, any race, to show respect for
    someone that doesn’t respect themselves. This is just my opinion, but I feel I have shown a logical reason for it.

    • anonymouse

      nigg@,please!! nobody’s stopping you from saying it, just be man enough to deal with the consequences that come with it. And comparing your ‘right’ to say it to racial discrimination is the dumbest thing I’ve read on here and that’s saying a lot.

      • Guest

        You are right, I can say it. But if I say it towards a black person, I can be arrested and convicted of a crime. If the black person says it, it’s said so in fondness. Again as Bill Cosby would say “RIGHT”! Have you ever listened to a rap song. From the songs I have listened to, the N WORD is usually not used in fondness, it is used in a derogatory manner. No race should use this term. Did you read my comment? I did not say I had the right to use it because of race discrimination .

      • David Williamson

        You are right, I can say it. But if I say it towards a black person, I
        can be arrested and convicted of a crime. If the black person says it,
        it’s said so in fondness. Again as Bill Cosby would say “RIGHT”! Have
        you ever listened to a rap song. From the songs I have listened to, the
        N WORD is usually not used in fondness, it is used in a derogatory
        manner. NO RACE should use this term. Did you read my comment? I did
        not say I had the right to use it because of race discrimination. I said “that the term is offensive, and it is also so when blacks use it. The term is foul and shouldn’t be used by any race in any situation.” Did you reply to the wrong comment? Where did I say what you accuse me of?

        I also said ” I hate that word, and the biggest reason is there are
        blacks who feel they have this exclusive right to use it but whites
        don’t.”. Meaning that the fact blacks use it but it illegal for whites is just wrong. I later said ” you CAN NOT have exclusive rights to something and not get
        any backlash from it”. This column questions why whites use the word, and my comment tried to address that question. In no way shape or form did I say it was OK to do so. After every example I would say how I disagreed with those opinions. Yet you say I approve because of racial discrimination is offensive as all h3ll.

        Next time before commenting on someone’s post, you should read it first!!!! Sorry about the tone, but this comment really gets to the core of my being, and it ticked me off. SORRY again to all readers for the reply I have posted here. I hope you can understand my attitude towards such an offensive comment. If @anonymouse wants to talk about dumb, look in a mirror before judging.

        • anonymouse

          I skimmed and read your essay and the main idea was the two lines that you quoted from it- you have a problem with the fact that Blacks can use it and Whites can’t. And it’s still one of the dumbest things that I’ve ever seen posted here. The white man is the one who coined the terms and has been saying it freely for hundreds of years and now when Blacks say it, all of a sudden the big reveal comes that it’s not such a nice word and nobody should say it. BS!! You can’t TELL Blacks what they can and can’t say because you as a WHITE man are offended by it.

          You started off your little rant by saying, ‘this is the type of attitude that whites find offensive’…….don’t be fooled, the majority of blacks don’t give a d@mn about what white people think, are offended by, nor do we need their respect or their approval.

          When you compare White’s only clubs to blacks being the only ones allowed to say the word and then you’re going to get all indignant when I bring it up?? Really??

          I have no problems saying it and I don’t discriminate, either. Maybe one day all people will stop saying it….maybe one day men and women will stop saying b!tches and hoes. Maybe folks will stop using the ‘f’ word as a noun, verb and an adjective, but I wouldn’t hold my breath on any of that happening soon.

  • GlenJordan

    I should have watched the whole segment before commenting. One panelist made said that journalists have to, and are able to avoid using other offensive words even if they’re a part of the story, so why can’t they avoid using n******? Good point, so never mind the journalist part!

  • GlenJordan

    So…if I were a real man I could yell n***** and feel fine about it?

  • Rochelle

    To me it’s not confusing at all, white people. Don’t say it. Don’t call it N— in paris just say Paris or whatever. I’m black and I’ve never been compelled to say the whole song and nobody had to explain. For me, it’s a choice. For you, it’s not and it’s not that hard to eliminate the word from your life. White people just don’t like being told what not to do and that’s all it is really.

    • GlenJordan

      Not all white people want to say it. To me the thought of it feels like yelling out obscenities in church, and I’m not alone among whites in feeling that way. No one likes to be told what to do but I get the vibe from some whites who argue that everyone should be able to say it that they *are* racist. Some of them also may have old ignorant uncles who say it, so they’re arguing that it’s not evil so they can tell themselves their uncles are nice guys.

      Replying to my comment above some guy told me, “You’re a guilty white man. Grow some b***s.”

    • David Williamson

      So by your words, it’s OK for one race but not another? Isn’t that exactly what blacks complained about since becoming citizens, if not longer. It’s OK for me but not you, or the other way around. If that was applied to rules for entering a club, would the same logic prevail? It’s fine for me to enter but not you. Are you crazy, what ever happened to the equal rights that so dominated the 60’s. I supported those days and I still do now. That’s why I take offense to black’s using that derogatory term. It has nothing to do with being told not to use it.

      I’m sorry, but I just can not understand why someone would use such a term that your parents and grandparents hated down to the core of their souls. You say it’s used in fondness? How can that be, because you make it n**ar not er? That is just wrong in all senses of the word. This argument can go on forever, but I will never agree with the disrespect it represents when it’s used.

  • Mina

    Why are my black people so hell bent on using it? I can’t ride the subway on any given day without hearing some black or hispanic young person using it like they are sneezing!!! It wasn’t cool to do it in my day but now all of a sudden this is something mandatory. Like you’re not really down if you don’t use. People raise your kids!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/minkysmom82 Alexis Morris

    white people still know better even if ‘blacks are using it’ I never say is in any form and a white boy felt like he needed to inform me he needed to ‘n-ggerate’ something on his car. smh. he could have said anything else.

  • Babydoll 70

    First of all, non blacks started off using the N word first. My question is why are blacks so hell bent on using the N word?

    • BlueCornmoon

      Some of our folks are “thrown off”. Trying to redeem an ugly word applied to them by folks who enslaved them.Can’t clean up some things. Take rotten meat for instance. You can sterilize it, put fine sauces on it, gourmet cook it, dress it up fine & serve it on a gold platter in the most expensive restaurant to high falutin’ royalty but it’s still….rotten meat.

  • Melissa

    The women who control this site are so ignorant, you all post my comment in moderatin. When there was no vile, or insulting words in it. But I’m looking at posts that do have hat language.

  • freespeech

    say it, say it, say-it the N-word all you want. white, black, red, brown and yellow. Just say it.

    No one can own a word, you cerebral challenged people. Guess what, rap music
    is a multi-million to billion dollar industry and let me think, ummm… what…. is…..
    the… main…. word…. in….. EVERY rap song (I apologize that’s overgeneralization)
    98.9 % of every rap song, is it
    B***h (not it)
    H*e (close but not it)
    I know it what it is, but what a minute I remember when the above two words made women mad and upset. Now these two words are universal, it’s like Bernie Mac said B***H and H*e is a noun- a person, place or thing.

    Cause if I buy a lil wayne, rick ross, ace hood, Jay-z, Young Jeezy, (Pick any Rapper) CD you bet I’m going to learn all the words and sing All the Lyrics.

    And if you happen to be riding in my Prius while my jam is playing……..then

    JIGGA MY NIGG@

  • clove8canela

    I don’t like the use of the word @ all. For those people who can’t seem to understand why it’s usage is unacceptable, I say this: just like you can hurl an insult at your brother or sister, though it may not be right, an outsider better not do the same, because that is a unique & individual relationship that you share, regardless of the circumstances.

    I’ll admit, I liked the song, but I hated the title. First, due to the ignorance of it, but secondly due to the fact that this word would travel all over the world, to cultures unfamiliar with the dark, twisted history of that word, and in turn, think its ok to call you that.

    Jay-z also refers to beyonce as a b!tch in that song which I thought was incredibly disrespectful. I do wonder how they’ll feel when other people feel comfortable referring to their children as n-words & b!tches since its “okay” to use the word now.

  • GlenJordan

    I’m a white guy and I
    don’t remember ever saying it or writing it. I’ve been conditioned to
    be uncomfortable with it and I’m not eager to change that. (Must have been in school because I had some racist relatives.) Now, whether
    whites are obligated to use “n-word” when quoting or discussing the word
    is another matter. I for one don’t like the idea of using the word even
    to quote it (and I don’t), nor do I like the idea of Huckleberry Finn being banned or
    scrubbed of that word. If I wrote a novel or screenplay that included a
    racist character, I’d have the character say whatever the character
    would say, however distasteful.

    • tldrkhnsm

      Typical.

      • GlenJordan

        If you’re going to dismiss me, at least be more specific.

      • Deafer

        You didn’t HEAR what this person really said, did you? He made perfect sense.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Robbin-Melton/100000684532644 Robbin Melton

    So sick of this “debate.” If we refer to each other this way, which we don’t in our biracial household, how can we expect others not to use it too? We need to stop being hypocritical and grow up!

  • BBB1972

    I’m so glad white women hate Gwyneth Paltrow.

  • ElvisWasAHero2Most

    Their fascination with the word is due to our ambiguous use of the word.

    On one hand we think it’s racist, then on the other we use it as a term of endearment, then we add that it’s a term exclusively for Blacks (and Hispanics seem to be able to use as well) to articulate. So, I can understand the confusion of white people. Me personally, I say let them say it. If they do, they will only look ignorant (sort of like how we look for using it). The white people I know who use the word mean no harm, but to outside eyes they look stupid and racist as hell for saying it. I get more upset at Black people, who after the all the crap we’ve been through, get buck wild if they overhear some white guy rapping a Jay-Z song with the n-word in it.

    • anonymouse

      they are not ‘confused’,they just want to say it and will use any excuse to do so. Ex. that white guy from some years back who got bashed for saying ‘niggardly’.He knew what he was doing.

    • anonymouse

      they are not ‘confused’,they just want to say it and will use any excuse to do so. Ex. that white guy from some years back who got bashed for saying ‘niggardly’.He knew what he was doing.

    • Not Confused!

      I’m white and I’m not confused. I just don’t think that a derogatory term such as this should ever be used. How can someone today, use it after all that happened in the 60’s to rid the world of such terminology? After all the violence and hatred associated with this word, how can anyone use it in fondness? There is no confusion here, I think the confusion lies with thoses using it, that’s all.

    • Deafer

      I can’t believe you let white people say that around you.
      I’d bust their teeth in…

  • FREE

    I personally feel like we as blacks should have the right to use this word. We basically turned a negative word into something we can all as blacks use in a non negative way . Its our own word something no other race would ever understand. There is a huge difference in the word when it ends with {er} when other races use it, and {ga} when spoken from a Black person. Im personally disturbed when our own race says things like “we degrade ourselves” whether in the media, in our music or simply by using the word which we personally understand and relate to. We should be proud of our accomplishments and support one another as people whether you like what someone is doing or not. We have came a long way and now have many different outlets to become financially free to help our future generations, and immediate families,

    • tldrkhnsm

      Seriously? Sista ya gotta be clownin’!

      • BlueCornmoon

        AMEN. Using that word is like vocabulary dumpster diving in someone else’s linguistic trash & keeping it for your own…and being proud to do it. O..M…G !

  • FREE

    I personally feel like we as blacks should have the right to use this word. We basically turned a negative word into something we can all as blacks use in a non negative way . Its our own word something no other race would ever understand. There is a huge difference in the word N***er when other races use it, and N***a when spoken from a Black person. Im personally disturbed when our own race says things like “we degrade ourselves” whether in the media, in our music or simply by using the word n***a which we personally understand and relate to. We should be proud of our accomplishments and support one another as people whether you like what someone is doing or not. We have came a long way and now have many different outlets to become financially free to help our future generations, and immediate families,

    • MelaninEnriched

      The problem I have with this is, it’s NOT our word. We didn’t start calling ourselves this and there is still no positivity in it. I don’t understand when Black people say that one letter somehow changes the context of a word. In certain settings, it can be construed as a term of endearment (I guess), but it’s mostly negative. You only take something back when it was yours to begin with. I don’t see other races embracing racial slurs and turning them into something “positive”; they disavow it and dare you to say it. So even though I’ve heard Black people talk about turning it into something positive, I don’t understand how. Would you call an older Black person who actually lived through the Civil Rights era a n***a? If you wouldn’t go up to that person and say n***a OR n***er, then it’s still not positive because as a collective race we haven’t embraced that, nor do I think we should; the origin is too soiled.

      • SMHgurl24

        Preach boo preach!!

      • Guest360

        Thats EXACTLY what I’m saying. How can you take back something that was A) never yours to begin with and B) was historically used to humiliate and degrade your ancestors? You brought up a good point. If you can’t say it to someone who lived and fought through the Civil Rights era (without them handing you your hind parts afterwards), then why even bother trying to do it now? Its not a good word and I SMH at some trying to make it so yet are the first ones to be offended when other people try to use it. If it’s so “positive”, whats the problem in a white person using it? Its a term of endearment, correct?

  • KJ23

    I LOVE THESE SEGMENTS!! KEEP IT UP!!!

  • SMHgurl24

    If you don’t want other people to say it, don’t say it yourselves! Don’t support people/ entertainment that uses the word also. Your an idiot if you think certain words can be banned against other races.

    • Guest360

      I gotta say IA. I can’t be mad at a white person who says the n-word when you have black people saying it no matter what and say so in a rap song no less where white people will more than likely sing along to it, what do you expect? Personally, I would like for everyone to stop using it. Black people included. Its disrespectful. You can’t “take back” something that was used to cause us great pain and humiliate us. JMO.

      • ok…..

        Wrong because white folks took it from us..it was our word first.. it was pronounced “Naga” meaning serpent or serpent people

        • Meyaka

          I need evidence of what you’re advancing.

        • ANirvana

          I’ve never heard of this, however, i learned that the word derived from Niger, which was where most of the slaves were taken from. Europeans were pronouncing it incorrectly, and spun it into a derogatory slur

        • Jim

          Oh? So the word was copy righted? THEREFORE can never be used by other people? If that’s true, then maybe any ENGLISH you speak is copy righted. STOP speaking it.
          So, give me a break. “TOOK IT FROM YOU”???? Every word out there came from somewhere else.

        • http://profile.yahoo.com/WATBVT4MPTXRQXX6H3776CRVQI Mr. Divo

          Are you really aware of how frigging stupid you sound Guest 360?

        • carl

          naga is close to the word nioka in lingala. it means snake

        • snoopb

          So true, this is how i pronounce it. when i’m not around my black friend of course!!

      • chanela

        you know what this is SOO true! i was just thinking about this when i was in the club on friday. it was nothing but white,hispanic,and asian people in the club i was in and the DJ was playing hiphop. that was ALL you hear was N*gg* this and b**ches that. every other word was n*gg* so can how is it their fault that it has a catchy beat and lyrics(aka the only reason why the song is allowed to see the light of day in the first place)

      • Bree

        I disagree. Just because someone uses a word does not give you should say it. I do not use the word and the ones who do don’t represent me.

      • Bree

        I disagree. Just because someone uses a word does not give you should say it. I do not use the word and the ones who do don’t represent me.

      • Mina

        Stop with that excuse. It’s not true. You can’t say that anymore. It’s played out.

    • chanela

      thank you!it always annoys me when black people would say “it’s disrespectful to my ancestors” and then immideately after, turn up the volume on a rap song that’s laced with it. don’t use it at all if you think it’s so offensive. do you think your ancestors would be too happy about your calling your friends,family and your children that? (yes,i’ve heard people call their kids “lil ni**a” and “n*glette*”SMH)

    • rosetta stone

      If black people want to use this word, thats on us. But that does not give people who dont share our history, culture or anything else the right to use it. the same way a gay man wouldnt feel offended if another gay man called him a f****t but he would be offended if a straight man was to call him one. its not your place to use the word if you arent from the culture. period.

      • Guest360

        Firstly, you’ll never hear a gay man call another a f*****t or a jew calling another a k**e, the chinese calling each other c***ks or the like. I don’t see white people “taking back” c****er anytime soon because they know better and know the history surrounding the word. Its only black folks who use racial insults at each other and do so under the guise of it being a “term of endearment”. I love my people but sometimes we can be so a$$ backwards that it actually astounds me when people try to justify it. And what are you talking about they don’t share our history? They came up with the word!! The only reason why it exists is because other races developed it (Negra/negro and what we consider to be the n word) and used it to describe us negatively.

        • GlenJordan

          Some gays did start using “queer,” which had been strictly derogatory. It seems like the motives were similar.

        • http://www.facebook.com/minkysmom82 Alexis Morris

          gays do use the f word with each other playing sometimes.

        • Mina

          Thank you!!!

        • Deafer

          Do the gays know you are speaking for them?
          As the others have noted, yes gays DO call each other f-gs and f-gg-ts.

      • SMHgurl24

        This past summer I took a class some place in Philly. Every last student (about 15) was black and besides me and the teacher, NONE of them were African American. Actually over half of them came to the US within the past decade from non African countries. What “culture” owns that word, the “African American” culture or “black” culture? What is the “black” culture anyway, guys in the media saying the N word in a demeaning way towards each other or calling black women in general b****** and speaking of them as if their useless property? That isn’t my culture and will never be my culture. Anyone who justifies the use of this word knows NOTHING about the history of it and needs to take a good hard look on their ignorance.

      • Babydoll 70

        That explanation sounds ridiculous and I hope no one buys into that foolishness.

  • Derek

    lol black people hate themselves.