But He Says She’s Just A Friend! Signs That Your Man & His Friend Are More Than Homies

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January 6, 2013 ‐ By Brooke Dean
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Ever date a guy who keeps a lot of female company, only for him to be like “We’ve never done anything, we’re just friends”? Sure, men and women can be platonic friends, and no one should have to get rid of their friends of the opposite sex just because they’re dating someone new. But sometimes there’s just one of his female friends who’s on your radar, because they seem just a little bit too chummy.  If you’re not sure if your man and his friend are really just friends, here are a few warning signs to look out for to see if your relationship is in the danger zone.

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  • Stylnista

    This article is so on point. I experienced all of this from 1 to 14 with my ex. Smh, and I knew something was up but chose to believe the man I loved, over my on “better sense”. That gut feeling that we ignore far to often. It is out right disrespect when your man carrys on with another woman like this, friend or not, baby Moma or not. From his so called friends playing games to see who he would choose down to him being dishonest about the true nature of the friendships, whether past or present, I came to realize he was not committed enough to me to set them straight and obviously there was some funny business going on. In all fairness taking on a new relationship & intergating friends is sometimes a challenge because women & men as well can be overprotective or even territorial, & just want to make sure the new boo is right for their friend. I get it and I can appreciate a friend like that. As long as she know her place & respect my position, because any of the above behavior want fly. Like another post said “ain’t nobody got time for that. Being out of that relationship & having moved on to the right one for me, I now have someone who values us & what we are building. We have an understanding & have boundaries in place for said friends that try.
    it…you know the type & our spouses whom.both of us have children with.

  • Stylnista

    This article is so on point. I experienced all of this from 1 to 14 with my ex. Smh, and I knew something was up but chose to believe the man I loved, over my on “better sense”. That gut feeling that we ignore far to often. It is out right disrespect when your man carrys on with another woman like this, friend or not, baby Moma or not. From his so called friends playing games to see who he would choose down to him being dishonest about the true nature of the friendships, whether past or present, I came to realize he was not committed enough to me to set them straight and obviously there was some funny business going on. In all fairness taking on a new relationship & intergating friends is sometimes a challenge because women & men as well can be overprotective or even territorial, & just want to make sure the new boo is right for their friend. I get it and I can appreciate a friend like that. As long as she know her place & respect my position, because any of the above behavior want fly. Like another post said “ain’t nobody got time for that. Being out of that relationship & having moved on to the right one for me, I now have someone who values us & what we are building. We have an understanding & have boundaries in place for said friends that try.
    it…you know the type & our spouses whom.both of us have children with.

    • Stylnista

      *ex spouses

    • Stylnista

      *ex spouses

    • The Irony

      That is real. Funny thing about women though is they carry a ton of male friends like it is ok. What is even funnier is they can swear up and down the friendship is more than what it is and move on and be with a “friend” when the relationship ends. While a man is still friends with his friends.

      • Stylnista

        Maybe you meant some women carry a ton of male friends because I surely do not keep men flocking around me just because or until a rainy day. Since you are generalizing I have to also say I myself have never moved on with a “friend”, but you’re absolutely right some play that game, not all of us. Also, a man has the right to be friends with whomever, after the relationship & during. But a man, that cares & values his woman wouldnt see it as funny like you said that she was wrong, he would address her concerns. But the irony in my story is I had a guy that didnt care enough one way or the other, now I do. && our friends combinded our grown enough to not bring the foolishness, because we would simply say bye. Now thats funny.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1279772105 Anita Cates Hodges

    I didn’t feel like clicking thru all the pages, but most of this sounds like me and MY best male friend ;-) Uh oh!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1279772105 Anita Cates Hodges

    I didn’t feel like clicking thru all the pages, but most of this sounds like me and MY best male friend ;-) Uh oh!

  • GM_I

    Sign #1: He has a p3n1s
    Sign #2: She has a vagina
    Sign #3: There are no more signs, idiot…those two are FUCCIN!!! lol XD

  • GalaxyEmpress

    I can’t!!! Anytime I hear a man say “oh, she’s just my friend,” I automatically know what’s up. The fact that the three of you can’t be friends together is rather telling, he’s playing games and that isn’t all. He’s interested in her or they’re having sex, these men try to be sneaky and clever but they never can be, always listen to him. I mean really listen to how he words things, read in between the lines and always, always, always go with your gut feelings. It’s like some if these men get off on hurting and playing mind games with women, it’s truly disturbing.

    Ain’t………nobody……..got……time……..for…….that!!!

  • zombieprincess

    It’s the damn gaming system that’s the problem, not other women.

    • SunshineBlossom

      *dead* My man has friends that play that 24/7!