I Like My Men With Good Sense: 9 Signs That Your Man Might Be Crazy
In the early stages of dating, people tend to put up a front. A lot of times, you don’t get to know who they really are until months, sometimes years later. Yeah, it sucks, but we live in a world where those same people playing characters are the ones who are missing a few screws. Therefore, dating can be a dangerous game, especially for us women. So if you’re getting snuggly with someone new, you may want to take a look at these signs of a crazed man so you can be ready for whatever hot messes might come your way. If any of them sound familiar, then you might want to find a way to let him go gently, and head for the hills.
He Gets Mad When You Interact With Other Men
It’s okay to get a little jealous from time to time, it can even be cute, but if every time your eyes meet with another guy, even for a second, or every time you have a little convo with another man, it’s a problem for him, then it will be a problem for you. If you’re flirting, that’s one thing (and you should stop), but if he’s just not comfortable with other men interacting with you whatsoever, it will continue to be an issue that will invite unwanted drama into your life. Warning, this brother is the loony possessive type. Save yourself and run the other way.
He Tells You He Is
It was Maya Angelou who once said that the first time someone shows you who they are, believe them. Well, add to that, when they tell you they’re crazy, believe them too. And then run! Okay, so a lot of people say things that they don’t mean, but if your new beau tells you he’s crazy, you may want to take him seriously. Even a simple, “My ex tried to call me crazy, I don’t know what that was about” should be fair warning for you. It’s better to take his word for it than to see for yourself.
He Has That Look In His Eye
Ever met someone who just looks like they will snap at you at any minute for any little thing? You know, the ones always frowning, eyes looking full or rage and confusion? It’s that stare that says “something ain’t right” and something isn’t right if he keeps it on his face 24/7. If he has it, well, let’s just say I wouldn’t trust ‘em, and hey, I wouldn’t make him mad either. Back away slowly…
Anyone who can listen to stories about innocent people being hurt, or just any news in general that brings about sorrow without expressing some type of horror, disgust, or just a reaction in general, should raise a red flag for you. If this is your man, he’s obviously emotionally detached, and while an emotionally attached man might not be on the list of qualities you’ve always wanted in a man, when you find one who isn’t, you’ll quickly learn why it’s so necessary. Stay alert girl, stay alert.
He Pops Up Out Of Nowhere Repeatedly, And It Makes You Uncomfortable
A surprise visit at work to take you out to lunch is romantic and thoughtful. But a surprise visit to your apartment very late at night with a call or text that says, “I’m downstairs…can I come up??” is a bit creepy and a major turn off. People only come by your house uninvited late at night or in the wee hours of the morning for three reasons: they’re looking for some lovin’, you were lookin’ for some companionship (aka, lovin’) and invited them over, or they’re a big ‘ol creeper who wants to be with you at all hours of the day and might use this as an opportunity to choke you out. The latter is clearly something to watch out for. And if you get that creepy uninvited text, double lock your doors, play like you’re asleep, and pray someone in the building WON’T let him in.
He Snaps At Little Things
You don’t call him when you get home from work, he flips; you forget to get extra cheese on his pizza, he flips; you’re busy cooking dinner so you respond to his text 30 minutes late and he blows his top. Can you say hothead? Men like this can’t be trusted because they’re two seconds away from going postal. Let him go girl! But then again, he might snap on you for that too…
This is pretty much self-explanatory. From the one who wants to make your schedule run on his schedule, to slowly but surely telling you where you can and can’t go, the controlling man is like every woman’s worst nightmare. Whenever a man tries to control everything you do, he obviously has some issues. Issues that you don’t need. Time to cut homeboy loose.
He Doesn’t Believe In “ME” Time
You want to kick it by yourself one night, but it doesn’t make sense to him. An argument ensues. You’re not feeling good, and though you’d rather rest and reboot, he wants to come by and take care of you. Each player in a relationship has to have the time to “do them.” That means, they need to be left alone to do whatever random things they find fun to maintain some individuality and their sanity in a relationship. When a man wants to be on you and around you every second of every minute of every day and doesn’t get the idea of “ME” time, he’s a smothering mess who will probably drive YOU crazy sooner or later.
He Has NO Friends, Or The Ones He Has Are Crazy Too
As pretty much a loner myself, I don’t want to give us a bad name—not all people with few friends are lunatics. However, have you noticed that he doesn’t like to interact with anyone but you and can be uncomfortably socially awkward? Either that or he has friends who make you uncomfortable instead, they stay in trouble, or just flat out have a few screws loose. He may try to disguise it in the beginning, but if your new love interest is surrounded by a bunch of irresponsible, controlling and angry people, keep your eyes wide open. He could be a mess just like them.