‘Despite How It Seems At Times, I’m Not Crazy:’ Kenya Clears Up Her Desperate Housewife Rep

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January 3, 2013 ‐ By
Source: WENN

Source: WENN

The viewers will have to be the judge of this claim and if we’re going on the current public opinion, Kenya Moore is crazy. But let’s give her a chance to explain herself, shall we?

Taking to her Bravo blog, Kenya, who arguably had the worst trip ever in Anguilla, discussed how ecstatic she was to return home to Atlanta and put a lot of things behind her — namely her beef with Porsha and her dreams of becoming Walter’s wife. Remarking that “pressure creates the finest diamonds,” she wrote:

Much has been made about me pressuring a man to marry me. Despite how it seems at times, I’m not crazy. I am, however, a hopeless romantic and appear anxious for marriage on the show to a man who clearly has his own agenda. On the one hand Walter says there are “3 days left and anything can happen… Anguilla would be a beautiful place to get married or elope.” I assure you my behavior is warranted.  My mistake started when you rely on a man’s words and not his ACTIONS.  

‘Tis a lesson many a woman has had to learn multiple times in her lifetime.

Pulling a move from “Love & Hip-Hop Atlanta’s” Mimi, Kenya then went on to claim that she’s experiencing the shock and disappointing revelations of her relationship at the same time everyone else is at home. She added:

Unfortunately, I put my trust into Walter and believed his intentions were genuine. His true feelings are being shown to me and everyone else whilst in Anguilla. My trust, respect, faith, and feelings are rapidly deteriorating when I see his duplicitous behavior at every turn. Of course the cameras don’t catch everything a couple discusses. With that being said, our relationship issues will come to light on the upcoming shows. It can’t come and go fast enough for me. If Anguilla was paradise, this is hell to relive…. To KNOW  me is to love me. I have so much love to give and only want to share that with a man who is deserving of the woman I am when the cameras are on and off.

That last line may be a little hard to believe since Kenya has given us a heck of a person to not love on camera. It also seems she’s more interested in the title of wife more than the relationship it represents, but it is clear from some of the language she uses when talking about her issues with Porsha, that she is someone deeply in need of love and who feels as though she’s running out of time to receive it. Speaking on her beef with her co-star, she stated:

Insecure women are quick to point out perceived physical imperfections of other women. I have purposely refrained from attacking someone and their looks, since beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Despite the fact that I am an actual beauty queen, no one is perfect and I am not exempt. I suffer from acne when stressed and fight metabolism and gravity daily.  But I work with what I have.

Let’s hope eventually there is a man who wants to really work with what she has.

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  • Cakester

    Walter looked constipated every she mentioned marriage….

  • dee

    Kenya boo, do us all a favor and just shut up. Thanks! xoxo

  • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

    Poor thing. The more she talks the sadder she sounds. She sounds desperate and clingy. Trying to throw Walter’s Shrek looking azz under the bus doesn’t help. She knows good and well she coerced him into pretending to be more serious about her than he ever was. She just didn’t want to be the only single one on the show. Let’s keep that ish 100, she’s never been that good of an actress and he for da*mn ain’t. My dislike of her is turning to pity, and I hate to pity anyone.

  • 30

    While I do feel sorry for Kenya because she seems insecure, i do think the editing of the footage makes her seem crazier than she actually is. I believe the editors paint a picture that will be exciting and get ppl to watch. That is the ultimate goal. I don’t believe everything I see on this show. Porsha is a beautiful idiot who thinks just because she’s married or got “chose” that that validates her worth. It doesn’t. Like Kenya said, she has no claim to fame and never will. She’s not that bright.

  • http://www.facebook.com/shaunterria Shaunterria Owens

    I just don’t believe her. I tried with Kenya, but neither she nor Walter seemed affectionate or genuinely interested in each other. I think Walter expected to play the role of boyfriend with the cameras rolling in private (hence the “anything can happen” quote), but did not think Kenya was going to tell everybody and their brother that he was going to propose to her and/or they were going to elope.

    And honestly, what man wants to marry a woman just so she can fulfill some master plan? People are not puzzle pieces you can plug into your life because they look like they fit – and if she really wanted babies she could have them, husband be damned. I think Kenya is squandering an opportunity to be a role model for successful women that don’t want to wait around for Prince Charming to stick a glass slipper on their foot…honey, you have enough money to buy your own dang footwear, be they glass, baby shoes or whatever. Get it together.

  • Alana

    I know hopeless romantics, but this lady is desperate. There is a difference.

  • Alana

    I know hopeless romantics, but this lady is desperate. There is a difference.

  • Guest22

    It is better to marry when you are ready than when people feel it’s appropriate. Of course women are pursued more in their 20’s, but it doesn’t mean that it’s the only time they are pursued. Marriage is not something to enter into lightly. It is supposed to be a lifetime commitment made to your spouse before God, so it should be taken seriously. If you are not ready to marry in your 20’s or 30’s, then you shouldn’t. It will only result in a failed marriage or an unhappy one. There are a multitude of reasons besides age why some people can’t find a mate later in life and usually, it starts with them and their own attitude. Kenya would have men falling at her feet if she wasn’t so damn crazy, but who in their right mind would put up with that mess!!! Most men and woman have very unrealistic expectations and standards for who they are and what they bring to the table and that has stopped more relationships from being realized than age ever will.

    • KIR12

      I agree with everything you said except the it’s ok to wait until later in life part. That is nothing more than the watered down PC black feminist version of “I don’t need a man” which later in life becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. When has anyone ever accomplished something they say they don’t need? You see women do need a man and unfortunately by the time they figure it out it’s often too late for a variety of reasons fewer options, age, appearance, kids, set in their ways, ect.

      This post 1970’s feminist idea of waitimg just doesn’t work and has never worked for the overwhelming majority of black women. It has been disastrous for black women, black kids and the black community.

  • ItsMe

    Can Bravo just revoke her blog, because the more she talks the more she irritates me. I don’t trust a SINGLE word that comes from her mouth, and sadly, I don’t even trust her claim that she was abused. Because psychologists have discussed that women who have been in abusive relationships tend to be more stand-offish to getting into relationships. When Nene met Greg after her first abusive marriage she claims she had him at arms length for a good minute, Now, Kenya could be the exception to the rule, but I know a few women who were abused who even after they found a man they loved, were hesitant because they were afraid they might be abused again. Nothing she does and says is authentic to me and if she anyone to blame, she needs to blame herself for acting a fool and being caught up in too many lies.

  • HOUSTON

    SHE WAITED TOO LATE TO TRY AND HAVE KIDS. AND WALTER DIDNT LOOK LIKE A SUPPORTIVE LOVER ANYWAY. WOMEN OVER 40 HAVE THE MARRIAGE OPTION BECAUSE MEN WHO’VE MARRIED EARLY ARE GETTING DIVORCED. I CALL THEM GENERATION 2ND TIME AROUND.

  • KIR12

    Typical attractive black woman over 30 year. Can’t understand why men aren’t responding to her they way they did in her 20’s. Now you want to get married? What in the heII have you been doing the last 20 years?

    The logic and narrative of black women who want to get married (don’t settle & have fun wait until your 30’s to look for a husband) is extremely flawed. It doesn’t add up to the actual reality of millions of black women of over 30 women who desperately want to get married but can’t find a “good” husband. The majority of these women had multiple “good” men pursuing them in their 20’s who they ignored or rejected. Men they’d marry in a heartbeat today if they could. Who’s to blame?

    I’m not saying over 30 women aren’t desirable but her preference Mr Perfect….30’s, successful, attractive fun…. and his preference are not the same. That’s one of the reasons men respond differently to women over 30. His preference is a younger looking “you”. He might marry you but he’s definitely settling on the age point.

    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

      Two profiles huh?

      • KIR12

        Naw, tried to edit and hit delete. Shows up as guest

    • Na Na

      Hence Walter reply toKenya’s I’m wifey material……but you’re 40 and you haven’t been wifed up yet…crickets…I was dying laughing and my grandma put her head in her hands lol

  • KIR12

    Typical attractive black woman over 30 year. Can’t understand why men aren’t responding to her they way they did in her 20’s. Now you want to get married? What in the heII have you been doing the last 20 years?

    The logic and narrative of black women who want to get married (don’t settle & have fun wait until your 30’s to look for a husband) is extremely flawed. It doesn’t add up to the actual reality of millions of black women of over 30 women who desperately want to get married but can’t find a “good” husband. The majority of these women had multiple “good” men pursuing them in their 20’s who they ignored or rejected. Men they’d marry in a heartbeat today if they had could. Who’s to blame?

    I’m not saying over 30 women aren’t desirable but her preference Mr Perfect….30’s, successful, attractive fun…. and his preference are not the same. That’s one of the reasons men respond differently to women over 30. His preference is a younger looking “you”. He might marry you but he’s definitely settling on the age point.

    • kierah

      Until you reach a certain emotional maturity level, successful marriage is WAY above your pay grade. It might take people until 30 and older to achieve that.
      I don’t know where are these allegedly “good” men were in my 20s. They were doing the same running around I was doing at 24!

      • Alana

        I agree with you, a lot of men in their 20’s are in no way ready for marriage. So, I guess women in their 20’s are supposed to marry older men?? I understand the theory that women have a greater chance at marriage in their 20’s because of the natural attraction men have to youth, fertility, etc.. it all makes sense but how feasible is it really?? Most of my friends got married late 20’s or early 30’s. I guess men get married whenever they want to while women are supposed to hurry up and get hitched while they have the chance???? hmmmm…. ok.

        • Ashe

          Preach!

        • KIR12

          If you WANT to get married, who says you should only date men your age? Nonsense! Lol I think Malcom X said a 7 year difference was best.

          Younger women have been SUCCESSFULLY MARRYING older men since the begging of time. Actually a 5 to 10 year age difference might work out better for some women. Ex 22w & 32 man. OR 25w & 35 man. JMO Something needs to change because what’s going on (relationships) in the black community now aint working and I don’t see it changing unless blacks stop embracing the extreme left liberal ideology of the importance of marriage and men in the home.

          • Alana

            I never said who anyone should ONLY date. Since I don’t feel like re- posting what I said, please feel free to go back and re-read it at your discretion. And, I don’t know who you’re referring to with the “If you WANT to get married comment” because I been there, done that, got the t-shirt and I didn’t get there by being desperate like Kenya presents herself to be. A little presumptuous are we?? And, since you know so much , can you please share the magic formula for marriage??? Trust me, it ain’t just being in your 20’s, marrying older men, nor is it dating outside of your race. The answer will be different for EACH woman’s circumstances. NONETHELESS, I’ll wait patiently for your answer, I’m sure it will be interesting.

            • KIR12

              Ain’t no magic just humility and commonsense. IMO I already said…. stop embracing the extreme left liberal ideology of the importance of marriage and men in the home (I don’t need no man). Which later in life becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because of age, kids, appearance, options available, attitude, set in your ways, baggage, etc

              • Alana

                You’re preaching to the choir. And, while I agree with your answer, it is lacking the focus on the entire picture. It’s one-sided. It seems you have the answer for what women need to do, but what about men? What do they need to do to help rectify the problems in the black family unit? All I ever hear is what women are doing wrong (hence Steve Harvey, and other authors getting rich from the plight of AA women.) , but when are men criticized for their lackluster performance as it pertains to the home unit?? Stay out of jail, stop running from your responsibilities, stop chasing every girl with the big booty and dodging women of substance, the entitlement mentality , the arrogant attitudes, and the list goes on. One cannot rectify the problems in the black family unit being one sided, to do so would be to only solve half of the problem. We are so quick to blame the woman, but if we are encouraging conservative values/ old-fashioned values, then it goes without saying that MEN must inevitably shoulder some responsibility. Isn’t that the way of tradition?

                • KIR12

                  Right! But I don’t know of any community where women aren’t the ones pushing, demanding marriage. I don’t know of any community/country in the world (including Africa) where the UNMARRIED woman is not held responsible for her pregnancy. Nor any community or country where the father doesn’t set the example and teach the son about the importance of marriage.

                  If a community is not careful 20’s for young folks (especially young men) becomes the decade of self absorbition. Without marriage (and kids) which brings humility, responsibility, commitment and a connection and stake in community he becomes arrogant, selfish and pompous in the way he treats women. A lot of irreversible destruction, damage and life altering decisions can be caused by young adults w/o previous proper guidance from the home. Kids need both parents but the girl learns her most important life lessons from mom and the boy from dad. If there is no dad in the home, the streets will most likely become his dad (teacher).

      • KIR12

        That sounds good on paper but in the real world waiting until your 30’s does not work and has never worked out well for the overwhelming majority of BLACK women who want to get married. Fact! Today 31 percent of African American women by their early forties have never married as compared to only 9 percent of White, 11 percent of Asian , and 12 percent of Latino women in the same age group. Those are childbearing years.

        It was very common for people to get married in their 20’s or even younger since the begging up time. Now it’s bad? lol Waiting until you’re 30’s is really just a new fad that started post feminism 1970’s. The truth is it has been disastrous for black women, black kids and the black family. Young black women aren’t going to stop having babies which is IMO a more life altering/ important decision than even marriage.

        • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

          Having kids out of wedlock needs to stop this we agree on. Now on to your other points of contention. You list the percentage of unmarried women by race. Do me a favor please and run me the stats of male incarceration rates by race in this country. Would you also please contrast that with the age ranges of those males in prison? Certainly you will see a correlation with the highly disproportionate rate of unmarried black women with the astronomical incarceration rates of black men during peak marriage years. But of course that has no bearing on things correct?

          • KIR12

            70% of prisoners come from single parent households. Fact! You see the liberal ideology “men not needed in the home” has caused the problem. Pre 1960’s there were decades where black women had higher marriage rates than white women, also fact.

            Not recommending dating an ex-con but you do know when they talk of incarceration rates vs black men in college they’re including black men in the court system, on probation and ex-cons out of jail. The percentage actually in prison is not more than in college. Also, don’t limit yourself. If you can’t find a black man try a white or non black man, if you can’t find a young man get one a little older. I just think it’s a cop-out, honestly. Friendly, average to attractive, physically fit, educated young (20’s) black women don’t have a problem getting a man. Go to any (20’s) social function there’s always a couple of guys chasing after the friendly women who take care of themselves.

            • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

              “including black men in the court system, on probation and ex-cons out of jail.”

              And what friendly, average to attractive, physically fit, educated young (20’s) black woman wants a man who’s in the court system, on probation, or an ex con fresh out of jail? I’ll wait for your stats on that.

              To suggest that the 30% of unmarried women start dating outside of their race seems silly. All races date/marry/have children overwhelmingly with others from their own ethnicity. This is true even for blacks. Its a natural proclivity to do so. So what does a pretty young thing do if she’s attracted to black men? Why silly she dates them. You know the one’s in the court system, on probation, or an ex con, she has his babies and finds herself another single black mother while he goes on to future jail/prison stints and has a few kids with a few other women. Pretty sad outlook isn’t it?

              • KIR12

                Not true! 30% of British black women, 40% of Hispanic and 50% of Asian women marry outside of their race. Again, I think you’re looking, for some reason’…. searching for an excuse. If you can’t find a young black man date older ones. Gheez

                For some reason I get the impression you grew up w/o a father in the home. If you really want to get married, date men who are willing to marry you. If those aren’t the type of guys you like, make some personal improvements, LOSE weight get that dress size down to a 6 or 8. Be friendly, go to young adult social functions and be realistic. If you’re a 5, you ain’t going to get a 7,8,9,10. Men marry up in the looks department, not women.

                • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                  “Not true! 30% of British black women, 40% of Hispanic and 50% of Asian women marry outside of their race”

                  So when you said in your other post that “30% of black women are never married by their forties” were you referring to AMERICAN black women or British black women or black women the world over? That’s the thing about statistics to make any damn sense you have to stick with a subject of focus. By my mathematical calculations British black women marry other black men at a rate of 7 out of 10. Seems like an overwhelming majority to me. That number is even higher in the US. Hispanic and Asian women I haven’t a clue what country you are basing that stat off of.

                  I can assure you I was raised in a household with both my mother and father who are still together to this day lol. I am married and happily so. you need not concern yourself with giving me advice on how to get a husband. But thank you for the advice nonetheless.

    • kierah

      Until you reach a certain emotional maturity level, successful marriage is WAY above your pay grade. It might take people until 30 and older to achieve that.
      I don’t know where are these allegedly “good” men were in my 20s. They were doing the same running around I was doing at 24!