Serious Question: How Do You Determine Who Deserves A Tip And Who Doesn’t?

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January 2, 2013 ‐ By Clarke Gail Baines

black woman at restaurant

While enjoying dinner with friends last weekend at one of my favorite bars/restaurants, we ordered so much food that our table was covered and barely had enough space for all of our plates. After catching up about where we were in our respective careers and with our love lives while scarfing down on Parmesan fries and fruity drinks with not enough alcohol, it was time to pay. Our server wasn’t the most attentive chick to ever wait a table, but she was nice, pretty helpful, and had done a good job in my opinion. I was back home for the holidays, and seeing the kind of service I get in New York, I would have been beyond satisfied even if she had dropped my food on the ground. When the check came and was split, we handed over our cards, and a friend of mine pulled out a small wad of cash to pay her bill. Once the receipts came back and it was time to figure out how much to tip, it was almost like pulling teeth. Out of four people in a party, only me and the friend sitting next to me were willing to actually tip in full. The two other women were either NOT going to or were doing the absolute least to break our waitress off.

“Are you guys tipping?”

“Yeah”

“Aight, here’s a dollar.”

This statement about a dollar came from the same friend who pulled out a wad of cash right in front of our waitress, but when it was time to tip, she only had a dollar to contribute. My other friend sitting next to her, when asked if she was going to tip, replied with a “No, and I don’t care either.”

After some light squabbling back and forth between my side of the table and the other, I was able to convince my cash-toting friend to at least contribute $2 (about 70 cents short of the appropriate 15 percent tip–only amazing servers get 20 from me), while my other friend stuck to the same reasoning she had been using since we started all going out together in high school: It’s part of their job description, and if they’re not doing exceptional work, why tip them for doing their job?

Does she have a point?

As this last-minute conversation went on, the cash-toting friend tried to explain that she does tip really good workers, but that out of all the people on her list of possible tip receivers, she does NOT tip people who do her nails. “I mean, you’re not  going above and beyond to do my nails, it’s part of the job, so I don’t tip for that.” And that’s not the first time I’ve heard such talk. My sister-in-law once told me years and years ago that she doesn’t tip nail techs either, and barely tips hairdressers, depending on the work they do. I’ve seen the same people who will be adamant about tipping waitresses and waiters, or who even do hair for a living, NOT tip taxi cab drivers, and I’ve watched as a person bringing food to a hotel room my sister was staying in kind of waited like they wanted a tip, only to have my sister say “Thanks!” and close the door. She used to work as a waitress and will tip servers hardcore, but didn’t see why this staff member who brought the food (but didn’t cook it)  deserved a ducat. It seems that so many people have their rules about who should and shouldn’t get a tip and why, and nowadays, I just find myself confused, and tipping out of fear of looking like a stereotype.

While my friend might have a point when it comes to her tipping standards, you will rarely see me NOT tip someone if they served my table, and because I sometimes run around with people who seem to be cheapskates, I find myself often tipping more than I have to, to make up for where they came short on purpose. Only in instances of extreme disrespect will I leave a table bare (and that’s only happened once). And even though I don’t know for sure how to tip hair dressers, those who do my brows, taxi drivers (I just give a dollar or two, maybe three for a longer ride, but I’m usually in cabs for less than 10-15 minutes), I do my best to leave a little somethin’ somethin’ for those who do decent jobs, and a bit more for those who go out of their way for little ‘ol me.

But these days it seems that you’re supposed to tip just about everybody for doing everything. During a segment on the Today Show, folks were saying you should tip your service providers as holiday gifts. From those who groom your dog to personal trainers, doormen,  deliverymen who constantly help you, your favorite hairdresser and more. Even the man who took it upon himself to open the door for customers at Popeye’s in Harlem is expecting a tip, and he sure the hell will let you know how wrong you are if you don’t offer it up.

Being that there are so many people who do things for us on the daily, how do you personally determine who gets a tip from you and how much they get and who gets nada? I’m all for giving people what they deserve for hard work, but if they don’t go above and beyond for me, I can’t say that I’ll be going above and beyond for them with my wallet. What do you say?

 

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  • IllyPhilly

    Everybody gets a twenty dollar tip when at a restaurant and five dollar tip when it’s home delivering. I don’t see it as an issue.

  • http://twitter.com/@Mz_Undrstd Miss_Understood

    I’m a good tipper because I hate the stereotype that we are horrible tippers!

  • Dee

    but what i CANT stand is “gratuity included” because I feel the wait staff don’t try to give god service because they know they are gonna get a tip regarless

  • Dee

    here’s how i do it. If it’s a decent restaurant, I start the waiter off with $10 tip in my head then I deduct money for every negative thing they do. Ignoring us? $2. Having an attitude? $5 never asked how we are doing? $1 but if they do well they can redeem their tip or maintain the $10 cap

    • Darcampb

      So foes the $10 tip rule stand even on your tab is $70 +? In that case the starting tip for you to deduct money should be AT LeAST be 15%. If you aren’t even starting with the appropriate amount in the first place, you’re trifling . I have to ask because many “Canadian diners ” pull this

      • Dee

        Well i doubt i would rack up a $70 bill all on my lonesome so i donth that applies. When i say $10, that is my individual contribution. Pair that with the $10 tip from my dinner mate, then thats more than 20% for a $70 bill

  • ziggy

    I waited tables. Black people, especially black women are the most demanding and no matter how great the service they either don’t tip or tip poorly. I know what servers think when they see me sitting in their section. Most of the time I get good service despite being a black woman and I usually tip 20% unless you act like you just didn’t care. Asians and teenagers tipped better than black people and white men tip the best. This is in Atlanta were there’s a WHOLE lot of black folks.

    In one restaurant I worked in, the code name for black women was sha nay nay. ALL of the servers (black and white) didn’t like to serve black folks so the hostess would rotate black people so we all had a chance to not get a tip. I wish it wasn’t like that. Anyone who has waited tables knows I am not making this up.

    • Darcampb

      You’re speaking the truth all right. So so sad. I had to get out of the service industry before all my faith in humanity and my race were shattered

      • Kenedy

        Your faith in humanity should still be shattered when you look in the mirror…..you used condom

        • Darcampb

          Huh? You’re a nonsensical fool. Lol!

        • Darcampb

          Huh? You’re a nonsensical fool. Lol!

    • Usedtoserve

      I was a server before and the worst tip I ever received was from a group of Latino men. Black and white people always left me decent tips. I was polite and helpful to everyone regardless of their race.

  • dddooonnnttt

    This is 2013, not tipping is not ok. If you don’t want to tip, don’t go to restaurants. Simple.

    • Kenedy

      What is the correlation between it being 2013 & tipping?

      • Darcampb

        The correlation is that morons like you should know and go better by now. But thats obviously not the case

        • Kenedy

          Shouldn’t you be earning your tips right now instead of flapping your gums? Idiot

          • Darcampb

            Shouldn’t you actually be working on that college degree so you can move on up from that minimum wage paying job?

          • Darcampb

            Shouldn’t you actually be working on that college degree so you can move on up from that minimum wage paying job?

        • Kenedy

          You’re lucky you’re not a regular commentor on MN, you may pop in & out to insult me….but i will slay you

          • Darcampb

            Sweetheart you don’t have the skills to slay me on any level. That is increasingly obvious. Sad, pathetic loser

          • Darcampb

            Sweetheart you don’t have the skills to slay me on any level. That is increasingly obvious. Sad, pathetic loser

      • dddooonnnttt

        Time is progessing, and so should petty attitudes.

  • TRUTH IS

    Disgusting, abrasive service providers who acts as though they are doing you a favor gets not tip!!. Service comes first then the tip!!!

  • TRUTH IS

    Disgusting, abrasive service providers who acts as though they are doing you a favor gets not tip!!. Service comes first then the tip!!!

  • TRUTH IS

    Disgusting, abrasive service providers who acts as though they are doing you a favor gets not tip!!. Service comes first then the tip!!!

  • amy Gellineau

    Servers get paid 2.25/hr. The tips they make are what the majority of their income is based on. if you dont want to tip stay home.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/ABOTFJWEFPITL4HU6WPKN7ZN74 Lady De

    Tipping is not mandatory, so why should I compensate someone for doing there job?

    • dddooonnnttt

      Don’t bring your cheap butt into a restaurant and sit down and eat if you aren’t going to leave AT LEAST an 18% tip. Tipping is not mandatory, but it is customary..

      • Kenedy

        Exactly, its NOT MANDATORY….so what is your problem?..you can tip all YOU want to, but don’t expect everyone to be like you…we’re not all “Angels”…surprise surprise

        • dddooonnnttt

          No one is being an angel by tipping. but you’re actually being very shady, and selfish by not. because you know full well that tipping is customary (definition:of or established by custom rather than law.) no its not mandatory, but you know everyone in the restaurant is tipping. and you know that by not tipping you leave the rest of us black people who have some sense of couth let to receive poor service because servers will think we are all like you. since you wont tip, why dont you open your dinner service with that. Tell your server that you wont be tipping them so they can provide the service that you deserve, oh i mean, PAY FOR.

    • dddooonnnttt

      Don’t bring your cheap butt into a restaurant and sit down and eat if you aren’t going to leave AT LEAST an 18% tip. Tipping is not mandatory, but it is customary..

    • dddooonnnttt

      Don’t bring your cheap butt into a restaurant and sit down and eat if you aren’t going to leave AT LEAST an 18% tip. Tipping is not mandatory, but it is customary..

    • dddooonnnttt

      Don’t bring your cheap butt into a restaurant and sit down and eat if you aren’t going to leave AT LEAST an 18% tip. Tipping is not mandatory, but it is customary..

    • dddooonnnttt

      Don’t bring your cheap butt into a restaurant and sit down and eat if you aren’t going to leave AT LEAST an 18% tip. Tipping is not mandatory, but it is customary..

    • dddooonnnttt

      Don’t bring your cheap butt into a restaurant and sit down and eat if you aren’t going to leave AT LEAST an 18% tip. Tipping is not mandatory, but it is customary..

    • dddooonnnttt

      Don’t bring your cheap butt into a restaurant and sit down and eat if you aren’t going to leave AT LEAST an 18% tip. Tipping is not mandatory, but it is customary..

    • dddooonnnttt

      Don’t bring your cheap butt into a restaurant and sit down and eat if you aren’t going to leave AT LEAST an 18% tip. Tipping is not mandatory, but it is customary..

    • KIR12

      If you’re going to act ghetto stay in the ghetto. I have never seen this tip problem with any other group other than ghetto, petty, untrained folk. “shrugz” If you don’t want to pay a tip, don’t eat there. ALL restaurants have the same expectation of their customers. If you have a problem with the service, talk to the manager IMMEDIATELY AND BEFORE YOUR BILL COMES. If he doesn’t handle it to your satisfaction, pay for the food and tip at least 15% and don’t eat there again. Simple! That’s how I was raised and how professional mature people handle a simple and minor issue like this. Everyone else in the restaurant is paying 20%. You’d know that if you socialized with professional people or had some basic home training.

  • Natalynn

    If I go out to a restaurant where someone has to come to my table, I suspect a tip is expected and I have no problem tipping. I do have a problem with “tip/gratuity added to the bill”. I understand why the restaurants are doing so now–cheapskates not wanting to tip–but if it’s already added to the bill, then it becomes a service charge and NOT a gratuity. And that’s what they should call it.

  • Amija James

    Barber, Hairdresser, eyebrows, def servers. I served in college so I know the game. I also know that when black folks sit down they never expect us to tip great. Because I am an ex server, I always tip really great. If I know they’re being crappy, I’ll ask to see a manager.

    • Darcampb

      Unfortunately many servers just hate to see black people sit down in their section. The even sader fact is that it’s usually for good reason. And this is coming from a black ex-server. Very sad indeed

      • hollyw

        I’ve served in the past, and would heartily disagree. Not only do Blacks tip well for decent service, but they can usually sense the discrimination from servers, especially Black servers, when they’re assigned to their tables. So, basically, if you’re getting tipped poorly, it’s probably b/c you made the situation a self-fulfilling prophecy.

        I tip well. Even when I don’t always feel the server deserved it. B/c at the end of the day, I could have cooked and served myself, so I don’t have a problem tipping to be cooked for and served. However, if I feel a server makes me feel invisible, or is just so over-the-top w/ attention, both b/c they’ve prescribed some sort of cheapskate label to my table b/c of our color, I often struggle w/ either under-tipping, or over-tipping (just to prove a point, of course). Bottom line is, discrimination is not only wrong, but illegal, so if you hate the business or a certain clientele, you just need to quit instead of ruining the dining experience.

        • dddooonnnttt

          Please. ‘Canadians’ do not tip well. And we ALL get bad service because of the number of ‘Canadians’ that has stiffed servers.

        • dddooonnnttt

          Please. ‘Canadians’ do not tip well. And we ALL get bad service because of the number of ‘Canadians’ that has stiffed servers.

        • dddooonnnttt

          Please. ‘Canadians’ do not tip well. And we ALL get bad service because of the number of ‘Canadians’ that has stiffed servers.

        • dddooonnnttt

          Please. ‘Canadians’ do not tip well. And we ALL get bad service because of the number of ‘Canadians’ that has stiffed servers.

        • dddooonnnttt

          Please. ‘Canadians’ do not tip well. And we ALL get bad service because of the number of ‘Canadians’ that has stiffed servers.

        • dddooonnnttt

          Please. ‘Canadians’ do not tip well. And we ALL get bad service because of the number of ‘Canadians’ that has stiffed servers.

        • dddooonnnttt

          Please. ‘Canadians’ do not tip well. And we ALL get bad service because of the number of ‘Canadians’ that has stiffed servers.

        • dddooonnnttt

          Please. ‘Canadians’ do not tip well. And we ALL get bad service because of the number of ‘Canadians’ that has stiffed servers.

        • Darcampb

          I respect your difference of opinion / experience. However my experiences as a server is the exact opposite of yours. So I’ll agree to disagree

          • Kenedy

            Interesting…you respect her difference in opinion, but I’m classless trash….hmmm, definitely interesting observation

            • Darcampb

              The obvious difference is that the commenter clearly stated that she tips well and knows how to act in restaurants. Unlike you , she never stated that she thinks tips are to only be given “when she feels like it” regardless of how good the service is. That is the classless trashy ideology that I take issue with. Of you can’t put that together then clearly neither intelligence nor debating are your strong suits

              • Kenedy

                Oh & btw, insulting someone doesn’t count as debating…so obviously, debating, intelligence & mastery of the english language are not YOUR strong suits…beyoch

      • Kenedy

        Maybe they just hated your face

  • Kaori

    I tip based on service and what I think deserves a tip. It is not for the customer to make up for what the employer won’t pay their employees. Likewise, one cannot complain about tips when they know that their income is based on the kindness of strangers.

    I never tip hair braiders because they are 1. Usually late 2. Take too many breaks which adds on time unnecessarily 3. End up doing what they want and not what I asked, which has led me to have to be very firm about the style I want

    • dddooonnnttt

      It actually is for customers to make up what the employer doesnt pay. That’s why tipping is what is referred to as ‘customary’. If you aren’t going to tip dont sit down in a chair (and take up space that someone who is tipping could be) and receive service.

    • dddooonnnttt

      It actually is for customers to make up what the employer doesnt pay. That’s why tipping is what is referred to as ‘customary’. If you aren’t going to tip dont sit down in a chair (and take up space that someone who is tipping could be) and receive service.

      • Kaori

        If that were the case, tips would be mandatory, not optional.

        • Dee

          and PLUS “customary” means it comes from customs ie. traditions, not the CUSTOMER lmaooooo. I agree with Kaori… if the service is bad, I’m not tipping. If you get a bad review at work, your boss wont give you a raise, thats it. So if i’m your quasi “boss” then you better work for your money from me too!

    • dddooonnnttt

      It actually is for customers to make up what the employer doesnt pay. That’s why tipping is what is referred to as ‘customary’. If you aren’t going to tip dont sit down in a chair (and take up space that someone who is tipping could be) and receive service.

    • dddooonnnttt

      It actually is for customers to make up what the employer doesnt pay. That’s why tipping is what is referred to as ‘customary’. If you aren’t going to tip dont sit down in a chair (and take up space that someone who is tipping could be) and receive service.

    • dddooonnnttt

      It actually is for customers to make up what the employer doesnt pay. That’s why tipping is what is referred to as ‘customary’. If you aren’t going to tip dont sit down in a chair (and take up space that someone who is tipping could be) and receive service.

    • dddooonnnttt

      It actually is for customers to make up what the employer doesnt pay. That’s why tipping is what is referred to as ‘customary’. If you aren’t going to tip dont sit down in a chair (and take up space that someone who is tipping could be) and receive service.

    • dddooonnnttt

      It actually is for customers to make up what the employer doesnt pay. That’s why tipping is what is referred to as ‘customary’. If you aren’t going to tip dont sit down in a chair (and take up space that someone who is tipping could be) and receive service.

    • KIR12

      I have never seen this type of mindset from anywhere else other than the ghetto. 50 years ago we were complaing about not being allowed in. Now you all want to tell them how to run they’re business? Anyone not tipping is from a product of two things.
      1. Not being taught proper etiquette by your parents
      2. Not associating and socializing with professionals.
      Everyone knows the proper tip is 20%. If you can’t afford the meal and the tip don’t eat there. I guarantee you everyone else in the restaurant is paying a 20% tip. If you want to act ghetto and petty stay in the ghetto to eat, and don’t come around civilized people who treat people with basic common courtesy. Problem solved. If you have a problem with the service, call the manager BEFORE THE BILL. If he/she doesn’t resolve it satisfactory pay and TIP 20% and don’t go back there anymore and write a bad review on the internet. Again, problem solved

    • KIR12

      I have never seen this type of mindset from anywhere else other than the ghetto. 50 years ago we were complaing about not being allowed in. Now you all want to tell them how to run they’re business? Anyone not tipping is from a product of two things.
      1. Not being taught proper etiquette by your parents
      2. Not associating and socializing with professionals.
      Everyone knows the proper tip is 20%. If you can’t afford the meal and the tip don’t eat there. I guarantee you everyone else in the restaurant is paying a 20% tip. If you want to act ghetto and petty stay in the ghetto to eat, and don’t come around civilized people who treat people with basic common courtesy. Problem solved. If you have a problem with the service, call the manager BEFORE THE BILL. If he/she doesn’t resolve it satisfactory pay and TIP 20% and don’t go back there anymore and write a bad review on the internet. Again, problem solved

      • Kaori

        That’s cute and everything, but it doesn’t apply to me.

        • JustObserving

          You have every right not to tip and we have every right to assume you do not know proper social etiquette.

          • Kaori

            I know I have every right not to tip. And, I am also aware that people can assume whatever they wish to. But, it is something entirely different for one to project their hatred of a certain group of women (Black women) onto to me and indirectly call me ‘ghetto’. I’ve seen the type of comments KIR12 leaves on the site as well as Clutch Magazine.

    • KIR12

      I have never seen this type of mindset from anywhere else other than the ghetto. 50 years ago we were complaing about not being allowed in. Now you all want to tell them how to run they’re business? Anyone not tipping is from a product of two things.
      1. Not being taught proper etiquette by your parents
      2. Not associating and socializing with professionals.
      Everyone knows the proper tip is 20%. If you can’t afford the meal and the tip don’t eat there. I guarantee you everyone else in the restaurant is paying a 20% tip. If you want to act ghetto and petty stay in the ghetto to eat, and don’t come around civilized people who treat people with basic common courtesy. Problem solved. If you have a problem with the service, call the manager BEFORE THE BILL. If he/she doesn’t resolve it satisfactory pay and TIP 20% and don’t go back there anymore and write a bad review on the internet. Again, problem solved

    • KIR12

      I have never seen this type of mindset from anywhere else other than the ghetto. 50 years ago we were complaing about not being allowed in. Now you all want to tell them how to run they’re business? Anyone not tipping is from a product of two things.
      1. Not being taught proper etiquette by your parents
      2. Not associating and socializing with professionals.
      Everyone knows the proper tip is 20%. If you can’t afford the meal and the tip don’t eat there. I guarantee you everyone else in the restaurant is paying a 20% tip. If you want to act ghetto and petty stay in the ghetto to eat, and don’t come around civilized people who treat people with basic common courtesy. Problem solved. If you have a problem with the service, call the manager BEFORE THE BILL. If he/she doesn’t resolve it satisfactory pay and TIP 20% and don’t go back there anymore and write a bad review on the internet. Again, problem solved

    • KIR12

      I have never seen this type of mindset from anywhere else other than the ghetto. 50 years ago we were complaing about not being allowed in. Now you all want to tell them how to run they’re business? Anyone not tipping is from a product of two things.
      1. Not being taught proper etiquette by your parents
      2. Not associating and socializing with professionals.
      Everyone knows the proper tip is 20%. If you can’t afford the meal and the tip don’t eat there. I guarantee you everyone else in the restaurant is paying a 20% tip. If you want to act ghetto and petty stay in the ghetto to eat, and don’t come around civilized people who treat people with basic common courtesy. Problem solved. If you have a problem with the service, call the manager BEFORE THE BILL. If he/she doesn’t resolve it satisfactory pay and TIP 20% and don’t go back there anymore and write a bad review on the internet. Again, problem solved

    • KIR12

      I have never seen this type of mindset from anywhere else other than the ghetto. 50 years ago we were complaing about not being allowed in. Now you all want to tell them how to run they’re business? Anyone not tipping is from a product of two things.
      1. Not being taught proper etiquette by your parents
      2. Not associating and socializing with professionals.
      Everyone knows the proper tip is 20%. If you can’t afford the meal and the tip don’t eat there. I guarantee you everyone else in the restaurant is paying a 20% tip. If you want to act ghetto and petty stay in the ghetto to eat, and don’t come around civilized people who treat people with basic common courtesy. Problem solved. If you have a problem with the service, call the manager BEFORE THE BILL. If he/she doesn’t resolve it satisfactory pay and TIP 20% and don’t go back there anymore and write a bad review on the internet. Again, problem solved

    • KIR12

      I have never seen this type of mindset from anywhere else other than the ghetto. 50 years ago we were complaing about not being allowed in. Now you all want to tell them how to run they’re business? Anyone not tipping is from a product of two things.
      1. Not being taught proper etiquette by your parents
      2. Not associating and socializing with professionals.
      Everyone knows the proper tip is 20%. If you can’t afford the meal and the tip don’t eat there. I guarantee you everyone else in the restaurant is paying a 20% tip. If you want to act ghetto and petty stay in the ghetto to eat, and don’t come around civilized people who treat people with basic common courtesy. Problem solved. If you have a problem with the service, call the manager BEFORE THE BILL. If he/she doesn’t resolve it satisfactory pay and TIP 20% and don’t go back there anymore and write a bad review on the internet. Again, problem solved

    • KIR12

      I have never seen this type of mindset from anywhere else other than the ghetto. 50 years ago we were complaing about not being allowed in. Now you all want to tell them how to run they’re business? Anyone not tipping is from a product of two things.
      1. Not being taught proper etiquette by your parents
      2. Not associating and socializing with professionals.
      Everyone knows the proper tip is 20%. If you can’t afford the meal and the tip don’t eat there. I guarantee you everyone else in the restaurant is paying a 20% tip. If you want to act ghetto and petty stay in the ghetto to eat, and don’t come around civilized people who treat people with basic common courtesy. Problem solved. If you have a problem with the service, call the manager BEFORE THE BILL. If he/she doesn’t resolve it satisfactory pay and TIP 20% and don’t go back there anymore and write a bad review on the internet. Again, problem solved

  • KJ23

    It’s like the scene from “Reservoir Dogs” where Mr. Pink describes how he doesn’t believe in tipping. I do at least 20%, but I do feel bad to admit that after one very rude waitress at my favorite sushi bar, when it came time to sign my receipt, under tip I wrote: “Don’t run with scissors.”

  • JaeBee

    I used to tip everybody…until several years ago when me and a friend were hanging out in NYC and catching cabs between our various spots. Most of the cab drivers were rude and surly. I’m not asking for someone to be chipper while serving me, but you should at least be polite and decent. I felt like a chump giving tip money to someone who acted as if they couldn’t be bothered either way and then my friend, whose from the city, informed me that she never tips cabbies. She told me that it really didn’t make sense to do so when they’re not providing any “extra” service. They drive you from point A to point B–which you pay them for, and they don’t even bother to say a quick “thank you” when you are generous enough to give them a tip (for putting the least amount of effort in doing what you pay them to do).

  • hollyw

    Ummm I am not tipping the homeless lol. I hate when they hold doors to fast food restaurants, and that is exactly why the BK on the same street in Harlem just put up a “NO SOLICITATION” sign on their door!

    As far as servers, I’ve gradually gotten used to tipping 20% as a standard, and dropping down for worse service. But uhhh…I don’t tip maintenance extra for the holidays, can barely stand the landlord I got!

    • Kaori

      You ever have a deaf person and you one of those cards and then come back for money and the card?

      • hollyw

        Ikr?! The only less fortunate I give money to are performers; they still got work ethic and at least they earned it! If I want to be charitable for charity’s sake, I just give to a charity or volunteer, thee end.

  • prissy

    Tipping is an American custom. I always tip but I know many European people who state that is a weird customer ours . Like in England, tips are not expected at all. I don’t know where we got it from. But in Europe their minimum wage is like $15. So they don’t need or have a reason to tip like we do here.

    • Kenedy

      True…& when i was in France, apparently tip is included in the bill in some places…but if its not, you’re not expected to tip. Tipping is a kind gesture, but apparently Americans have come to expect it, come rain come shine…i get paid minimum wage at my job, but we are not allowed to accept any tips..so guess what? If i feel short on cash….i aint tipping you, deal with it.

      • chanela

        i hate how at my job we aren’t allowed tips 0_o well hell, can i get some type of bonus or raise from my JOB then,if a customer lets them know what an outstanding above and beyond customer servicewoman i am?

      • Darcampb

        Considering that the”m’inimun wage” salary you take in is still about twice what servers make per hour minus tips, this is hardly a reasonable comparison . Not tipping when you “don’t feel like it” still makes you trash

        • Darcampb

          So you can “deal with” being classless trash , hon

        • Kenedy

          Why are you so bitter & you don’t even know me? You must be one of these underpaid servers…..maybe get a better job? Calling me classless trash won’t make me tip more…sorry…deal with that

          • Darcampb

            I’m sure it won’t make you change. But having to live as classless trash is punishment enough. I pity you. Oblivious and lacking empathy for others. I don’t have to know you to see those traits shingling through

            • Kenedy

              I have a tip for you…..*middle finger* …huh, see? I DO give tips

      • dddooonnnttt

        If you feel short on cash you should cook at home instead of eating out.

        • Kenedy

          Nope, i’ll still eat out, sometimes i have just enough money.for the meal. But best believe i will still eat out. Thank you for your unsolicited suggestion though.

          • dddooonnnttt

            Your server can’t say it to you, but I will. You’re welcome :)

      • dddooonnnttt

        If you feel short on cash you should cook at home instead of eating out.

      • dddooonnnttt

        If you feel short on cash you should cook at home instead of eating out.

  • espressobean

    Yeah I have those cheapskate friends as well. I wait until the server brings the check and begin making remarks about tipping to them in front of the server to mess with their egos a little — and this is just to get them to leave a DECENT tip. I’m done with paying out more to compensate for their trifling asses. I tip 20% minimum and go up from there if the service was nice. I tip anyone who handles any part of my body: hair, nails, spa. Also the folks who wash my car and change my oil if they are not the shop owner. I don’t think that tipping breaks the wallet, it’s just something that I expect to do, and plan accordingly.

    • Charla

      Yes. I feel like if you don’t want to tip reasonably then don’t go to a place with servers. Also it’s a common belief amongst servers that black people don’t tip well and many servers don’t want to take those tables.

      • JN31

        I agree. If I go out with someone who is cheap or refuses to tip, that’s going to be the last time we ever go out.

        Many servers make less than minimum wage and depend on tips to survive. When people say “well they did take the job” as if they are CEO of some multi-billion company I remind them they do not know of that persons reasoning for selecting the service industry. I get especially annoyed when someone says the server didn’t go “above & beyond” as if they were waiting for their food to be brought out while the waitress was riding a unicycle and singing. If the service was mediocre, the tip will be as well. If the service was down right poor, I do not leave a tip and I generally let the manager know why. I could care less about a stereotype & what someone would expect me to tip or not to tip.

        I rarely tip cab drivers, since in NYC they usually try to add it in the fare on the sly. If its a car service where the driver opens the door as well, then yes I will tip. I really only tip those who handle my food.

        • http://twitter.com/@Mz_Undrstd Miss_Understood

          I definitely agree that it is good to tip and I hate going places with cheap mofos but I do not factor in my tips (which are generous) anything having to do with their low pay.

          Seriously, why should we be held responsible because someone chose to work at a low wage job? More importantly, why does anyone choose to work at a place wherein their livelihood is based on the gratitude of strangers? That just sounds like a personal problem to me…

    • Charla

      Yes. I feel like if you don’t want to tip reasonably then don’t go to a place with servers. Also it’s a common belief amongst servers that black people don’t tip well and many servers don’t want to take those tables.

    • Charla

      Yes. I feel like if you don’t want to tip reasonably then don’t go to a place with servers. Also it’s a common belief amongst servers that black people don’t tip well and many servers don’t want to take those tables.

    • Charla

      Yes. I feel like if you don’t want to tip reasonably then don’t go to a place with servers. Also it’s a common belief amongst servers that black people don’t tip well and many servers don’t want to take those tables.

    • Charla

      Yes. I feel like if you don’t want to tip reasonably then don’t go to a place with servers. Also it’s a common belief amongst servers that black people don’t tip well and many servers don’t want to take those tables.

    • Charla

      Yes. I feel like if you don’t want to tip reasonably then don’t go to a place with servers. Also it’s a common belief amongst servers that black people don’t tip well and many servers don’t want to take those tables.

  • Nikki

    I tip based on service. (Bringing refills before I ask for it, asking me to cut into my steak to see if I like it before you leave, etc.)

    I had Chinese food delivered. The total was $14, I handed him a $20. That boy had the nerve to stare at me. When I asked for my change, he said, “What about the tip?”. I was livid!

    • Kaori

      I once had a delivery driver say “No tip?” after I handed him exact change, so I gave him $2.00.

    • KIR12

      Go get the food yourself next time. I’m sure men treat you the same way. lol

  • saundra

    I habitually tip bartenders and waiters because their checks are crappy and tips are how they make their money.

    • L-Boogie

      You are kind. Me too. Plus, most people doing those jobs are usually students. They need money.

  • Kam

    I believe in tipping my wait person for the job they do. We start at 15% and go from there. If you just do your job then you get the standard 15, very rarely have I had service so bad that no tip was left. The lady who braids my hair gets what I guess is a very good tip. The amount that I have tipped her has earned me priority appointments so that’s a plus. My general opinion is if you value the service they are providing and they are good/great at it then by all means tip.