I Took My Ex Back After He Hurt Me, But I’m Ashamed To Still Be In Love With Him

December 28, 2012  |  


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From Essence


Q: I’m in love with a man who hurt me deeply once before. I recently got back in contact with him, but I haven’t told anyone about it. I think I’m ashamed of loving him again and I don’t want to hear everyone else’s negative comments about him. I also fear he will do the same thing he did once before which makes me want to keep him to myself. Not sure what I should do. Help!

See what advice celebrity psychologist Dr. Sherry Blake has for this woman on Essence.com.

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  • Ladybug94

    If you fear he will do the same thing as before, you are back with him because….?

  • You should be ashamed when you willingly allow anyone to abuse you. It clearly shows you have NO SELF-ESTEEM. If GOD loves each of us special then who are we to decide to allow someone else mess with GODs special. How dare you. Life is so much better when you can look yourself in the mirror and have pride in yourself. As long as you allow abuse in your life, and be clear, you do allow it, it will remain. There is nothing worse this life has to offer than a life of degradation and abuse. So if you are staying with an abuser for shelter, for status, for some other nonsensical reason, then get out and get over the issues. One hit could cause your death. He is definitely not worth not seeing tomorrow, public humiliation and physical pain. I hope my words have helped someone.

  • just what is it about him that you “love”? ask yourself this question and be truthful to yourself.

  • Stanley Dada

    You know a you’ve made a bad decision to get back with your ex when you’re not proud of this decision.
    Sometimes women trash they ex too much to anyone that will listen. It might be the case here. She’s afraid of what her people know about their relationship, which she willingly told them in an attempt to make herself look better than her ex.

    • jackieOsassin

      couldn’t have said it better myself.

  • Sounds like she isn’t in a healthy enough emotional place in order to rekindle this relationship. She ought to leave it in the past and move on with her life.

  • Cakester

    Any decision that you’ve made, that you’re ashamed of was probably the wrong decision.