Why Are You Waiting For The New Year To Act Right? 10 Ratchet Behaviors We Should Leave Behind in 2012…Starting Now

December 28, 2012 ‐ By Toya Sharee

A part of me is so happy to see 2012 leave, as long as it’s taking the “ChriannaRueche” love triangle,  Joseline Hernandez, the Romney family and the Twilight series franchise with it.  But seriously, something about 2012 made me completely disgusted with how African-American women are portrayed and more importantly what we prioritize.  This was the year of the booty shot fails, the stripper/sideline chick/baby mama, and the ratchet.  Sadly, it makes me wonder when we stopped wanting more for ourselves.  It’s like I looked up and one of the best things we had going for us was the cast and crew behind Scandal. Is that all we’ve got?  So not just for 2013, but starting right now, I propose our resolution be to stop engaging in the following ratchet behaviors:

1.  Knowing more about Basketball Wives than Obamacare.

If you can recite the names of all the characters on Basketball Wives, but can’t tell me any of the changes the Affordable Care Act made to U.S. health insurance, I’m going to need you to turn to CNN for at least five minutes a day.  When you become of age to vote, it’s definitely time to know how the economy, politics and world issues directly affect you.  You don’t have to break down the details of the fiscal cliff, but your knowledge of current events and economy should go beyond what you can write off come tax season.

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  • pickneychile

    Even though leggings are so comfortable, I realllly wish the trend of wearing them as pants would retire now. I can’t tell you how many times my eyes have been assaulted seeing stuff shaking, jiggling, dropping, popping n locking in some leggings. Just because they stretch to your size doesn’t mean you should wear them in front of innocent bystanders, EVER.

  • Slingblade

    How could women condone using the term ‘WIFE BEATER” to describe an article of clothing?
    Needs to go into retirement quick!

  • Lamb chop eyelashes!!! Oh LAWD y’all off the chain for that one!!!!

  • Littlecoop

    Just think of all the power that the rappers have, and could be building up black people with positive sayings!Think about the media and entertainment industry,that could turn this situation round. Instead of what Michelle Obama would do..what happen to what would Jesus would do? that’s part of the problem,people took God church out their vocabulary and worship these imperfect humans.

  • BilderbergSuperstar

    Lets start with the word ratchet…

  • R.

    Couldnt believe I was reading this on bossip. Best article by far

  • scandalous7

    One of the best lists this year. Excellent list.

  • chanela

    and another thing, since people are so offended by quentin tarrantino’s movie because they say the word n!99er over a hundred times, how about black folks stop calling each other that? why are people calling each other the names that their ancestors were called while they were being oppressed? what’s the logic in that?

  • chanela

    omg YES!!!!! yes on the lambchop lashes! especially since women wear those big fake eyelashes with no other damn makeup on. i mean wth? you can’t put some eyeliner on or fill in your eyebrows? (one of my biggest pet peeves) can i add that in 2013, if you’re gonna wear a full face of makeup and have this elaborate eyeshadow on.. please please PLEASE pencil in your eyebrows! that totally kills the look to have invisible eyebrows and a nice face!

  • This needs to be shared…EVERYWHERE!!!

  • MM82

    Great list

  • Dee

    Favorite article to date! “Cant make a move unless the postman says so” is a trip LMAO. And PLEASE stop procreating for fun…

  • MrsB

    What about wearing leggings the wrong way, especially sheer ones!

  • IllyPhilly

    Didn’t read the list, but hopefully supporting celeb men who disrespect Black women especially over skin tone needs to stop.

  • Sagittarius81

    I also hate it when women call themselves “boss b**ches” and they complain about not having a man. I totally agree on BBW knowledge than Obamacare, I’ve never seen not one episode of that trash. Shoot, just this month this woman who lived in my building spent her rent money on booty shots and she got evicted 2 weeks ago due to you guessed it, unpaid rent. Hair bonets and lacefront wigs should have been on this list.

    • IllyPhilly

      I agree any woman calling herself any type of b!tch needs to stop. Dead @ spent rent on booty shots.

  • moonchild45

    Once again, women being “chastized”, but you fail to mention the 100+ things men need to leave behind, like sagging pants, six babies/six mothers, gang-banging, etc. I’ll wait for your follow-up with regard to this. BTW, I agree with everything on this list.

  • Ms. Kameria

    I most certainly agree with 9 and 10. That fuck*ery needs to stop immediately.

  • SunshineBlossom

    Not for nothing, but number 9 and especially 10 are DEFINITELY on point!!! I nearly had a heart attack when I heard a little girl say on the bus she wants to be just like Blacc Chyna when she grows up. It really is sad to think opening your legs and “sitting on mustaches” (yes, you Draya), are praised more than the girl the graduates with honors. That is one thing I will always tell my child. No matter what, God and education and family are the love of your life and nothing should be put before them.

    • Sagittarius81

      You ain’t kidding, I hate to see people who is something positive and productive in life gets overshadowed by people who do ratchet things like fighting, s3x tape leaks, posing in almost no clothes in pics on Instagram, and a rapper having 10 baby mamas!

  • Ratchet Behavior #11, allowing other people to dictate what rules and codes you should apply in living your life.

    • IllyPhilly

      Plus one

    • rzakia

      lol, funny.

  • Starbright

    Can we please retire the word “hater”? I know it has been around for awhile, but in the last 7 years or so, it has taken on an entirely different meaning. To me, “hating” is when a person says something about another person that is not factual and try their best to destroy them with slander and/or libel. Now, people throw the word out when you respectfully disagree with something. You can say you just don’t care for the person’s music or business choices, but dear God, they will swear you are “hating” and jealous of said person.

    • Just saying!!


      • heyheynow

        yes broke chicks think they have haters…people with bad attitudes have haters…bum dudes have haters no everyone is not a hater some people just don’t like you..lol

    • chanela

      omg yes! i can’t stand that!

      “i don’t like eggs”

      “why you gotta hate on eggs?”

      “i don’t want to be a prostitute”

      “why you gotta hate on prostitutes? don’t be mad that they get paid for sex and you dont”


    • BilderbergSuperstar

      Anyone with a different opinion is labeled a “hater”… that’s why the youth are full of so many followers instead of leaders..sad

  • Kaori

    Pretty much any WRETCHED behavior that his been made popular by the urban Black community needs to go.

    • scandalous7

      you summed it up quite nicely.

  • KJ23

    I’ve always been a little worried about the “big butt” fad, because I have a naturally big butt, and it’s like: “What’s going to happen when people backlash against it and people with big butts are called fat and whatnot. Where does that leave me?!

    • Kaori

      The same place you were before big butts were popular.

    • IllyPhilly

      Puleeze sweetie big butts never went out of style and never will. I’ve been apart of the club since 12. Only noassatall folks will call you fat

    • Dee

      Big butts will always be popular, don’t worry! LMAO

    • DatsLife

      Yeah, the fake butt craze on men and women is ridiculous. 20 years from now grandma will look like a fool.

  • Ooh La La

    Can we actually retire the term “ratchet”… Seriously the word disgusts me now almost as much as who it describes now

    • rzakia

      Totally agree. I’m so tired of people calling everything ratchet. The word sounds ghetto and I’m sick of people using it.

      • chanela

        speaking of being sick of people using it, you KNOW it’s a mess when non black people are using ratchet for everything! (and then they say it for the wrong stuff)

        “my hamburger looks so ratchet right now. it doesn’t even look like the picture”

        “bridget and i looked totally ratchet last night after the club”

        “omg britney, my mom’s ratchet car won’t start! this is so ratchetness”


    • rzakia

      Totally agree. I’m so tired of people calling everything ratchet. The word sounds ghetto and I’m sick of people using it.

    • Whitley

      I agree,because it’s overused and it’s corny. In 2013 can we retire “ratchet” and other sayings such as,”he gave/gives me life”,”he hair is laid,”He/she(inserts name)read her/him to the filth’s,and all those corny sayings…Enough is enough,they’re all corny and wack.

    • Na NA

      Well Im just thankful that the term swag has finally begun to make its exit out of pop culture, it still pops up here and there but its much better than years past! lol

    • I couldn’t agree with you more! All in favor….

    • I had no idea the proper way to say the word was ‘wretched’ i felt so enlightened when i learned that… and now i say wretched instead of ratchet.

  • YouNeedAnEditor

    Toya Sharee, this was one of the funniest, most refreshing, and on-point lists I’ve read on MN in a while! I really enjoyed it!