If He Loved You, He Wouldn’t Ask You To….10 Things You Should Never Do For a Man

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December 23, 2012 ‐ By Brooke Dean
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1. Have Sex

It’s pretty rare to bump into a virgin these days, but unlike unicorns and leprechauns, I know that there are some out there. If you’ve made a vow to yourself and/or God that you would abstain from having sex until you get married, that is a decision that any man you are dating should respect. If he can’t hang, then bounce him. Some men will see dating a virgin as a challenge and will stop at nothing to “deflower” her…and will hang in there for as long as it takes to do so. Then next thing you know, he’s gone missing and you have to send out a search and rescue team to find him. Stick to your guns and let him know that while you love him, you want to wait until you’re married…or until the time is right for you. If the time isn’t right for you, then it’s not right for you BOTH, and a man who honors and cherishes you will wait.

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  • http://all-out-nobody-girl.tumblr.com/ Figure.10

    I think a lot of these could be summed up in one go- Never let go of one of your strongly-held beliefs for another person. If there is something very important in your life that you’ve made a goal of (whether or not to start a family, for example), don’t let anyone take it away from you. The person you should be with isn’t going to pull you down an unwanted road, he’s going to walk with you.

    • Stanley Dada

      How about choosing a person who has the same believe as you? I think that’s better than trying to make someone follow your belief in order to be with you… Wouldn’t it be better this way?

    • Stanley Dada

      How about choosing a person who has the same believe as you? I think that’s better than trying to make someone follow your belief in order to be with you… Wouldn’t it be better this way?

  • misskaryn

    i can’t believe there are women that think they have to do any of these things to keep a man. what are we raising?

  • chanela

    i have a question about #4… if you get an abortion because it’s your body and your choice blah blah blah, do they still have the right to ask the man for child support if they want to keep the baby and he doesnt?

    • Kaori

      Yes.

    • hollyw

      Legally, you already know this to be true. This is because child laws are for the best interest of the child (already born), not adult parties. Also, legal is a man being forced to pay support for a child he didn’t sire if he found out substantially later. Again, for the best interest of the child, whether fair to the man or not.

  • chanela

    i have a question about #4… if you get an abortion because it’s your body and your choice blah blah blah, do they still have the right to ask the man for child support if they want to keep the baby and he doesnt?

  • MLS2698

    Lol. What kind of jail cell is #10? She looks happy.

  • Amija James

    Dang, ya’ll went there. I was thinking of things like look for a job for him, or get him a cellphone. That list seems like common sense but there are a lot of supposedly grown arse women who are guilty of doing the stupid isht on that list.

    • Candacey Doris

      If he needs help finding a job, why not? But the things on this list all need to be said. I know a couple of women who need this list. We ALL know at least one woman who never said no to one or more of these things. I know a girl who got a boob job because her man told her to. 1 break up later she’s left with a pair of double D’s and a bill she still hasn’t paid off.

    • Candacey Doris

      If he needs help finding a job, why not? But the things on this list all need to be said. I know a couple of women who need this list. We ALL know at least one woman who never said no to one or more of these things. I know a girl who got a boob job because her man told her to. 1 break up later she’s left with a pair of double D’s and a bill she still hasn’t paid off.

    • chanela

      DAMN i’ve done both of those things you just mentioned. i love to help.he lost his job (and his phone) recently so i got him a metro pcs phone for his birthday. then whenever i see job openings i help him out by sending him links to stuff. does that make me an idiot?

      • Editor

        “If you have to ask… (you’ll never know).”

        • chanela

          LOL i’m not asking though.

      • hollyw

        depends on how long you guys have been together. and if he lost your job while dating you, or never had one to begin with…

  • Megbabe

    These are all obvious HELL NOS!! Followed by a GET YO LIFE. I learned nothing -__-

  • Machelle Kwan

    I guess i’m selfish now from being hurt so much in life, but i’m not doing anything for a man that he won’t do for me. And asking me for anything, especially money, and especially when they haven’t done anything for me is a big NONO. They can find themselves another sucker.

  • ModelType

    Leaking your own sex tape…….foolish & any woman who would tat a dude’s name was obviously born without a brain. This was definitely made for black people. WE NEEDED IT.

    • Kaori

      Speak for yourself.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Farrah-Marriott/100000059893151 Farrah Marriott

    I think if a man loved me, we could definitely do a threesome – with another dude ;-)

    • http://www.facebook.com/nikia.dshiznit Nikia D-Shiznit

      Agree wholeheartedly

      • FullTimeStudent

        i would have a hard time thinking he was straight if he did…….thats for freaks only

        • http://www.facebook.com/people/Farrah-Marriott/100000059893151 Farrah Marriott

          Hopefully, you won’t hear that request again!

    • Herm Cain

      What type of no moral having h**s are y’all these days if that’s even an option kill yourself before the aids from that f*g get you

      • MLS2698

        I think it was sarcasm. Hopefully……

        • Amija James

          Duhhhhhh

        • Amija James

          Duhhhhhh

      • Farrah

        That was sarcasm. I understand that can be difficult to convey through a computer. In an actual relationship, sharing (in any way) is not a real option.

  • Kaori

    I think women would be better off if they didn’t give so much of themselves to men.

    • Right!

      My sentiments exactly! Too many women are doing that these daysm

  • IllyPhilly

    Wow is all I can say, plus this… Somebody’s mama and/or dad should have taught them all of this.

    • http://www.facebook.com/qianamdavis Qiana M Davis

      How can they teach that if they are either absent from their lives or don’t know themselves?

  • Tryingtodeal

    The baby thing. For some reason men think its time to breed when they come in contact with me. I’ve had some do shady things with condoms.

  • unrequitedlove

    A man who loves you should never and I mean never ask you “babe can you lick @$* ?

    • tam

      indeed, how very gay of some males, bringing their horrid thoughts onto vulnerable women, some will lead you right into pits if not careful. But above points are only the basics for all young ladies, necessaries; non-negotiables.

      • Stanley Dada

        This is really some gay sh*t for real!!!

    • Stanley Dada

      That was a time when people were saying that about sucking d*ck. It was as early as the 90s. Then women start saying, *I’ll do that for only my husband*. Nowadays we rarely hear anybody say they will never give head.

      I said this to tell you that women will do almost anything to prove their love to men and that include UnGodly sh*t in bed.

      • Kath

        I tell u. Women just need to stand for something, anything and stick to it. The need to be so desperate I don’t get. Sighs.

      • katy

        well actually some girls like me will never do that. i have a gag reflex

    • Ariellusine

      Lmao at the question!!!

  • doublesevenEighthmonth

    very nice list. all so true

  • http://twitter.com/annnoire Ann Noire

    Thank you for not being ashamed of writing this. Some women get defensive with the “do anything for your man” stance. But, I find that women tend to be much more compromising and naturally giving. Translation: You are left with very little (emotionally, mentally, resources) if the relationships turns for the worse.

    • Kaori

      I don’t believe women to be naturally giving, but rather socialized to care about what everyone else wants.

    • SMH_shameonitall

      I agree. Unless a woman is abused or traumatized early on, most of us are nurturers/givers by nature. But sadly, that ability is used and abused by some people. Years ago I was guilty of doing a few things listed above. I was an immature people-pleaser–not anymore. I’ve grown and my self-esteem is through the roof now thanks to God. There’s no harm in admitting to past mistakes but there IS harm in repeating them–over and over again.