She Likes Me, She Likes Me Not: Fellas, This Is How You Know She’s Playing You

December 26, 2012  |  
"couple pf"

shutterstock

Do you have a hunch you like your girlfriend more than she likes you? Perhaps, that she doesn’t like you at all and is using you because she is lonely, wants attention, wants to make other people jealous or even wants your money? Here are signs the woman you are with doesn’t really care about you, and might be using you!

"Man driving a car pf"

shutterstock.com

You always have to go to her

If you want to see her, you have to go to her house, or meet her with her friends wherever they are. She won’t go to any restaurant or bar you want to go to, just so she can see you. Why? Because you’re not the purpose—you’re just a perk!

"Man holding a cell phone pf"

shutterstock.com

She cancels on you for silly things

She cancels on you to take her dog sweater shopping or watch re-runs of her favorite show. That’s because you’re just a little toy who is around to make her happy, and today you’re not the toy she feels like playing with.

"Group of guys drinking beer pf"

thinkstock.com

She doesn’t know your friends or family

It’s exhausting to put on a smile and try to make an impression for new people, not to mention listen to everything about them and get to know them. Why would she put in that effort for somebody she’s not that into?

Shutterstock

Shutterstock

She’s not a good listener

When you’re talking to her about something you’re really interested in, or worried about, or excited about, she is clearly spacing out, playing with her phone or fixing her makeup. She’s not going to take on the added emotions of a person she doesn’t truly love. She has enough emotions of her own.

thinkstock

thinkstock

She forgets big things happening in your life

You tell her one day that your boss had a heart attack and is out of the office for weeks, the next day she asks if your boss gave you anything hard to do. You tell her you’ve been invited to speak at a conference one weekend, she asks you to hang out that weekend. When someone loves you, they remember when big, life-altering things are happening to you.

"black couple in bed pf"

Shutterstock

She loves you most when you compliment her

She fishes for compliments, and when you give them to her—more specifically, shower her with them—then she loves you and throws her arms around you. Oh yeah and asks for more compliments. She’s just keeping you around to boost her ego.

"Man hitting on a woman pf"

shutterstock

She never gets jealous—ever

Think about it: if you went up and blatantly hit on another woman in front of your girlfriend, would she care? If not, well…she probably would let you do whatever you wanted so long as you still did what she wanted you to do for her.

 

"Couple in bed pf"

thinkstock.com

You only have sex when she feels like it

Never when you are really riled up or could use a good romp in the sack after a long day will she work up the energy to do it. But when she wants to have sex, she throws a hissy fit if you don’t give in.

"Couple in bed pf"

thinkstock.com

She never feels like having sex

And here’s an even easier one. If she never wants to have sex period and finds ridiculous reasons not to every night. She’s not into you.

"Women gossiping pf"

shutterstock.com

She has girls nights a lot

Girls nights are just an excuse to dress up hot and get attention from other men, which is fine, but if your girlfriend feels the need to do this multiple nights a week, something’s not right. If she were head over heels in love with you, your affection would satiate her desire for attention.

"paying the bill pf"

Shutterstock

She never pays

You pay to treat someone who you recognize works hard, is a good person and deserves to be treated. But, if she doesn’t really care about you, she doesn’t recognize any of that about you. That’s a prerequisite to her not caring about you, so she’s not paying.

"black couple talking pf"

shutterstock.com

She talks your ear off

She’s not really in love with you, so what does she care about annoying you? As far as she’s concerned, you make a perfectly good sounding board. Getting to talk a bunch about her own problems makes her feel important, and you let her do that.

"DJ at a party pf"

She always wants friends around

Having friends around provides a buffer. If you were alone, you might just realize you have nothing in common, or that she’s just not very affectionate or nice to you.

"Couple flirting pf"

Shutterstock

She flirts with other guys

If she knows you’re only temporary, she’ll have no qualms conducting her search for a guy she’s actually into right in front of you. If you confront her about her flirting, she can always turn it on you and say you’re being paranoid.

Trending on MadameNoire

View Comments
Comment Disclaimer: Comments that contain profane or derogatory language, video links or exceed 200 words will require approval by a moderator before appearing in the comment section. XOXO-MN
  • Rod

    I met a young woman that at first appeared well grounded. She presented herself well, and did not appear to have any emotional or mental problems or baggage. After dating her for a couple of months everything appeared to be going fine. Then one day I call and ask her what she had planned for a specific weekend. Her response threw me for a loop, with warning bells screaming in my head, “DANGER WILL ROBINSON DANGER”. Her comment, “Are you Stalking Me?” My second thought was, Wow, where did that come from? I do not remember the rest of the conversation. But, I did not call her again. Not even after she called me and left messages. All I have thought since them was wow that was close. What a nut case. Was getting away from her the correct response or was I wrong?

  • L-Boogie

    Say something! Do not send people.

  • Sagittarius81

    I had a friend who does guys like that. Her only true love left her for another woman 5 years ago and every guy she been with, she keeps wanting them to be like her ex. She didn’t care about getting to know those guys or spending time, she used them as a rebound for her ex and when they break up with her, she gets mad and blasts them on Facebook! My friends and I keep telling her that she needs to stay single until she can get over her ex and stop using guys as a replacement for him.

  • Meyaka

    No one should let anybody play with their hearts or mind,I know this girl who is only with her boyfriend until someone better comes along. She has told me,him and everyone else,still he stays. 2013 is not the year of salvation for me,I’m going to let folks be.

  • get real

    Let me know the reasons because I refuse waste an hour of time clicking that mile long slide show.

    • Ms. Kameria

      That’s why I came right to the comments first, hoping maybe somebody would let me know.

    • Ladybug94

      And it is a waste, you didn’t miss anything.

  • Stanley Dada

    If I’m in a relationship where I can only have sex when the other person wants/feels like it, I may be better being single.

    • Madame Truth

      Naw babe….it may very well be that ur D*ck-N-Balls stink and she can only tolerate the smell twice a month. She doesnt wanna hurt u. I broke up with a handsome dude cause his smelled like White Castles and soup!

      • Stanley Dada

        That is exactly what I’m saying. If a woman cannot deal with me, I’m better being single than be with said woman.
        And by the way, I don’t know you and you don’t know men. DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL!

      • Ms. Kameria

        “White Castles and soup”….Gross! LOL!

    • Madame Truth

      Naw babe….it may very well be that ur D*ck-N-Balls stink and she can only tolerate the smell twice a month. She doesnt wanna hurt u. I broke up with a handsome dude cause his smelled like White Castles and soup!

    • Kaori

      Because otherwise you would become a rapist, right?

      • Stanley Dada

        If i’m in a committed relationship and I can’t have sex, I’m getting out of this relationship. How is getting out of a relationship makes me a rapist?

        I’ll be a proud rapist if that makes me one.

      • Andrew Beverley

        Because if I try to get some from my lady and she says no, that means she has just bern raped! Are you kidding me!

      • Andrew Beverley

        Are you stupid? He said he would rather be single than be with a woman that won’t have sex with him. How is that saying he open to rape?