What Was That About? Things Men Do During Sex That Make Us Think They Don’t Love Us
Whether it’s their animal instincts kicking in, or something they thought looked fun in Adult Videos, men can do some pretty insensitive things during sex. Sometimes, they mean well and their attempt to spice things up was just misguided, sometimes they really do just view us as a booty call, but either way, these things make us feel like an interchangeable piece of meat.
Throwing the towel
If you’re not using a condom (and even sometimes when you are) there’s a certain substance that needs to be cleaned up after sex and we don’t appreciate just having a towel thrown at us! We’re already feeling vulnerable after we’ve let you enjoy our body. Having you treat us like the housekeeper doesn’t help that.
If you go directly to ripping our panties off and trying to have intercourse, we feel like our pleasure is completely irrelevant to you. Because, unless you were born yesterday and/or have never spoken to anyone about sex ever, you know intercourse is unpleasant for us without a little preparation.
Skiping talking altogether
Sitting silently watching television does not a romantic moment make. So when, out of the blue and after a half hour of zero interaction, you jump us, we feel like you view us as a pleasure toy you can just pick up and play with whenever the urge strikes.
Not kissing us
You know who else doesn’t kiss during sex? Most prostitutes. How do you think that makes us feel when you avoid a lip lock during sex like the plague?
Going to sleep right after
We know that men naturally have the urge to pass out after sex, and we also know that the men that really care about us fight that urge and take a few extra moments to make sure we’re comfortable, have a cup of water if we need one, and know they appreciate having us there. And those that don’t care about us just let their sleepy hormones take over.
Pushing our head…south
If a man really cares about us, he appreciates every moment of sex: from the initial make out to the actual intercourse. He isn’t thinking, “This sucks. I really wish we could get onto the next part.” So, when a man forces our heads in the direction of his member, we know he is not in the mindset of enjoying every moment.
Always wanting to be behind
There are a lot of fun positions that require the guy to be behind, but if you are foregoing a little face-to-face action all of the time, we think you’re trying to eliminate any intimate aspect of sex. Or perhaps trying to picture someone else’s face on the other side of that hair you’re pulling…
Not helping us finish
If once you’re through, it’s through, we definitely feel like a toy to you. A man that cares about us, no matter how tired, gets his mouth/hands or whatever ready and finishes the job he started.
Bossing us around
“Faster! Slower! Higher! Move over! Turn over!” If you’re commanding us around like an army sergeant, we feel that all that matters to you is that things go physically perfect—just the way you want them. And that if they don’t, the encounter wasn’t worth it for you.
Moving at warp speed
We get it, when you use your own hand or any other, um, devices you may have at home, you “beat it” “shake one out” or any of the other euphemisms that imply you move really fast. That’s just your instinct and if you didn’t have a woman in the equation to please, that’s how you would be moving. So, what does that say to us when there is a woman in the equation to please, and you still move like that? It says that you’ve kind of forgotten we are there.
Leaving their mark
You know those women who scream, “Oooh yeah! More! Yummy” when men, um, relieve themselves all over their faces? Yeah—they’re actresses. Very few women actually like that. And we feel like you view us as a Adult Videos actress if you try and pull that on us.
Trying to keep their bed neat
If you’re asking us to make no sudden movements, or stick to only one position, or keep our clothes on to keep your bed nice and tidy, leaving it looking as if nothing even happened in it, we think the appearance of your bachelor pad is more important to you than we are. Or that you have someone else coming over later who will be underneath those sheets.
Turning cuddling into sex every single time
Sometimes cuddling does naturally turn into sex and it’s a pleasant surprise, but if you simply cannot come near us without needing to have sex, we feel like the only time you can enjoy our presence is when you’re inside of us.
Always wanting to finish with oral
Sometimes it’s fun to switch things up and finish a guy off with oral. But men, if you’re asking to finish like that every time, we once again feel you are trying to avoid intimacy with us.