We Know It’s Hard: 5 Ways To Overcome Breakup Bitterness

December 21, 2012  |  

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From YourTango

Are you still feeling bitter about a breakup you went through ages ago? Don’t let bitterness keep you from finding love! Here are five steps to help you move on with your life:

1. Own your feelings. After a relationship ends, it is pretty difficult not to harbor some feelings of resentment and bitterness that it did not turn out the way you hoped  Feelings of disappointment, rejection, anger, humiliation and bitterness are common.

It is essential to the process of moving past these difficult emotions to first recognize and acknowledge exactly what your particular emotional response to this experience is. How did your partner fail you? What is your resentment about?

This process can begin after you have gone through the initial reaction to the breakup. Some time must pass before you will be ready to process your feelings in an effective way. When you feel ready, spend some time exploring these feelings on your own.

2. Take care of yourself and reach out for support. This seems elementary, but sometimes, in times of crisis, people turn inward and disappear from trusted friends and family. When this happens, you will feel even more isolated, and may become convinced that not only doesn’t your former partner love you anymore, but that no one else does, either. Doubting yourself in this way is a common but unhelpful reaction to a breakup.

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  • Pretty much if you have a full and enriched life before you met him the sting of losing him isn’t so sharp. Maintaining your relationships with friends and family, having hobbies and a career you are passionate all while dating him is what more women need to do. Keep living YOUR life and add him to what you already got going that way he isn’t your be all end all.


    Am tired getting the $hitty end of the stick. Am over lames and their lame @$$ EXcuses!!

    • Drew Smith

      Then… maybe stop dating them?

  • Machelle Kwan

    It’s kind of hard to not be bitter when you know you were a good person to someone and didn’t deserve to be treated badly. After a certain age, you just don’t believe in fairy tales anymore. Bitterness is a dark place that’s hard to come out of.

  • Nope

    “3. Examine the role each partner played in the breakup.”

    I have yet to ever hear a woman not play the victim in a failed relationship.