Why I Won’t Be Teaching My Children To Believe In Santa Claus

December 21, 2012  |  

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I was one of those kids who had a ton of questions about everything. One of those kids who would respond with the answer to my previous question with an obnoxious “why.” Being a child like that, I really appreciate the fact that my parents were patient enough to answer my questions because I know that had to be annoying at times. Like most children, Christmas was, and often times still is, a very enchanting time for me. And a part of all that magic had to do with the myth of Santa Claus. Our teachers talked about Santa at school, we watched countless Christmas movies where Santa saved the day and kids from all over the city stood in hour-long lines just to get a picture with him.

Santa was a hero and it would have been easy to believe in him; but for some reason, even as a young one, I had my doubts. So at around five years old, I asked the people I knew wouldn’t lie to me: my parents.

“Is Santa Claus real?”

My parents didn’t even hesitate: “No, he’s not.” They did make sure to mention that there was nothing wrong with watching the movies or appreciating Santa; but believing in him was…unnecessary.

What my parents probably should have told me was that just because we knew the truth about Santa Claus, didn’t mean we had  to share that piece of classified information with our friends. But they didn’t; and in an effort to educate, my sister and I told our neighborhood friend Jasmine, that Santa was not real. Of course she didn’t believe us. We tried to convince her with evidence. “How could he visit every child’s house in the world in one night? Everybody doesn’t have a chimney!” We went on and on like this for a couple of minutes until suddenly it occurred to us, all we had to do was run and ask our mother. She had already told us Santa wasn’t real, surely she’d say it again.

We found our mom, preoccupied at the time, and asked her. Either her back was turned or she didn’t know Jasmine was around; but she told us again, flat out, that Santa was not real.


We would learn years later, once we were in high school, that Jasmine’s mom was none too pleased about the bit of new information she’d learned that day. In retrospect, that wasn’t right, but as kids we had no idea how deep Santa was for some of our friends.

While I can sympathize with parents going to great lengths, even lying, to maintain their child’s naivete or  innocence, I can honestly say I won’t be one of those parents. I’m not really a fan of lying to children, unless it’s to protect them. I want my children to know that when I tell them something, it’s the truth, or a level of truth I think they can handle at the time. I’m not into intentionally deceiving little people especially when they often look at adults, their parents in particular, with absolute trust.
Aside from the lying, I want my children to know that it’s not some strange, white man they’ve never met, buying them presents. It’s me and their father working hard throughout the year to be able to give them gifts.

And while we’re on this whole gift issue, I should mention that the biggest reason why I’m really not about teaching or allowing my children to continue to believe in Santa Claus is because the holiday is really not about him. I have a dichotomy of feelings when it comes to Mr. Claus. While I still smile at the kids waiting in line to meet him and still get really invested in those adorable Christmas movies; a big part of me also recognizes that Santa, in a lot of ways, is a symbol of the commercialism that has taken precedence over the real, sacred meaning of Christmas: the celebration of the birth of Christ. In a perfect world, I’d love to get to a place where I can wean my children off gifts entirely, so we can truly focus on Christ at Christmas. If there’s anyone I want my children to believe in, it’s him and not Santa.

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  • FIY

    Post late as f*** but i felt i needed to answer I actually had the conversation with people on facebook. The called me a bad parent and many other names because i told them i never want to let my child believe to something like this. And they were 18 year old people who didn’t even had kids. Also, fiy, Christmas is celebrated in 25 December to overshadow the pagan celebration of the God of Sun. You have the right to believe that our religion is a myth. But you do not have the right to celebrate the biggest event of it the wrong way with a commercial trick.

  • Mr. Blanc

    This is stupid. Children need stimulus for their imaginations. Santa is one of the main contributing factors of that. As is the Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, and so on. The belief that something like that exists is what keeps children interested in the holiday in the first place. Santa can exist in any culture, religion, or belief. He transcends those barriers and unifies our society. He can be a catalyst for harmony and focus everyone on the true meaning of Christmas: Family, friends, and love. Nothing wrong with a little incentive for kids to behave properly, is there? Reward is the fundamental structure of conditioning, and a positive one at that. Whether you are rewarding with gifts on Christmas or you are rewarding with candy, it doesn’t really matter. It’s the same thing. So get off your high horse and stop ruining your kid’s childhood because you are trying to teach them that Christ is all they need and that “believing” in Santa is unhealthy. Hypocrite.

  • Emma

    Jesus is Santa Claus for adults.

  • Wes

    You don’t want them to believe in an imaginary man bringing them gifts but you’re okay with them believing in an imaginary man offering immortality? Oh the irony….

  • OrlandoAl

    When rationality conflicts with Joy, I choose Joy all the time.

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  • Natt Villegas

    I was loving this article…. Until the ‘Christ in Christmas’ part.

    How hypocritical of you.

    “No honey, Santa is not real! How can he possibly visit every child on earth on the same night to bring presents? That’s ridiculous!…. But a an imaginary guy in the sky that can hear every human being pray to him at the same time is totally possible and real”


  • mother

    While I see your point I do wish to point out that while everyone does not believe in santa my family and I do not believe in god. Why can I not allow my children to believe in a make believe man who delivers presents? As long as other people make sure their children dont ruin the magic for others. I tell my children that although we ddo not believe in god òthers do and they can believe what they wish.

  • Janvier Li

    From a daughter’s perspective, I disagree. My mom made every Christmas, Easter, and everything in between incredibly special by having me believe in all the mythical wonders of childhood. I was initially really sad when I came to find out that they aren’t real, but I’m so grateful for the years that I did believe in them. We need our stories, our fantasies, our escapes from reality all throughout our lives.Telling children to believe in Santa, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, etc…..that isn’t lying, that’s sparking their creativity. That’s making them believe that there is a lot more to this world than what the eye can see, that’s doing so in a way that their young minds can comprehend.
    Then again, if a child flat-out asks for the truth, then parents shouldn’t try to deceive their children. That being said, I completely sympathize with your friend, Jasmine. I was ‘deep into’ my beliefs and I refused to listen to my friends when they told me Santa isn’t real. Right up until I was nine. Every kid is different as is every parent and you have to do what you feel is right by your children. I’m not a parent, but I do understand that. However, I thought I’d offer my two cents as a child who believed and, in some ways, still does. In fact, I always will.

  • Kattie

    Christmas isn’t about Christ anymore than it is about Santa Claus. I don’t understand why people say this…. “Christ” wasn’t born then. It says so in your bible. They only changed it to Christmas to convert pagans during the burning times. As for teaching my children fairy tales, I won’t. My mother was pissed when I told her I didn’t want to teach my daughter about Santa. Said I was robbing her of childhood and that I have no religious beliefs so this makes it even worse. Lol. Whatever. This will be a bigger issue when she gets old enough to understand. Her father and I aren’t together anymore and he has two babies by someone else already. They’re Christians and believe in celebrating Christmas with Santa and Easter with the bunny. But I will tell her that it’s all a lie. Then when she gets even older and realizes I was correct, she’ll trust me even more. And As for keeping my children silent about their beliefs about Santa sorry but no. If they want to babble about how they believe in Santa my daughter has every right to say no he’s not real! Just like Christians have every right to say they believe. But me being an atheist will say nope. Evidence! Seriously. Don’t be so stupid. Everyone can have an opinion and if you don’t want your children exposed to the REAL world, don’t put them in school. Plain and simple.

  • Alien

    Satan Clause!

  • cavatina68

    You tell your children not to believe in santa, but still you want them to believe in jesus? Well let me tell you one thing; that jesus you believe in is as much fantasy as santa is! There is no difference in believing in santa and believing in jesus, they are both fiction. So if you tell your children that santa isn’t real, you should tell them that jesus also is only a fiction. Because that is what it really is. And the reason for celebrating christmas is winter solstice and not the birth of a “holy” baby. Winter solstice is a tradition that is much, much older than christianity and that is the genuine christmas. It’s a shame it is called christmas in english, it should be called something else because it originally is no christ in the celebration. To celebrate the birth of a “holy” baby is something christians once came up with because they wanted an end to the pagan celebration of the winter solstice.

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  • DearWifey

    Hi, I’ll be doing the same with my children.
    But I do recognise that with my nieces and nephews when they misbehave close to Xmas time it’s far easier to keep them in line by saying I’m going to tell Santa when they misbehave. It means I’m not the bad guy, and I don’t have to discipline someone else’s children.
    Their parents put a lot of effort into the Xmas mythology and that’s all. They has never been a bible in that house!
    My children won’t grow up believing in Santa, I don’t have the time, effort or inclination.



  • Melissa

    If you choose to lie to your children about Santa, it is not the responsibility of parents who chose not to lie to their kids to perpetrate your lie. It isnt “magical” to lie to your kids, it is awful. I was devastated as a kid to learn my parents lied to me about santa, and you can bet I wont be doing that to my kids.

  • Mark

    Wait, you always had your doubts, and you were an inquirer of sorts – so you discovered that Santa wasn’t real but you didn’t learn the same lesson about God? I think that the story of Christ is an enchanting one, but it’s nothing to get too worked up over to the point of teaching your kids one myth over another.

  • Atheist

    If you’re not going to teach about Santa might as well not teach about the myth of Christ as well. Because Christmas is a pagan celebration of the winter solstice. If a Jesus existed which he didn’t, he would have been born around the time of July.

  • Sia

    I don’t think the ‘real meaning’ of Christmas is Christ, either. If you read the bible, Jesus Christ couldn’t have been born on the 25th of December…thanks to the shepherds watching the flock by night. I just don’t see what the difference is between believing in Santa and believing in Christ. Christmas is a time for family, that’s all.

  • Just saying!!

    As open-minded as I try to be, I must admit that my heart is already aching for these children. I couldn’t imagine my childhood without Santa, the tooth fairy, etc. But I do feel if you remove Santa from the equation for religious reasons, you might as well remove most Christmas traditions which were pagan traditions (from what I know).

  • Christ wasn’t born on dec 25. Both are lies. Why pick and choose which lies to tell and which ones not to

  • Everydaylouis

    This is an awesome post. We’re dealing with the same issue right now and it’s hard because children don’t alway understand about not telling but willfully deceiving a child breaks their trust and once they learn the truth they have no reason to trust you about all sorts of important things.

  • Abrasive Angel

    If you start off lying to your children while they are young then don’t be mad when they start lying to you when they become teens. They learn it at home and it was enforced.

  • Santa is a white fantsy, don’t celbrate

  • Its good to hear someone else say what I have decided to say 3 years ago. I mean come on yall. The toothfairy, the boogeyman, bloody mary, candyman,santa and the easter bunny have been getting too much credit and society has made millions based on these ridiculous childhood lies. Its okay to get your kids excited about the holidays. Let’s face it, any kind of happiness is better than none at all these days. But when did it become wrong to the truth? Don’t blame us for living in the real word instead of the world of illusion. My kids know the truth! Let’s not get on the true origins of christmas and halloween. O_o

  • naivegagirl

    Umm…okay…I get it. Jesus is the reason for the season. You have every right to teach your child what you want them to believe. Yes, I know all the problems with maintaining the myth….first…why is he white and not like me, pressure to buy stuff you may not be able to afford, God is lost….For me, it’s all about how i spin it….the same way Jesus looks like me, Santa looks like me….If your pricey gift didn’t come…its because Santa drop the ball, not momma.. And about the season being so commercial…don’t just boycott this theme..do it for all of them…does Jesus care about you having new clothes for Easter..shouldn’t we come just as we are? Why buy all the trimmings for thanksgiving…why not fast? For independence, don’t use it as a reason to picnic or bbq..I don’t say this to mock…but to point out there is a truth and spirit about every Religious, Historic moment, occasion…and everyone takes it upon themselves to enjoy it, spin it the way they want…what if your child’s friend mom took it upon herself to “educate” your child about something you believe in and she doesn’t…Is that right?..And do you share the true, gritty details behind those religious, historical moments to your 5 yr old or do you provide a flowery, perfume version of events…Wow, there was a time when parents prayed their children stayed a child as long as possible…now days, parents want kids to man-up, woman-up, grow-up and face facts asap..stop talking to your dolls, talking to still objects is frowned upon in society. lol.

  • Biff Webster

    I was with you 100% until you mentioned Christ. Believing in him is just as ridiculous as believing in Santa; there is the same amount of evidence in favor of either’s existence – zero. You said yourself that kids have absolute trust in their parents, well is it any wonder that the vast majority of religious people practice the same religion as their parents? If parents are going to tell kids the truth, I think they ought to start out at the very least by telling their children that their religion is a belief, and that other people have many different beliefs. Not that it is the absolute truth, and the punishment for not believing in it is eternal damnation, for that is a lie that is potentially much more damaging than any lie about Santa. And besides, I think that what Christmas is really about for the vast majority of people, even most religious people, is family. Think about your own Christmas gatherings, do you spend more of the time celebrating Christ or catching up with family you maybe haven’t seen in a while, enjoying a good meal, watching the kids play and open gifts, and any other family traditions you may have (White Elephant anybody?). And family is something we can all agree is real (whether biological or not), and the values that go along with being part of a family: compassion, love, goodwill, patience, courage, resolve, and respect, are a good place to start in what we should be teaching our children.

    • Just saying!!

      I want to say Amen but that simply wouldn’t suffice!! I agree with every word! *standing ovation* you better PREACH!!!!

  • Kr2006

    Definitely no need to let children enjoy themselves. Go ahead and tell them the truth about the world. No fun, no innocence. Just truth, people shoot other people for no reason, there’s no ants or tooth fairy. Don’t teach your children to have faith in anything. Fun mom!

  • I was accepting of your position right up ’til you said “some strange, white man”. & isn’t it dishonest to teach your kids that it’s all about Christ & not giving gifts but they get gifts anyway?

  • JoeSchmoe50

    I hope you’ll continue the good practice of not lying to your children and raise them atheist, too.

    • Guest

      I understand the point you’re trying to make, however, there is a difference between people telling the myth of Santa and telling the belief in Christ. First, if I teach my kid to believe in Santa, I am teaching him something that I do not believe to be true…a lie. But, if I teach my child to believe in Christ, I am teaching him something that I DO believe to be true, so I’m not lying. The same goes for you teaching your child that there is no God or your political views or your social standards…these are not lies in your mind because you believe them to be true. There is no deception on your part.

      • JoeSchmoe50

        You may not be lying, but you’re still teaching your child to believe in myths. The myth of religion happens to support the victimization of children, women, minorities worldwide. Deception or no deception, science and physics and reality outweigh willing stupidity every time.

  • Kevric Brown

    What’s one more lie on Christmas, if you’re gonna do the whole Jesus birthday myth then let Santa roll too. Play by play details of the night Jesus was born but nothing else about him until he’s a grown man…really??? Not that there are no other writings about Jesus as a child, just that those cardinals who voted on what goes in the “holy book” (so called book of truth) didn’t think they should be included. Why include the whole truth when you can hide some. My kids will learn about the real world soon enough (I know this is their last Santa Christmas) so let them have their innocence. They will have childhood memories to last a lifetime (my most cherished Christmas memories are the ones where I still believed in Santa). What do they gain by knowing the truth? That their gifts are based on how hard mommy and daddy worked that year. That’s something they have plenty of time to learn.

  • milesofsmiles

    My parents did not perpetuate the Santa fantasy, and I have no resentments about it. I do not feel like I was robbed or cheated out of my childhood. I had a wonderful childhood, and I pretended and played and grew into a creative, responsible, well-balanced adult. Since I have no nostalgia or attachment to Santa, I do not teach my son about him. He knows not to ruin the fantasies of Santa for other kids, and I have no ill-will toward parents who choose to incorporate Santa into their festivities. Also, Santa is not banned from our home. We love Christmas movies and crafts, and we feel that Christmas is a magical time–even without Mr. Claus.

    The thing that startles me the most is the hostility regarding this choice. I’ve had people get in my face, pointing their finger at me for ruining my son’s childhood. Some of the comments on here are quite aggressive. It tends to make me wonder what kind of priorities we have when we cannot tolerate someone’s choice regarding, of all things, Santa Claus. I say, relax, my friends. Let’s join hands and sing Kumbaya, shall we? 🙂 Merry Christmas!

    • Nlightened.

      Good point. I am a poet, playwright, actress and Director. Very creative even without Santa in my childhood.

    • Nlightened.

      Good point. I am a poet, playwright, actress and Director. Very creative even without Santa in my childhood.

    • Nlightened.

      Good point. I am a poet, playwright, actress and Director. Very creative even without Santa in my childhood.

  • Rakeemagne

    Great article. People will disagree with not allowing kids to enjoy the “magic of Santa” but as a parent you can raise your children however you like. Folks like to pick and choose what realities and what fantasies they want their children to experiences. A lot of times, adults continue traditions with their children because it makes them (the adult) feel good; it is not necessarily done for the child’s benefit. The myth of Santa is one of those traditions because Santa makes people feel good — it takes them back to the joys of their childhood and we often retreat to our childhood to bring back good memories in hopes of recreating them. Individuals will throw out there how December 25 is a Pagan holiday and how their were other “gods” with similar stories to Christ to discredit any religious justification for denying the fallacy of Santa and the commercialized and commodified Christmas holiday. But those individuals who believe that Christianity and the Christian’s reasoning for celebrating Christmas is non-authentic due to the reasons I mentioned wouldn’t be able to comprehend the legitimacy of Christ without the Spirit of God speaking to them… if people are playing devil’s advocate for argument sake, then they have too much time on their hands.

    • Just saying!!

      I highly disagree. I would not teach my children about Santa for MY benefit. I remember what it was like believing in Santa as a child and it was a great feeling that I want my children to experience as well. Heck if I was trying to benefit I would tell them there was no Santa, because they think Santa is rich and invincible and I could just say “sorry honey, I don’t have that kind of money” lol

  • i love this piece….i can identify and i agree with every word. Jesus is the reason not Santa. I love Christmas and all the decorations but i just can’t do the Santa thing with my children…i still don’t understand the whole “pics with Santa” thing either. I told a friend of mine and my husband’s that we would not be perpretrating the Santa Illusion with our son and she got so upset about it and basically tried to convince us to do Santa with him….nope sorry I won’t do it.

  • Gerri C

    She states: a big part of me also recognizes that Santa, in a lot of ways, is a symbol of the commercialism that has taken precedent over the real, sacred meaning of Christmas: the celebration of the birth of Christ.

    This birth of Christ on this day is neither the truth, this so called “Christmas” hoilday is a pagan holiday and that’s the true origins of it. Hey! If you don’t believe me, do your own research.

  • Jack Knife

    And as for the lame notion that X-mas is about Jesus, ha, there’s no fun in that. Like most kids, we want a Johnny Lightening set, or Hot Wheel set, or BMX bike from Bargain Town (aka:Toys-R-Us). Jesus doesn’t provide these thing…St Nick does! And let us thank god that Santa was given this wonderful gift to deliver toys around the world.

    The silly notion that mom & pop bought all those toys. Long live St Nick, long live St Nick.

  • Jack Knife

    what the hey? I can’t believe this writer didn’t have anything else in the world to write about. What’s so awful about a child believing in Ole Saint Nick? It’s just another childhood fantasy like the Wolfman, or Boogeyman, the Easter Bunny and the fairy god mother. Jesus H Christ, it’s not like the child will grow a mass killer or something.

  • Kaori

    I knew Santa wasn’t real when I was about 6 and I stayed up watching for him in the sky and I never saw him.

    I believe that people should be realistic and honest with children. If I have children, I don’t plan to have them believe in Santa or the Easter Bunny or any other fairytales.

  • JazzyJazzyJay

    I don’t ever remember believing in Santa & I’m not going to teach my kids to either. I don’t understand why people get upset when their kids find out there’s no Santa. How, exactly, is that taking away from their childhood??

  • I REALLY hate to break it to ya OP, but Dec 25th is NOT Christ’s birthday. It’s not even close. Also, that Christmas tree you’ve been hanging stuff on, not a Christian thing either hun!!! It’s all part of pagan traditions that Christians have been trying to mask over the centuries. So, before you go burn that Yule Time log this year. Try doing some research. That Yule Log, was around LONG before Christ was born. Just saying, before you go spouting “The true meaning of Christmas”, you better LEARN where the traditions really came from first.

    • Just saying!!


  • Jeremy

    But you will lie to and indoctrinate your kids about religious fairytales?

  • Live_in_LDN

    I knew Santa wasn’t real for as long as I could remember. My parents didn’t want a magical white man to take credit for all their hard work. I wasn’t ‘heartbroken’. My childhood was not ‘ruined’ like some of the comments are suggesting. I still loved Christmas and all the traditions and even went to Santa’s grotto a couple times because I could seperate fact from fiction but appreciate and love both. Children are more intelligent and resilliant than what some of you are giving them credit for.

    • Nlightened

      Thank you. Children are only idiots if you encourage idiocity. I grew up with a single mom and she never ever let me believe the Santa lie. I have two sons age 18 and 13, not only did I keep them enlightened about the myth of Santa, both of them know the real reason for the season. The first thing my youngest said to me when he woke up this morning was “Happy Winter Solstice Mom”. They also know that Christmas is so commercial that momma will be giving gift cards to spend after Christmas when the prices are at their best. For us the day is about family, food and festivities. Yes we give and receive gifts… Because we love each other…Not because the Sun god lives again ( you know that’s the pagan tradition right)
      My children are not deprived, they are educated. There is a difference Black America.

      • Just saying!!

        I’m afraid you are highly mistaken. Children are meant to be just that–children. Being an idiot and having an imagination are two completely different things. (Heck you kind of have to have one to believe in most major faiths today because you can’t really touch Jesus). In fact, some of the greatest thinkers and innovators were such because they had an imagination; they were able to envision something beyond reality. People who lack imagination are often lacking in many other departments, so I would suggest you get some.

    • Nlightened

      Thank you. Children are only idiots if you encourage idiocity. I grew up with a single mom and she never ever let me believe the Santa lie. I have two sons age 18 and 13, not only did I keep them enlightened about the myth of Santa, both of them know the real reason for the season. The first thing my youngest said to me when he woke up this morning was “Happy Winter Solstice Mom”. They also know that Christmas is so commercial that momma will be giving gift cards to spend after Christmas when the prices are at their best. For us the day is about family, food and festivities. Yes we give and receive gifts… Because we love each other…Not because the Sun god lives again ( you know that’s the pagan tradition right)
      My children are not deprived, they are educated. There is a difference Black America.

  • get real

    You see blk folks how whites like “VLTRA” try to distance Egypt from Africa as if Egypt is not apart of Africa? As if “sub saharhan africans” were somehow different then the pryamid builders in Nubia and Egypt. Everything I mentioned in that comment about math, writing etc, can be found on the walls in tombs and pryamids in Egypt. You know the pryamids walls with all of those blk and brown faces on them huh “VLTRA”? Now reply with more of that Eurocentrist nonsense and I will continue to school u.

  • I will definitely teach my kids about Santa. Kids nowadays grow up entirely too fast. They know about their parent’s indiscretions, sexual relationships, financial burdens, etc. Kids are no longer kids and they’re no happier for it. It’s nice for a child to believe in something even if it doesn’t exist. It’s all in good fun. You’re only a child once. Santa poses no real harm so why not.

    • TeahMonae

      I agree. I was in Toys R Us last week getting some gifts and there where kids in the store with their parents picking out their own gifts. I was so shocked. I don’t have kids so I’m out of the loop a little but it takes all the fun out of it to me. Some of my best Christmas memories are waking up and seeing Santa had came! And now I love to hear my parents tell stories about their misadventures and mishaps hiding gifts and waiting for me to finally go to sleep and put them out. My dad said one year he forgot to eat the cookies and milk I left for Santa so he ran into the room before I got there and stuffed them in his mouth. There’s a picture of me standing in front of the Christmas tree with my eyes bright with excitement in my little flannel Christmas nightgown and he’s standing behind me looking guilty with his cheeks stuffed and crumbs and milk on his mouth! I remember waking up numerous times throughout the night and running downstairs to see if Santa came. My mom said they’d be soooo tired because by the time I finally went to sleep, they would have to get up and put everything out including assembling things that needed put together and putting batteries in everything. And then as soon as their head hit the pillow, I come barreling into their room screaming, ” Wake up, come see what Santa brought me!!!” I’m still amazed how they could time it just right! Those are some of the best memories and really made my childhood a special time. I’m not knocking what anyone else does, but I’m grateful my parents did it that way.

    • Trisha_B

      I agree, my nephew is 9 & still believe in Santa. I love the innocents of it all. I’m seeing 9 yr olds on Instagram cursing under celeb pictures. Kids aren’t kids anymore. I will continue to tell my nephew about santa claus until i can’t fool him no more lol. What we always do, any gifts he get some will say from Santa & some w/ the names from the people who bought it for him so he knows to appreciate what people got him. This year when i asked him what he wanted, he told me not to worry about it, save my money b/c he’s just gonna ask Santa lmao

  • get real

    If anything teach them who the real “Santa Claus” is. Saint Nicholas was a black Moor from Rome. He was a generous religious figure. Black African Moors civilized Europe during the Dark Ages after the vandals destroyed Rome. But of course like they always do and have did they changed his image (like so many other black Moors from Europe)and purpose. There’s evn statues of this black man throughout Rome. Research Saint Nicholas the black Moor from Rome if you think I’m just whistling dixie.

    • plvsVLTRA

      You have it all wrong. you are referring to Black Peter which is popular in the Lower Countries such as Belgium and the former Spanish Netherlands who is the companion of SiinterKlaas.Also, Berbers and Arabs were called Moors during the Middle Ages and influenced Europe such as the Golden Age in Spain or al-Andalus which introduced Arabic literature, science, medicine, architecture philosophy and religion not sub-Saharan blacks! Yes, some blacks who were slaves or converts came to Europe with their masters but did not influence the continent in any major way.

      • get real

        Typical nonsense coming from white boys in regards to history. As a matter of fact it looks like u ran to google real quick and got your failed hostory lesson.Black Peter was a friend of Saint Nicholas and Saint Nich was a black African Moor. Egyptians were black. Why do whites like u continue this “Mooors were arabs ad Berbers”. That’s false and u know it. Everything was stolen from Egyptians. Math, religion, writing, the number system, the Alphabet etc. Arabs and Europeans came in later and robbed Africa blind. All of these African artifacts are sitting off in museums throughout Europe. U whites love to equate everything with Africans as slaves. U better pick up some books if u wanna debate me instead of youtubbing, googling and watching that fact omitting, lying nonsense on the history channel. You whites better get real

        • get real is an idiot

          u blacks better get real the world is not just black and white plus the Chines are the majority in the world and are also now taking resources from africa lol get real your an afrocentric idiot thats no better than the eruo centric idiots plvsvltra is right and for your information the persians invented math such as algebra, the chinse gunpowder etc..

        • Karen

          Why are you being prejudiced (“you whites/blacks”)? Fact: Africans had slaves and sold their own people as slaves. Israeli Jews also had slaves. I’m sure every nation has. Just be thankful it rarely exists anymore. The important thing is that Yeshua/Jesus does not discriminate our nationality.

    • Saint Nicholas was not a moor from Rome. He was Greek, born in a Greek village. Black or white, it really doesn’t matter. The story is the same, that after his parents died, he spent his inheritance helping the poor, needy & sick. That is what should inspire us, not the damn color of his skin.

  • niki

    Wow.. I just told my kids santa isn’t real for the fact it is parents working harder than ever to provide these gifts. Which really santa claus is a white males way of making more of jesus bday. Christmas has gotton so far its all about money now. What happened to kwanzaa for africans and african americans? I told them its not for you to ruin or tell others because their parents maynot be happy and they understood. Its not about people or kids trying to “spoil” others fun. Their simply trying to tell the truth. Why would you want your kid growing up believing its santa and then one year if you become homeless than what will you say when there are no gifts. No white man flying in a sleigh delivering presents to every boy and girl. Don’t you think homeless kids wonder why no santa brought them a gift? Live in reality please

    • dontdoit

      Your way is right for you only. Your reality is just that, your reality. Just don’t impose your ideas on others children. Like I stated before, presents and Christmas trees are not a central idea in the celebration of the birth of Christ and should be examined as to why it is done.

    • Santa Michael

      I think you need to study on who “Santa” really is. He is the Spirit of Christmas. St Nicholas was an Middle Eastern Bishop. In Non European white person. There are also many African Americans the take part in the Santa Traditions. Santa is not limited to White Males. My Mrs Claus is Latino. Merry Christmas

  • dontdoit

    For those who did not have Santa why even give the children presents during that time. Why go through the trouble of getting a tree, getting decorations and buying gifts on December 25? There is nothing in religion that you have to give gifts during that time. These activities are all related to Pagon holiday that have NOTHING to do with Christ.

    • MLS2698

      Yes, this is true. And that is why I don’t give/accept gifts. By tomorrow, you will get lots of negative remarks because people can’t seem to give up the desire to buy things and create cheer. When I was a child, my parents were just like VW’s, and by the time I had my son I decided upon not giving gifts, but instead, concentrate on the gifts we are given from Christ.

    • Kaori

      Not everyone who celebrates Christmas does so for religious reasons.

  • Candacey Doris

    I was not raised to believe that some man brought me the things my parents worked hard to buy us and i won’t teach my children that either. I do remember getting in trouble in grade school for telling kids he wasn’t real. I was surprised anyone thought he was, what man is going to break into houses to leave toys in the hood? That’s right, no one.

    • IllyPhilly


  • I have been saying the same thing for forever! I will not let my kids believe in any of those Fairy Tales not Santa, the Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, none of that. I never believed in Santa because I had no reason to for many reasons, we didn’t have a chimney, I saw the presents accumulate under the Christmas tree there was no presents magically appearing over night, my granddaddy took me and my cousins shopping for out presents so we knew what we were getting, and I caught my uncle pretending to be Santa because he has a scar over his eye and when I sat in his lap I saw it and called him out lol.

    But I also don’t want my kids to believe in Santa because I don’t want to have to go through the whole process of letting them know Santa isn’t real. Why go through the process of not only lying to them and having to keep that lie up only have to go through another process of telling them it was all a lie and have them question why I lied to them. There are many other things we would have to deal with as parents, telling them Santa isn’t real doesn’t really need to be one of them.

  • Nikki

    My dad always said, “I am Santa because I bought these gifts”. As I got older he would just ask what I wanted, what color I wanted, and what stores could he find it in.

  • dontdoit

    As a parent who along with my children love the magic of Santa make sure you make sure you and your children keep that bit of knowledge to yourself. I am fine with you believing in or not believing in anything you want to but it does not give you the right to ruin the magic for others. What is right for you is only right for you. Besides, there are many who believe that you are choosing to believe in a religious myth which is your right. I have seen several children try to ruin the magic of Santa for other children and honestly I believe they do out of spite.

    • Miss Anonymous

      Yeah let kids be kids and have their fun, they will have adulthood to have their worlds rocked. If we are all about the truth I dont tell my baby sister that the reason some kids dont have their dads around is because their parents were messing around unmarried and their dad was a whoremongerer.

      • niki

        Is that your reason why your dad isn’t around and your just trying to say that about all men who aren’t around? Stop it, my parents are still married but the father of my kids we just didn’t work but he has his kids every other week or he will keep them until I ask for them back. So don’t go there spreading lies to kids about men that’s bogus

        • Miss Anonymous

          hey Niki my reply is above yours, it wouldnt let me post back for some odd reason

      • Miss Anonymous

        @ nik Umm My dad is still around though, I have stated that many times on this site. I was jus saying that in reference to people always saying “well im not gonna lie to my kids and tell them the truth”. I want kids to be kdis and not have to “grow up” soo quickly. I actually had my cousin to do that to her half sibling her dad had when he stepped out on her mom. The boy was like 7 and she said his mom was all kids of names to him. SMH Its kinda funny now cause now she claim him as her blood.

      • A-man

        Why is this voted up so many times, the comparison is silly. There is a difference between leaving out specifics (telling your sister that some parents aren’t happy together, for example, vs mentioning cheating, abuse, etc, until she reaches a more appropriate age), and telling a blatant lie year after year for what, 10-12 yrs?

        • Miss Anonymous

          But both are lies though. Some people feel that leaving out specifics in history books (ie slavery) is all good, but it doesnt make it right. The above of what I said is true in some cases, its sad when kids say “my mama said my daddy aint ish”. So is everyone okay with my 40ish year old cousin telling her son that “her and his dad just dont get along” when the truth is she was messing with a married man who is still with his wife? He is asking why his dad isnt married to his mom and he is 11, so what should she say?

          • A-man

            Both are not lies. I’d assume most likely, if a married couple separate because one is cheating on the other, that they probably do not get along. So to say something that is accurate, but less specific (saving the specifics for a more appropriate time with regard to the child’s age/maturity level), I believe is the best way to go about it; rather than to feel one has to tell a lie to a child.

            Depending on the child, I think it’s perfectly fine to say something along the lines of, sometimes, unfortunately.. people change. (If the relationship of the father/child is still sound, of course make sure to mention that the mother and father have changed, but that doesn’t mean the father doesn’t love you still).

            • Miss Anonymous

              But thats the thing, they were never married. My cousin was sleeping with someone on my side of the family who is married and still married. The guy wanted to just screw her and she got pregnant. She only got some piece child support because his wife got mad at him and told the people he has kid by another woman.

              My little cousin is trying to figure out why his sister’s mom is married to his dad but not his mom. *yes my mom scolded her twice because she miscarried once and he didnt care and didnt care about their son while he was sick but now acts like he been there the whole while*

            • Janvier Li

              No, I’m with Miss Anonymous. You have to tread carefully with children. My grandmother told me some of the awful things that happened to her during the Holocaust. She barely had to go into specifics, but I had enough information to give me traumatizing nightmares from a young age. It still makes me cry just thinking about them. Some kids can handle more of the truth than others. Why risk making them upset when they’re younger? What good does it do?

      • Tiyer

        Wow, that had nothing to do with her topic. Also, everybody situation is different for single parenting. For an example, my friend dad died. Some people are upset with her but she does make a point. Why do you give somebody else credit? Why not God? We were raise to tell lies by being brain wash. I know one year my husband left me and took all of our money. I was the only one taking care of our child. During Christmas, I could not afford to buy my child a present. One night I prayed to God and ask him for help. God made it away to help my son to have a good Christmas. I could not thank Santa because I thank God. I had to tell my son this is because of God. A lot of people upset with her. I expect that because you are into the World belief.

        • Janvier Li

          Some of us were raised differently. God was never a huge part of my childhood. I turn to my imagination for comfort. It’s lovely that you turn to God but please don’t judge others who don’t.

    • Well I don’t think Veronica in particular is going to go around and spread Non-existence Santa propaganda, but as we do know kids talk. I was that child growing up and I didn’t tell kids that their was no Santa out of “spite” I just told them out of experience and if they asked me point blank if I believe there was a Santa I simply told them that to me he did not exist. In my house (and personally feel in a lot of black households) Santa was not the one who made Christmas happen. it was God who blessed my single mother to move mountains and make things happen on Christmas. It was about faith and blessing in my house not the Myth of Santa. The “magic” in my house was the blessing that I could enjoy another Christmas with my family and of course get a few toys too lol. My mother went out of her way to teach me that and I will be doing the same with my kids. Again how you do things in your house is how you run the show as a parent (and I respect that very much) is on you. This is just my humble opinion.

      • dontdoit

        Since everyone is about being honest with children I hope that when a child, no matter how young, asks where babies come from I hope those folks are just as honest when answering that question. Also, for those who don’t want to continue the myth of Santa I hope you all don’t put up a Christmas tree since that magical traditions is based on a pagon holiday. Also, let’s not forget not to participate in any Easter egg related activities, also based on a Pagon holiday celebrating female fertility of all things. Let’s make sure we are totally honest.

        • When I stated my above post about my “Santa” opinion I have no intention of “taking” away Christmas from my future children nor did my mother to me. I only said that in the midst all the holiday fun (which I enjoyed as a child) that my mother reminded me and taught me the real meaning of Christmas which is Christ. Kids can still enjoy the fruits of Christmas and other holidays as well as long as they are taught the true meaning of each one (whatever that true meaning is in the household they live in or what the parents choose) again this was just my humble opinion.

          • Gerri C

            Christ is not neither the real meaning of Christmas. But, we were taught to believe that. You should do some research.

            • Truth2Btold

              What does your “research” tell you about the real meaning of Christmas then??? Of course Christ is the reason for Christmas! When we celebrate Christmas we are celebrating the birth of God in human flesh to save and teach His creators . As for Santa, he is not completely false, He did exist his name was St. Nicholas, an orthodox saint,he was a bishop of a place named Myra.he did give gifts to poor children on Christmas Day. And we can still pray for him to bless our kids.

              • Kate

                “Christmas” is a Pagan holiday. It is a celebration of the winter solstice. Before Christians came around it was called Yule. In fact, the Bible specifically says not to bring a tree from outside and decorate it, because “worshipers of false gods” do that. I think in Jeremiah 10. It’s not known what time of the year Jesus was born. Early Christians just re-invented Yule in an effort to get rid of Pagan traditions. Same situation with Easter, or as the Pagans called it, Ostare.

      • Jack Knife

        Yeah, but was it god who got you that Easy Bake Oven? NO, it wasn’t, it was Ole St. Nick.

    • Joy Ward

      And what if kids on their own decide to tell other kids he’s not real? Not all parents have a part in what their kids do or say, and no parent should EVER get mad at another child or parent for telling your kid the truth. It’s up to you how to handle it. Saying everyone has different beliefs would be appropriate. The world isn’t going to shelter and cater to everyone’s Santa beliefs and it certainly doesn’t have to.

  • Kellz