“I Liked Him…Until I Got To Know Him”: Navigating The Confusing Stages Of A New Relationship
For the first few weeks, I felt that I had found Mr. Right. I was shocked, thrilled, excited, and unusually happy at the thought of him coming into my life. Our long conversations added a certain spice to my day; and our brief text messages usually left me anticipating the next phone call. He was everything I could have asked for….until I got to know him.
Once our new ‘situation’ started taking a turn for the worse, I immediately began to question what could have gone wrong. Then a little voice, called wisdom, whispered to me, “Nothing went wrong; you just met the real him, girl.”
See, a lot of times we puzzle our brains trying to figure out what went wrong in a relationship that was so blissful in the beginning. The both of you are saying the right things, doing the right things, and enjoying the moment. But after a while, there is something that’s called “the real you” or “the real him” that ultimately comes out and the laid back, easy to like version of folks fades into the background.
Every new relationship has moments and situations that ultimately decide if it will get past the honeymoon phase. I’ve had some relationships that have made it and many more that didn’t. Still, it’s all a part of dating.
Here are a few phases I think every new relationship experiences before (or if) it leads to commitment.