Why Her and Not Me?! 9 Reasons He Chose Her Over You

3. She’s More Secure

Unless he’s the type of man who preys on insecure women to control or manipulate, most men don’t find insecure women to make great life-long partners. Why? Because confidence is hot and insecurity is annoying. Who wants to be around that forever? Are you the type of woman who points out her flaws every chance she gets, just to get her man to say, “no baby, you’re not fat/ugly/crazy?” He tells you that you’re beautiful, only for you to say, “No I’m not, you’re just saying that.” After a while, he’s going to look at you and think, “You’re right, you’re not beautiful,”  because insecurity is ugly. True beauty comes from within and if you lack self esteem, you won’t be very attractive to him after a while. Instead, the more self deprecating you are, the more he’ll start to look elsewhere. By not saying, “thanks babe” every time he gives you a compliment, you are all but pushing him into the arms of another more confident woman who will appreciate his compliments rather than question them.