According to recent statistics from the Center for Disease Control (CDC), ‘More than 3 million women are, or have been wives or girlfriends of men who secretly have sex with other men.” The Family Pride Coalition has recently estimated through their studies that at least 20 percent of all gay men in America are in heterosexual marriages. These are pretty alarming statistics and are indicative of the many hypotheses that have been formulated on men “on the down low.” That is, men that engage in same-sex infidelity, while being in a heterosexual relationship- whether it’s marriage or courtship.
As reported in these research studies, many women who are in relationships with these “down-low” men typically are unaware that their partner is engaging in “brokeback” activity. And, sometimes, these respective women are the last to know and are harsh on themselves for not seeing the warning signs. In fairness, I think that it can be somewhat difficult to pick up on these signs, especially when you love and trust these men.
Although there are myriad studies on “down-low” behavior, most case analyses do not place emphasis on the warning indications. Thus, I think that it would prove beneficial and value-adding to discuss at least five ways you may be able to tell if your man could be possibly engaging in “brokeback activity,” without being intrusive. As a caveat, no human is perfect, so the presence of one of the following signs does not necessarily indicate that your man is engaging in this type of clandestine behavior. However, the more indications of these anomalies that you observe, it is very likely that you may be married to or courting a “down-low” man: