Merry Matchmaking: How To Use The Holidays To Meet A Man

December 7, 2012  |  
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It’s true the couples get extra couply around the holidays, and that makes you even more depressed about your marital status. But the single guys also come out in full force! You just need to know where to look for them. Here’s how to use the holidays to your advantage and meet a guy.


Hang out at the gym

The gym is packed with people trying to work off or keep off the holiday weight this time of year. Head to the gym and hop on a machine near a cute guy. Make a brief comment about all the ham and sweet potatoes you ate last night and how you have to work it off. He’ll think it’s cute that you’re worried about your figure, and he’ll like that you know how to eat! Plus, being overwhelmed by family meals is an easy topic for anyone to get into.


Take advantage of football season

Holiday season just so happens to also be football season meaning bars are swarming with men, even on weeknights or the daytime. Men will love a woman who can handle a loud, crowded sports bar and is at least willing to learn about football.


Don’t bring a plus one

When invited to yet another holiday party, don’t bring a girlfriend as a buffer. Doll yourself up and go solo. You’ll be more approachable, and guys appreciate a woman with the guts to go out on her own.


Go to church

Even if you don’t really “go to church,” around the holidays, plenty of non-church-goers attend the various bake sales, antique markets, Choir performances and other fun events that the local churches host. It’s a unique (read: sober) way to meet a guy!


Get a guy’s opinion

Gift shopping is the perfect opportunity to meet a guy. You have the ideal excuse to hang around the men’s department for an hour: you’re shopping for your dad/cousin/brother and don’t understand men’s fashion at all! Oh, look, there are a dozen attractive men here whose opinion you can ask for on what sweater to buy dad.

Take a break at the food court

It’s true that most men don’t like to spend the day at the mall. The only way some can get through it is by taking a break at the food court. And who doesn’t like to complain about their shopping woes, or brag about the deals they’ve found? Eat your snack next to a solo guy surrounded by shopping bags.

Host multiple holiday parties

You know your friends are holding out on you with the single guys they haven’t introduced you to. If you have the money and time, host multiple holiday parties, for your different groups of friends. Being the host means everyone talks to you at some point, and if you allow your guests to bring friends, there’s no knowing who might show up.


Get the online discounts

Many online dating sites offer discounts around the holidays because they know it’s a season when people particularly long for love. Make use of those!


Visit the prepared foods section

These poor single guys who don’t know how to cook are being invited to potlucks, mixers and all these events to which they’re expected to bring food. Uh oh! So where do they go? The prepared food section of Whole Foods or your local fancy market. Just swing by that section next time you’re doing your grocery shopping. You’ll see.



Go to a sporting goods store

You could probably think of plenty of things the men on your holiday list would enjoy from a sporting goods store. And you know what sporting good stores are filled with? Men! Active (read: fit) men. Men who would just love to show off their knowledge on fishing rods or boxing gloves to a cute, lost female.


Head to your local home improvement store

Even a single guy has a mother or sister who needs help putting up her Christmas lights. Home improvement store isles are buzzing with men around this time of year who would gladly help you pick out the right energy-efficient light bulbs, or the proper hammer to hang up those lights.



‘Tis the season of giving! Go serve at your local soup kitchen, volunteer a day at a local thrift shop, or work the phones at a telethon. Any guy you meet there is bound to be a thoughtful, giving person.


Eat at the bar

People are suffocated with social gatherings around the holidays. It gets exhausting being “on” every night at the company Christmas party, or your parent’s house, or a friend’s cocktail gathering. Go to a nice restaurant and you can bet that sitting right up at the bar with a book and a whiskey will be a guy just wanting to get away from it all for a night. But, the conversation of a stranger is always nice after you’ve been saturated with friends and family.



See if old flames are in town

If you’re visiting your parents in the town you grew up in, odds are so are some of the guys you went to high school with. Perhaps the ones you never had the courage to flirt with when you were 16. See who’s around. Put up a Facebook status simply stating that you’re back in town and watch the “Likes” and comments role in.

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